Welcome to the forums.
Unfortunately, yes - I know exactly what you mean. For me, work has been EVERYTHING. Anything else was a lot further down the list.
I'm really glad you've posted this because I think, in this day and age, we can become conditioned to believe that being successful in your career is everything – get a promotion, earn more money, take on more responsibly, work longer hours…. Wear your productivity as a sign of being a successful human being; juggle as much as you can to prove that you are worthy.
I did that for so long and, at the beginning of this year, I burnout. It started as small things - less sleeping, working excessively, taking on too much, trying to fix everything, trying to be everything to everyone.... Then before I knew it, the anxiety took over and I was overcompensating at work and working 16+ hours a day because all of a sudden I was afraid I was a failure if I didn't get everything done on my list. I could complete 99 tasks on my list, but the 1 thing I didn't do made me feel like I was an utter failure. It was awful.
I ended up burning out so much, that I ended up in hospital as my brain simply turned off. I couldn't read or write anymore. It's been a long journey this year, and I haven't worked since Feb, but it's allowed me to stop and work through why I have these patterns of overachieving at work, and why it's so closely tied to my self worth.
So, as someone who has definitely been where you are, I am asking you to click on the below link and read the Perfectionism workbook. I read it and I went "crap - this is exactly what I do". It's got some really good tools to question your thinking: https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Perfectionism
There is also an amazing book called Perfectly Hidden Depression by Margaret Robinson Rutherford. I opened to page one and it was so difficult to read, because it was like reading my autobiography.... Unrelenting standards, unable to practice self-compassion, judging your self-worth against achievements and successes, having little time for anything else outside of work, putting others' needs before yours.
It's an uncomfortable read - but it'll definitely answer some of the things you are talking about.
Happy to chat more.