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Topic: Feel like chatting? Bored and a little blue.

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  1. Jon4eva
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    7 October 2016
    Hey.
  2. Jon4eva
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    7 October 2016 in reply to Jon4eva
    Well, I guess I've coped well with depression by trying to keep my mind occupied with stuff... but for the last two days, been feeling very sad for no real reason...that I can think of anyway... also my sleep's been mildly disturbed... thought I'd reach out before it got worse. AnywY, if I don't reply, it's cos I've passed out I'm so tired... but I'll check in from time to time to see if anyway wants to reach out...
  3. geoff
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    7 October 2016 in reply to Jon4eva
    hi Jon, welcome to the site and thanks for posting your comment.
    With depression it is good if you can occupy your time doing something that interests you, but it doesn't help you know why you are feeling this way.
    You could be going along doing what you want, but there is a reason why you feel depressed and nothing will improve until you seek help, firstly by seeing your doctor, because if you don't attend to this then your condition will only become worse, I certainly hope not.
    I hope that you can get back to us. Geoff.
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  4. Kazzl
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    7 October 2016 in reply to Jon4eva

    Hiya Jon4eva, welcome to the forum. I hope you do check back in, it would be good to get to know you.

    How are you feeling now?

    Kaz

  5. Jon4eva
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    7 October 2016 in reply to geoff

    Thanks Geoff, I usually do fill in my time and most of the time I do have my depression under control. For the last few days I just felt so down like I lost someone close to me. Hasn't hit me like that since I broke up with the ex wife a decade ago. Hit so hard I thought I'd reach out to others who are maybe feeling the same and maybe connecting. It's morning and I feel a little better, but I'll come back to bb and see how it goes.

  6. Jon4eva
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    7 October 2016 in reply to Kazzl
    Hey Kazzl, a little better knowing I'm being heard. Thanks :)
  7. Kazzl
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    7 October 2016 in reply to Jon4eva

    Good to hear it Jon 👍

    How do you keep your mind busy - any interests, hobbies, music, pets etc? We chat about all sorts of things here so feel free to say whatever you'd like to talk about.

    You mentioned the depression has hit hard this time for no obvious reason. That's not unusual mate, sometimes we just don't know what's triggering it. Are you having any treatment - medication, psych etc? It would be worth checking in with your doctor if you're feeling things have changed substantially.

    Keep talking to us Jon, you're amongst friends and fellow-travellers here.

    Cheers

    Kaz

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  8. Jon4eva
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    7 October 2016 in reply to Kazzl

    Hey Kaz, I think I have enough Interests and hobbies to keep my mind fed. One of my friend's has his cancer returned, so that maybe it, but I usually don't get saddened by health news, unless it ends badly. He's still going strong so far. Maybe I miss my dad, who passed away 4 years ago nearly. Maybe I miss my gf, who I broke up with 3 months ago. I don't know. I think if I felt sad, I would at least have a clue why right? I remember coming into forums like this years ago when I had depression, I broke up with my ex-wife and it hit it for the first time hard. This time feels like that, but I have no clue what the cause it. I don't take any meds for it, Not that I don't believe in it, but I believe that keeping the mind occupied and focusing on positive stuff, usually helps me think the better way.

    Jon

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  9. Kazzl
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    8 October 2016 in reply to Jon4eva

    Hi Jon, good to see you again

    Sometimes we just don't know what our minds are up to. It could be a culmination of all those things you mentioned. Grief especially can hit us when we're not expecting it, even years later so I've found.

    I think if you are looking after yourself well physically, resting when you need to, focussing on things you enjoy and not dwelling deeply on unhappy things, then there's a good chance it will pass with time. It's early days yet.

    A lot of people find exercise helps, so maybe some long walks or such?

    Do you work Jon? If so is there anything happening there that could be troubling you?

    I hope you keep talking to us mate, if only for company while you get through this. We're always here.

    Kaz

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  10. Jon4eva
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    9 October 2016 in reply to Kazzl

    Hi Kaz,

    Yeah, we're getting ready for accreditation on Monday that's just a little stress, but nothing worth being sad about. I think if ur right about grief hitting someone a long time after events, then you maybe onto something. I think it's more than likely my dad's passing.

    Also I haven't been walking much until this morning. And this afternoon spoke to a friend about it, So kinda felt a lot better after that. But still thanks for listening. I'll be coming back here from time to time. It's good to know I can be listened to if I need it. :)

  11. geoff
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    9 October 2016 in reply to Jon4eva
    hi Jon, you may not know why you will have a relapse or there are moments why you do know why, but all it may take is just something small that would reactivate your past thoughts such as PTSD and because you feel like this then it could happen at any time.
    Sorry to hear but losing your dad and then your girlfriend are two big losses which you haven't been able to settle in your mind so how you feel will keep happening unless you are able to satisfy that this has happened and then feel comfortable in your own mind. Geoff.
  12. Kazzl
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    9 October 2016 in reply to Jon4eva

    Hi Jon, good to hear from you again. I'm pleased to hear you're feeling better.

    Yes, grief is an unpredictable thing, can pop up when you least expect it. Still does for me sometimes, many years later. But if you know what it is it's easier to deal with. When it hits me now I try to turn the pain into a sweeter sadness by focussing on good memories, even happy times when I was a child with my parents.

    And, I do believe they are still with me, in my mind and my heart. In words that come out of my mouth that sound just like my mother haha. I believe they don't leave us whilever we remember them and know their influence is still within us.

    And Jon, you will always be listened to here. That's what we're here for, and we genuinely care about each and every member.

    Best wishes for the accreditation on Monday!

    Kaz

  13. Me suzy
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    10 October 2016
    Anyone free or in need of a chat?
  14. Me suzy
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    10 October 2016
    Anyone?.
  15. Me suzy
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    10 October 2016 in reply to Jon4eva

    Just read ur post......in a strange way u made me giggle. Hope u didnt pass out.

    Hang in there.

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    10 October 2016 in reply to Me suzy

    Hi Suzy...

    I welcomed you on the other thread you posted on....'one word to sum up anxiety' I hope you can stick around the forums....there are also our 'Social Threads' under the menu too if you want to have a sticky beak around...You shouldnt have to be crying/on your own when you posted before.

    Dont forget too Beyond Blue have some really nice people on the support line 1300 22 4636 available 24/7 if you need them.

    I hope you are doing okay..

    my best, Paul

  17. Me suzy
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    10 October 2016 in reply to blondguy

    Thanks for ur reply, im really sruggling at the mo. Its really tough.

    Im at work and trying to get through the morning, i finish in an hour.....night shift.

    Will chat again tonight as night shift all week grrrr

  18. blondguy
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    10 October 2016 in reply to Me suzy

    Hey Me Suzy

    thanks for posting back...Its always great when we get a response.

    (I have had mega anxiety/depression for a long time..just to let you know)

    There are many very kind people that can be here for you.....It would be great if you could post back when convenient for you

    Kind thoughts for you

    Paul

  19. Jon4eva
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    17 October 2016 in reply to Me suzy
    Hey Suzy, all good. And I did pass out btw. :) hope all is well.

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