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Forums / Anxiety / My extreme (?social?) anxiety related to getting a job is crippling me

Topic: My extreme (?social?) anxiety related to getting a job is crippling me

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  1. sk8ergrl
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    13 September 2021

    In May 2019, I attempted suicide for the first time. I lost my job and since then haven't moved back into the work force per usual. Sure, I was at maccas for a couple shifts but even though it was much easier than my first job, I was too scared to ask my manager for more shifts and just ended up leaving. I've applied for hundreds of jobs online, been to a handful of interviews and job trials - but the whole thing is so anxiety inducing that I don't know what to do.

    The problem is I feel like I complete and utter worthless failure for being unemployed, but every time I take the steps to get there, like prepare for an interview today - I feel so anxious like I'm going to throw up or someone's gonna kill me and my armpits get all sweaty, and my mouth gets so dry and my mind goes completely blank, How the heck am I supposed to be charming and employable with stomach problems so bad that I can't eat and the driest personality in the world, that probably makes think I probably hate them when in reality I'm just so anxious that I cant function properly.

    Side note 1: at my first job I got in trouble for my sweaty issue and it was the most embarrassing shameful thing in my entire life.

    Side note 2: I've also missed also social events because of my anxiety. like a couple months ago I travelled 2 hours to get to a class, arriving an hour early cause idk why, sat around by myself in a park for literally a whole hour, actually saw the venue and freaked out, then went all the way home again. A waste of money and time and a really dope opportunity to gain new skills.

    Its freaking exhausting, absolutely stupid (logically it makes no sense to my brain) and I don't want to be a worthless burden to my parents forever.

  2. Ggrand
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    13 September 2021 in reply to sk8ergrl

    Hello Dearsk8ergrl,

    A very warm and caring welcome to the forums..

    I am sorry your struggling hard with your anxiety..

    My anxiety was very similar to yours...I remember once I wanted to have a coffee at the local coffee shop...I parked across the road, sat their watching everyone buying their coffees, cakes etc and sitting on the outside chairs to drink them...It looked so easy for them and I found it too hard to even get out of my car..like you I turned around and went home...,

    sk8ergrl, , anxiety is hard to manage on your own..some people can... I am one of those people that couldn’t...I decided I had had enough and had a talk to my GP..who got me a mental health care plan...,I talked to and explained how my anxiety was taking over my life...and was given some meds, that has made a difference to me...Is talking to your GP. something you have thought about or will consider....

    Deep breathing is also a good way that can help when anxiety is overwhelming...There are some good apps for meditation and deep breathing exercises that are free to down and use...

    My kindest thoughts Dear sk8ergrl...Talk here anytime..you feel up to it..

    Grandy..

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  3. Petal22
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    13 September 2021 in reply to sk8ergrl

    Hi sk8ergrl,

    Wellcome to our forums!

    Sorry you are feeling this way.

    Im so sorry you tried to attempt suicide in 2019….. things must have felt very difficult for you.

    I understand anxiety can be really hard to deal with it’s terrifying at times……. I suffered with severe anxiety……. I’ve now recovered thanks to the professional help I received..

    I strongly encourage you to see your gp let you gp know how you are feeling and how it affects your life… you could do a mental health plan with……. This will enable you to see a psychologist……….

    When I was in the grips of anxiety I seeked help from my gp they were very understanding….. my gp also put me on a antidepressant to help me to manage my anxiety….. your not alone…

    You really can learn to manage your anxiety….. with the correct help.

    im here to chat

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  4. sk8ergrl
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    13 September 2021 in reply to Petal22

    Thank You Petal22 for reaching out to me.
    it is encouraging to hear that you have manage to get through it. I speak to my GP about this on a regular basis and I already have a psychologist who I also see regularly.

    I am on antidepressants for my depression and for the most part they are helpful with managing suicidal feelings and panic attacks however when things get really unbearable these feelings can still tend to come up even on a bunch of medications.
    maybe it is not working for me properly or I need to try another method because things can get really hard to the point where I don’t know what to do about it and I can’t trust anybody to talk about it.

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  5. sk8ergrl
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    13 September 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy thanks for taking the time to respond to my post I really appreciate it. I talk to my GP about everything I’m experiencing a lot but even then sometimes it gets too overwhelming

    I often do deep breathing.

  6. Petal22
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    13 September 2021 in reply to sk8ergrl

    that’s ok sk8ergrl,

    I understand anxiety can be very overwhelming your not alone…..

    Has your psychologist been able to give you any helpful strategies? It sometimes takes practice to learn the skills…….. it took me a lot of practice and perseverance….

    Have you ever tried meditation?

    Im glad that you see a gp and phycologist……

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