Hi mmMekitty,

Thanks for letting us know how you’ve been going on the forums. We’re sorry to hear you’re sometimes feeling overwhelmed or concerned about other community members. We can hear you’re a caring person,

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Sophie M

Dear mmMekitty~

I'm very pleased. You have put your finger (paw?) on the trouble and it is very common, reasonable, to be expected and takes practice to overcome. By limiting who you interact with you have taken an excellent step some simply cannot do. The longer one is here the easier I believe it is to still have empathy but not be overwhelmed.

Yes of course the Forum is full of angst, and the point of being here is to receive and hopefully give hope and ease people with one's own experiences - in a way that benefits you to, not causes you distress..Nobody is here to 'fix' other's circumstances or issues, it is not our aim. Just caring and listening and occasionally giving suggestions from your own life where appropriate is what we are here for.

The whole thing is a team, and nobody needs to bear a load by themselves, or do more than they are COMFORTABLE with.

Some people do not answer particular posts which contain things that are personally distressing, others answer a person once and then go on to another poster, not building up a relationship. Some people have a set limit of responses per session as I do, and some walk away for regular breaks, which I do too.

If you look at the modest expectations of Community Champs you will see that you have been doing far more that even a Champ is required to do - all on your own

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-involved/join-our-online-community/become-an-online-community-champion

So basically you have tried to hard too long and need to moderate your expectations of yourself. You are not alone, countless others are here to share the load. You also have neither failed nor let anyone down. you never have, and I believe are incapable of, doing harm.

Sophie_M talked sense, and I'm certain you can modify your actions, which will in turn modify your feeling overwhelmed, frustrated and guilty - and then you can BE HAPPY in your presence here.

No, you are not allowed to be happy by poking fun at walruses!

Croix

hi croix, just popping in on your thread since you sent me the link to it recently.

Aw, but, walruses are so much fun to poke at...just making little dimpls makes me giggle!

Hello Robthomaslover, me here, polishing up Croix's tusks. What colour polish do you think I should use? I like those iridescent colours What about iridescent butterflies on a dark blue background? 😺

mmMekitty

Dear robthomaslover~

Delighted to see you here. I think the 1980 Yes (Prime) Minister series is about the height of British comedy (and unnervingly similar to modern politicians :)

I have not had a chance to see the new 2013 version, have you seen both? If so do you have a favorite?

Croix

Dear LRK~

You are a troublemaker, just because I enjoyed myself in the 60's does not mean I want psychedelic tusks!

Come to think of it a few cans of the animal dye they use on chooks might come in handy on an unwary puddy-tat.

C

If you can spray or splash some more colour on me, go for it!

But if I get my paws into it, there will be some frozen paw prints all over your iceberg, & you, as I dash by.

💨🐾🐾zoom! 🎶 💨🐾🐾zoom! 🎶 💨🐾🐾zoom!

mmMekitty 🎶😺

You are like 孫悟空, Son Gokū in Monkey Magic, "irrepressible" 🌟

C

Hey Croixy man and everyone 👋 just a quicky to Kitty hi hun I must say I'm liking the polishing and psychedelic tusks 😅 Should work out well for the party I'm quietly planning for when Mr Walrus is asleep so then we won't bother him.

Grandys been practising her cracking...icebergs that is, opera and the drum solos are just amazing after we put that decibel amplifier inside them & notched up the sound to higher than a jet plane which reminds me must get the runway joined together to land our party goers.

So the Grandeebis will be ready. Cool just heard everyone sigh with relief.

I've gathered a few streamers and baubles to hang of his tusks so thinking I'll keep the colours more neutral so they don't clash with your artwork.

Hey Croixy man ☺ hoping you're healths coming back to reasonable at least. I do wonder how you're going and about your MH too. You only talk in smatterings which of course is entirely your choice but know we too are here for you if need be.

Sounds like you have a good stack of older DVDs. I always got a buzz from Bewitched Mary Tyler Moore show I think it was and have the most beautiful memories of watching the Dick Van Dyke show with Mum and us laughing so much. What a funny man. He's in a show with Scott Baio (sp) from Happy Days. Seems to be long running too. Medical hospital show. Brain fog.

It's been an easier summer here this yr with of course the hotties oh wait we're not talking about me at the moment. Yeah so good having a break from the heats a bonus

Hope in your days there are plenty of good times everyone.

Croixy go easy Mr. Oh and don't worry about the noise ... I fixed up some very good earplugs made of Iceblocks and Sardines so when they melt you can have your lunch. I know I know I'm thoughtful it's just how I am.

👋

Dear DB

My MH is OK, which is just as well with you infamous lot plotting to run my peace -and color my tusk which are and will remain a dignified ivory color.

and I'll say it again NO PARTIES ON MY ICEBERG !!!

My physical health is up and down, and so I don't say much about it - I manage.

The idea of edible earplugs shows great ingenuity, but I suspect is doomed to failure -who wants ot eat earplugs after all. It does however remind me of the Babel Fish in Hitch Hikers Guide to the Galaxy.

If you catch sardines, just give them to me straight off -would make a nice change from clams. Bear in mind walruses can be bribed :)

I do indeed have a large collection of DVDs. While streaming is OK there is no guarantee the thing you wanted to re-watch in 5 years time will be available. I've a couple of Bewitched, MTM, Dick v D and more plus most of the other mainstays of the era. My favorite is either Monty Python or Yes Minister.

I think the show you could not remeber is "Diagnosis Murder" - does that sound about right?

I'll leave you to be 'thoughtful' :)

Croix

😺Since Croix insists 'no parties', am I to assume that means no politics? Or, perhps I am changing my lifestyle to 'party animal', so I can honestly say I am not having a party, I AM A Party Animal!?

Hmm, sardine earplugs - extra spicy after wearing them until they are thawed, wouldn't they be?

*

Was it, Marcus Welby MD?

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I meant to mention, my hearing is also just shy of mono. tinnitus & minimal hearing in my right ear, & the sound of an identical tone will seem at least a semitone higher in my right ear. when I can hear it.... it was awful at first, but now I guess I'm getting used to it, because it's not so bad now. Orchestra is still difficult, simply knowing I can't hear as if in stereo or as they are positioned on a stage bothers me. My singing voice was going before the hearing went. I've been trying to sing in a lower register, but it does not compensate for the range I lost. Now I want to be content to make a noise.

So, watch out if I ever lose my anxiety about consciously using a microphone! You might welcome the sardines into your ears after all!

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Hehe, DB, what about the whiskers on the Walrus? Curled or beaded? Put enough product on them, we can do both?!

Happy music to all!😺

mmMekitty

Dear All~

I will be off-line for a couple of weeks. This is nothing to worry about, just my normal habit of having a rest several times a year.

I look forward to seeing you all again then (and expect my iceberg to be in apple-pie order, all swept out, no piles of bottles or cans left behind, and no inebriated kiwis snoozing in corners)

Take care

Croix

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha .....

Hi Dear Croix...

Don’t worry about your iceberg, I will take very good care of it...😁...I will even camp out under the stars with a big bon fire 🔥 for our cracker night....I’ll open your freezer so your ice berg won’t melt.....😂😂..

Take good care of you, Dear Mr Croix...💕🕊🌱.

Grandy..

Hi Grandy,

You wouldn't mind letting me have some fun, would you???

I promise to keep some marshmallows for the camp fire.😸

The more the better mmMeKitty,......Hmmm if we all just 🙈🙉🙊..Then no one will ever know....after all it’s not a party....It’s more of a 2 week camp out with fireworks 🧨...Friends and music 🎵🎼🎻..

😂🤣😂- Cool being the operative word.

Yip I'll let the annebriated kiwis know.

neaties we can hop on the Jumping Jacks and go from berg to berg oh and on the rockets too...weeeee....splash...might do some snow boarding classes 🏂and brush up on my berg skiing ⛷

Croixy enjoy your break Mr. Glad you're not unwell...hand to mouth muttering he would be if he saw what we're gunna be doing...🙄 that's an ever so cute harmless ...who me in this instance...emoji

Laters Mr take good care rest up well ☺

I wonder, what if I stick all the pink marshmallows all over the interior of Croix's

bedroom? Cool too, eh DB? 'Cause Croix could get to sleep with the pretty soundproofing/munchies all around.

I will also inject some nice food colouring into the icy walls of the other rooms..

& how about an igloo building competition over there on that flat bit?

It'll be like a Disneyland Antarctic when we are done! 😹

mmMekitty

hi all.

Croix, sorry i didn't reply to your original comment about Yes (Prime) Minister. i've been watching it on Fox Classics on the weekend when it's been on, on Saturday & Sunday nights. i have the box set & i've seen every episode of Yes Minister & Yes Prime Minister but yeah.

do you like any other British sitcoms/TV/movies?

Hi Robthomaslover,

Sorry, Croix is not on his ice berg right now, but I'm glad you left a message for him. I'm sure he'll get back to you as soon as he can.

(If you read back to his post of March 1 2022, on this page, he explains.(

Meanwhile, you are welcome to join the shenanigans while he is away.

Tonight, we gotta party for Grandy's Birthday 🎇- surely he won't mind that?!😺

What music would you like? We have whatever your imagination can supply/. Me, I could handle some big band swing or South American Salsa, something to get the feet tapping.

🎂I have more cake!

🎶more "Happy Birthday" singing!

🎆& fireworks.

mmMekity

oh i didn't see that, thanks. hopefully Croix is ok. i took a bit of a break too, i just came to reply because i felt bad for not responding. i just like rock & metal music.

We are so different! But you'll fit right in with the band - here on Croix's iceberg. I have a spare 🎸&🎤(which packs a wallop, despite its portable size(. You just go on & play your heart out, at least until folks are dropping off to sleep, which is when my smooth blend of jazz & classic & some old-time melodies play until dawn, when you can crank it up again - loud as you like, while Croix isn't here to stop us!!!😺

He's fine, really. When you notice his old walrus avatar has returned, you will know he's back. (That's when the band must pack up, & its members behave like good little school kids, lol. Or, like Bart Simpson, say, "I didn't do it". )

mmMekitty

Lol loven it

I've started a post and it'll even land here eventually but you know how it is with tides and all it's down to when the sardines 🐳 can deliver. Snail 🐌 mail for land ...fish 🦀 mail for water.

Hymm 🤔 could always set up a Pelican 🦅 drop I spose

Oh what joy playing with emojis while the mans not here te he...runs off with evil laugh nyahaha...oops 💦missed that ice berg landing 😲

Oh, thank you, BD. 😺I love the 🦀mail! But I fear 🦅mail will be very expensive & may not exactly as efficient as the crow flies. The 🦅flies so high, then swoops so low, for breakfast, lunch & dinner, so, that is not exactly a straight line. I don't expect 🦀mail to be efficient at all, not travelling sideways along bumpy seafloor, but the mail will be in a sealed compartment. 😸 Need something a bit larger for 📦🎁, maybe 🐋mail? (hdhe, that works for me!)

💦Didn't know I had these 'sweat droplets' (as my text-to-speech reader tells me,. Here I was thinking the moisture in this humid air was growing bigger droplets making me feel I have a need for another shower! But why are they drifting sideways? Can anyone explain that? & who keeps adding blue food colouring to anything (for example: 🚰, 🌊, 💧, ☔, 😹) remotely h2o?

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

⛸💨😺mmMekitty

Perhaps it's the wind? (nothing compared to the current floods, but a few months ago a huge wall of water came crashing down in my suburb, and seeing it spraying sideways like a firehose was pretty extraordinary). And water does actually have a slight natural blue tinge, but yeah I don't think it's THAT visible XD.

PS there really should be a walrus emoji, I bet that's what Croix is lobbying for right now :P

Hi Doberman38,

I do wish there were many more emojis I could use on my PC, which does not have so many as are on my phone, but still, no walrus, & not nearly enough cat, dog &other critter emojis, not enough food for this kitty, not enough fun playful kinds of emojis, no way to change the colours either, to suit whatever I want... There is no puddle, pond, lake, river, lagoon, bay or ocean of any colour! Lucky I found this 🐐... I might need it later. 😺See, this cat doesn't really look like me?

& does this 🐶, or this🐕, or this🐕‍🦺, or this 🐩llook anything like you?

I even want to turn them around to face the other way!

I'd write🖊 entire posts📯 using emojis if I thought there 🔎🧭(somewhere) were emojis that would do the (🚾? & even this is blue!) job. 😹

(Just doing my share of using emojis!

mmMekitty

hope to see you back soon Croix, perhaps we can chat about Y(P)M or something when you return.

That did give me a good chuckle😂 You're right, they look nothing us at all (especially the poodle *shudders* XD). Oh my, I never did notice the lack of bodies of water🙀 Not even an iceberg for Ol' Croix!

Who knew emojis could be such a fraught issue? 😅

Hey everyone! Look what day it is. Croix will be back soon ... We gotta get this place cleaned up, 🧹eh? We don't have a lot of time... I hope the only chage he notices it that the ice berg is floating a little higher in the water, cuz of all the extra bottles we've added below.😹🍾🍼(no, really, no babies were subjected to our mayhem - I had to get my daily milk supplied to me somehow. The 🐄refused to come.)

mmMekitty

Uh oh I haven't finished my post so best get that done and sent to Walrus parteee house- Sardine lane- Iceville.

Oh no... I jackhammered.. very quietly of course so as not to wake the neighbours 🐳🐋🐟🐠🦂🦐🦀🐚🐙🦈🦋 ...a hole in the middle of Mr Croixys berg for the Chocolate fondue fountain. 🤔hymm seemed a tad watery though. Walks away head down...face like she's had no choccy 🍫 today 🤤-😔😭 with a single tear immediately turning into and icicle. Guess I'll have to cement the hole...think he'll notice 🤓

I got our good friend Elle Elephant 🐘 to vacuum...that trunks quite handy..umm we might need to superglue all those cracks and don't worry about that breakaway piece of ice berg one of Croixys 🦋 gorgeous butterflys gave me a lift...they say it's wings will straighten up soon enough so all good

Twaz fun peeps 😄😂🤣😉😆😃