Thank you very much for your kind assistance.
I seem to have a huge amount of frustration and to make it worse I have terrible luck.
For example, I don't go to get food out at lunch because even the sight of seeing someone smoking while i drive past them (with windows closed and vents closed) I still get frustrated and have to shower when I get home.
When I shower, I even wash my ears, eyes and nostrils :(
If someone touches me that smokes (for example someone at work today that tapped my on my shoulder as they walked past who is a regular smoker) pretty much wrecks my next 2 days. After I wash myself I still don't feel clean. It will take me about 2 days to "recover" where I am comfortable.
Even though the person has only touched my shirt, my skin itself feels tainted like it is radiation.
In our new house I found some cigarette butts in the garden and get hugely upset. I use a separate piece of cardboard and some soil (as I feel like the butt has melted into the ground).
Every day I wake up, I leave off where I was the day before.
When I was saving for the new house, I had to sell nearly everything we owned because the neighbour to the right hand side of us were constantly smoking out the front of the property.
I decided to keep 1 item which was a computer that I build to bring to the new house. While I was selling the last of my things, there was someone standing out the front of the house with a lit cigarette. Suddenly in one moment and for the first time in my life, everything in the house and everything in the world related to Cigarettes has made me fear it obsessively. I was possibly the most stressed I have ever been in my life (buying a house, selling to save up for deposit) and that person was the cherry on the top. I literally felt like I had a mental breakdown. It mentally hurt more than when I broke my arm when I was a kid.
The only similar feeling I could relate to when being touched on my arm was when I was in school and I was bullied (or knew I would have to see a bully on my way to class). That same fear of having to go through something I didn't want.
The last physiologist I went to discussed through coping methods but to be honest it doesn't lower the intensity and impact. Everytime I see something smoking related (even on tv) it puts me back in the old house with the smoking neighbour and the guy out the front smoking on our property when we were our most stressed ever :(