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Topic: SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING ANXIETY

  1. sparrowhawk
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    16 October 2019 in reply to ks1993
    I get a lot of anxiety when I am asked to do something in public - especially sing or read. The thing is, I have already done these things many times and I KNOW I can do them, and I know that I will be helping others by doing them. I just get terrified and tell myself I can't do it and I'll make a mistake. I have been using some mindfulness techniques to help, some deep breathing and trying to be prepared so that I can have the best chance of getting it right.
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  2. Jasmine00
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    2 November 2019 in reply to Dodge2000

    Thanks for the advice. I have tried a few counsellers and they have either been very unhelpful or disinterested. So I am very hesitant to see another counsellor. My anxiety and depression impacts myself - and as a band aid fix, I work long hours, and study as well taking on more than I can but always manage to get through. I don’t think this is good for the brain . Previous trauma experiences ( such as being part of the mean girl pack, where my reputation was tarnished forcing me to relocate and move out of the department ) and horrible strict upbringing has impacted me as an adult. My partner is the best thing that has happened And it has provided me some stability in my life my relationships with other people are non existent. I am weary if everyone which deters me from connecting with people , particularly given my mean girl experience. These are just a few thoughts I would share.

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  3. Craig F
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    5 November 2019 in reply to Jasmine00
    Yoga is great to calm the nerves also Tai Chi jasmine tea helps calm the muscles helps with sleep keep thinking positive I know how hard it is I have had anxiety for most of my life keep your head up stay strong have you tried electro therapy a lot of research has been done on this method
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    6 November 2019 in reply to Craig F

    Hi Craig Jasmine welcome to bb and readers too ☺

    Thanks everyone the contributions here are I'm sure helpful for many.

    There are various techniques for coping with anxiety as seen in previous posts.

    I think but don't know for sure anxiety is depression and stress finding an out.

    It seems to feed on fear and convince us of failure and doom.

    It's said which I believe through mind control anxiety and depression for the most can be controlled.

    Agreed Craig keeping positive thoughts flowing is a big help it tends to open our minds and give us peace where anxiety/depression close and tense us.

    Breathing nice and deeps a major we need the oxygen around our bodies and brain to fully function.

    If we believe we can do something we give ourselves a much stronger head start.

    Best to all ⚘😊

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  5. Noddy21
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    21 November 2019 in reply to Looking forward to managing this better
    What happens when your anxiety and depression are debilitating and you can’t manage your normal day to day things like work?
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    23 November 2019 in reply to Noddy21

    Hi and welcome to bb Noddy ☺ hi everyone too ☺

    It's sad hearing of people suffering so much with anxiety. It sure can tie us in knots.

    I don't know if you're up to reading through this thread Noddy there might be something you find helpful.

    Depression and anxiety are said in majority of cases to be able to be controlled which is good news.

    Imo I think it's a good idea to see your Dr you poor person it's so hard isnt it. Maybe you could write down what you go through to get everything across.

    I really do feel for you and wish you the best. It really doesnt feel like it I know but we do have the strength in us needed to get through this and theres a lot of helpful knowledge out there and ways to cope which can be taught and practised.

    Take care Noddy you've come to a really good place here.

    🌴

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  7. hopeful!
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    15 December 2019 in reply to Dodge2000
    I have found exercise helpful. I'm starting off with walking, but working up to playing basketball to burn off some of that anxiety. Sometimes the anxiety gets overwhelming, but when I push myself to exercise, I always feel better. I'm trying a few meditation apps and breathing exercises as well.
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    16 December 2019 in reply to hopeful!

    Welcome to bb Hopeful! Hi everyone ☺

    Thanks for your input Hopeful.

    Yes I find too exercise is mammoth helping with mh (mental health).

    My stress was mega with the loss of my love, BP (bipolar and other mh on top). Walking hills I think kept my sanity...just. The hard breathing is a great release. Also exercise releases feel good endorphines makes it worth the effort too. Kinda like desert after a workout 😂 gimme da sugarrrr

    Breathings a major not only to help with relaxation. Our bodies tense with pain which makes us shallow breathe.

    We survive and function on oxygen makes sense to get as much as possible circulating.

    Guided meditations a great idea. If there's any particular ones you like its ok to name them if you feel like

    Sometimes I self meditate without guidance too, being aware of breathing reasonably deep and slow. Thinking of a place I'd like to be like in the water or watching it comfy in a chair or looking at stars etc.

    Take care everyone and remember nice deep breaths.

    Caio ⚘

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  9. Butterfly.Wings.of.Hope
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    18 March 2020 in reply to AGrace

    This is another suggestion that I practice, that was not mentioned on the original post.

    Keep a Positivity Journal where you write down anything good that happens, any victories, successes that you can write down so that when you are down or anxious, you can look back at the positives. This is great for pulling me out of anxiety or out of a down mood.

    I especially benefit from reading positive poems I write when I'm in a good headspace. Poetry is magic for my mental health especially when I remember the good place I was in when I first wrote the poem.

    I'll leave you with a poem from my journal, and I hope it is helpful for anyone who comes across this post.

    GROWTH INTO RECOVERY
    I WILL recover
    Through all the suffering
    I will learn the things
    God wanted me to learn

    Why am I here?
    It isn't clear
    But creativity can mean escape

    I WILL recover
    Through all the suffering
    I WILL learn to grow and I WILL leave this place

    ~ Butterfly.

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  10. Blufftuff
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    19 March 2020 in reply to Butterfly.Wings.of.Hope

    Thanks for sharing yes poetry sounds like n awesome way to help with anxiety.

    There are many things people can do to help beat anxiety, some paint, some walk, some socialise.

    The list is endless.

    What I discovered was to be aware of own well being and this made all the difference for me

    it was like a challenge, it gave me something to focus on which was positive thus reducing anxiety.

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  11. Missing user
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    19 March 2020

    Just wanted to say thank you for this thread, I'll have to take some time to read all of the comments.

    Does anyone have any self help tips for depression, PTSD and social anxiety, or even meds (antidepressants)? It's fine if not, I've been looking at stuff.

    Thanks again everyone for this thread.

    Take care all.

    Tayla

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  12. Blufftuff
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    22 March 2020 in reply to Missing user

    Having suffered epilepsy I have been on some powerful drugs.

    I recommend you see a professional and explain as often they can help with this, it would unwise for us to give advice.

    With depression, It started with a small thought and they became more and more frequent, eventually I believed all these thoughts, one day I realised they were lies and I started to not believe them and focused on other positive things going on in my life.

    self isolation was a problem for me and I had to force myself to get out of the house and I would walk to cafe and sit there own my own drinking coffee watching people around me, this is what brought me out of isolation

    Trust this helps

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  13. Missing user
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    22 March 2020 in reply to Blufftuff

    I already have a professional, a GP and a Psychiatrist, Blufftuff.

    Tayla

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  14. Liam1
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    23 March 2020 in reply to Missing user
    • hi Tayla
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    23 March 2020 in reply to Blufftuff

    Hey Blufftuff

    always great to see you on the forums and thankyou for the helpful support you have provided to Tayla too!

    my kind thoughts

    Paul

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  16. Blufftuff
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    23 March 2020 in reply to blondguy
    Thanks Paul for your kind words and support
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  17. Blufftuff
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    23 March 2020

    managing Anxiety is a very complex issue, but very relevant for today as we see the number of people suffering some form of anxiety growing everyday at an alarming rate.

    here are some tips that helped me through my struggle with this.

    I came to point where I just knew I had to do something to break this viscous cycle.

    I decided to go for a walk daily as this got me out of the house and gave me something to look forward to.

    Going for a walk along the beach or a walk through the park was soothing as well.

    Even though I was on my own I forced myself to go to local cafe, even though I was on own it was busy and I felt like I was mixing with the people there.

    Over time I was relating to cafe owner which was great, I also visited a retiree across the road everyday and he would make a coffee, not only was he helping me I was helping him as he did not get many visitors.

    With all this starting to happen, my focus on life was changing and I was too busy to focus on my anxiety as I was now focusing the positive things I had going on, no matter how small they were.

    Hope this helps someone today.

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  18. Missing user
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    23 March 2020 in reply to Liam1
    Hi Liam1
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  19. Mariasharapovafan1
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    25 March 2020 in reply to Blufftuff
    Thanks, I was a bit anxious now with the social distancing in place. Now that I can't get to see any friends I now have things that I can do at home since we are in a difficult time. I feel so much better having to adjust to new routines and I feel my good old days are now over, but I heard that safety is the number 1 priority and it's better safe than sorry. I can now have the time to relax and still go for walks. I'm now able to lift my mood by doing these things. I feel I'm now in a better place.
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  20. Blufftuff
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    31 March 2020 in reply to Mariasharapovafan1

    yes we are definitely in a different world to what we are used to

    sounds really exciting you are able to adapt and still be positive and look on the bright side of life

    keep it up as it will be an inspiration to others.

    well done

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  21. Annas1
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    3 April 2020 in reply to Blufftuff

    Hi Blufftuff, (love the name btw),

    I can identify with your post in several ways - anxiety is complex (as depression is too). It is taking me years to put the learning and experience together to know how to care for myself and reach out when I'm struggling.

    Being 'social' when feeling the effects of anxiety is a challenge, but I too like to feel in amongst it but at the same time unaccountable/anonymous by visiting a cafe or shop. I enjoy the impromptu exchanges and it reinforces my place in this wide world.

    Thanks for your contribution,

    Annas1

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  22. Blufftuff
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    13 April 2020 in reply to Annas1

    Hi There,

    Hope you had a Great Easter,

    Totally agree anxiety and depression are very complex issues and the experience is different for everyone.

    It is great to hear that over time you realised you need to look after well being and of reach out to someone when in time of need.

    Coming out of depression I would force myself to visit a cafe everyday and buy a coffee and even though I was on own, I felt part of the small community of people there having coffees.

    having a bright outgoing personality this would sometimes frustrate me, but it was the start of my recovery,

    Now I am able to interact with people again and have gained my confidence back, I feel like a new person and this exciting.

    One thing I have learnt is that everything we endure happens for a reason,

    I wish you all the best.

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  23. Ace1988
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    17 April 2020

    Hi all,

    a quick question...

    im quite good now at getting on top of the first signs of anxiety (sinking feeling, racing heart and upset stomach) I can read those signs and breath through it, but does anyone have a way to stop the lingering feeling, or the anxiety hangover? I’m proud of myself that I can distinguish between anxiety and something else but the “left over” feelings are exhausting.
    I hope that made sense, I typed it as I though it.

    thanks,

    Stace

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  24. Buud
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    21 April 2020 in reply to Cotton
    Thank you very much for sharing. After reading your post, I feel much relieved and feeling at ease.
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  25. Blufftuff
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    10 May 2020 in reply to Ace1988

    Hi Ace 1998

    It is great you are able to distinguish between anxiety and something else.

    As for the hangover feeling, have you considered something like taking a long walk through a local park, or even joining a gym????

    These are just a couple of suggestions you may find something else you prefer.

    take care now.

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    10 May 2020 in reply to Butterfly.Wings.of.Hope

    Hi everyone and welcome new members here too ☺ good to see you and everyone thanks for your input which is valuable and potentially could help many.

    Butterfly.wings.of.hope hi darl just wanted to thank you for that positive poem it's good ☺

    I believe and it's said by professionals we can get on top of depression and anxiety.

    Internal works needed and although it doesn't seem like these feelings of pain and despair will ever change, if we believe which we can get through it helps clear the way and makes it a bit easier.

    Our strength comes in many forms. I believe we're all capable of learning which we need to understand how to build and free our strength that gets buried in darkness.

    Imo we're all capable of learning

    Take care everyone and remember to keep breathing nice and deeply. Feel yourself relaxing.

    Self talk can be very helpful telling yourself you can and will get through.

    🌹

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  27. Blufftuff
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    31 May 2020 in reply to demonblaster

    Love what you said so encouraging and inspiring

    I must be a slow learner but over the years I have learnt to teach myself to be aware of the early signs of me getting anxious and to focus on something really positive or go for a walk so as to prevent me getting to the stage of real anxiety which as we know can be very overwhelming

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    31 May 2020 in reply to Blufftuff

    Hi everyone ☺

    Thanks Blufftuff nice to hear ☺

    It's scary isn't it when anxiety gets a grip on us.

    Good on you. Definately easier to control if we can catch it earlier than later but still can be dealt with.

    As well as ? other causes our thoughts and reactions to them are what get us in a bind.

    I think when we become aware of our thinking although so fast we can then step in and interrupt the negative spiral in the reactions.

    They say about the thoughts they need to be heard.

    So our jobs to learn how to react to them.

    Gaining control. Our minds are very powerful.

    We're capable I believe that 🌱

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    31 May 2020 in reply to demonblaster

    Hi Demonblaster,

    I totally agree with your comment "Gaining control. Our minds are very powerful."

    I've done with the book A Course in Miracles.

    Go on youtube and search a into video on it. Its been a life changer for me.

    Have a great Sunday night.

    Regards,

    Doz

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    1 June 2020 in reply to CalmCat

    Hi Doz and everyone ☺

    Thanks I'll try and squiz today.

    Our minds I believe and think it could be fact are capable of so much more than we know

    None of its easy or is to live in pain but there's definately hope.

    The followings about depression/anxiety.

    Yesterday during a particularly hard patch. I became aware of why I was being dragged down into the Black abyss.

    I've know for a while but not been able to practice it much

    I was starting to go into a severe depressive episode. Was in a mood drop and a full anxiety attack was brewing.

    I realused during it all I was reinforcing the negative painful emotional responses by continuing to allow thoughts on whatever it was I was thinking.

    As soon as I became aware I stopped thinking in the negative and how it made me feel and tried to think of a positive which I don't think I managed.

    Just the shifted focus was enough to pull out and later find positives.

    Definately want to learn control over emotional reactions. I believe it's the main key to coping and overcoming

    ☺ hope everyone has good days or at least finds some light in them.

    🌴

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