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  1. pipsy
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    14 March 2015 in reply to geoff
    Hi Geoff, thank you for your concern over my near miss.  I haven't driven since it happened and I know the old saying to ' get back on the horse after being tipped off'.  Hopefully I will be able to drive tomorrow.  I am within walking distance to church, but I will drive.  Had to laugh about your 'bad dream'.  I'm not actually too concerned about how L reacts to his father's situation.  If he wants to go and see him more, fine.  I have my life, he's made it clear how he wants to live.  I don't say too much to him about anything, he doesn't really understand my needs and tends to joke about things I say, so I keep quiet.  If he does get more concerned about his father, I know I have BB to talk to.  Plus I have friends at the church.   He retires in a couple of weeks, so I guess he'll spend more time with his parents, anyway.   Again - thanks for your concern.  It's nice for me to know I have my friends.  Have a good weekend.  L Pipsy. xxx 
  2. pipsy
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    16 March 2015 in reply to pipsy
    Hi, Geoff, hope you had a good weekend.  I had a great day Sunday.  Drove to church, not a problem.  Had to take two different people home.  As it turns out, they didn't live far from each other, but didn't know each other.  The men shaved for 'The Great Shave', that was fun.  Have a birthday to go this weekend.  Invited L, but he's not interested.  Don't care that much.  He's visiting his parents tomorrow, hasn't said much about it.  They're going to some sort of gym, I think L's hoping to get some tips.  Just hope he doesn't try and get me exercising with him.  Quite happy with my morning walk.  Starting to sink in that we really don't have a marriage.  L says he's happy with the way things are.  I thought marriage meant doing things together, albeit, having your own interests, but still sharing.  My aunt and uncle pretty much did most things together.  Mum and dad didn't really, I wanted a marriage like my aunt and uncle.  Am I wrong to want that?  I'm not lonely, though.  No more so than I was before I met L.  Guess  I'm just being silly.  Take care my friend.  Hope all is well.  I know you've been busy.  Much love P.xxx  
  3. geoff
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    17 March 2015 in reply to pipsy

    dear Pipsy, I may call you the birthday girl with so many parties which is great for you, and when is your birthday.

    It's good that you're driving again, and you ask L about going with you to most things, but he always says no, that's his choice, and really if he did go he may may ruin everything which is not what you want.

    I have been busy the last 2 or 3 days, how time passes so quickly, as I've been trying to sort out the usage on my mobile with telstra, fingers crossed I have done it.

    I soon will be joining you in walking with Mindy (Moo-Moo) or taking her down to the park, and if L wants you to go to the gym you are entitled to say no.

    Look after yourself and talk very soon. L Geoff. xx

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    17 March 2015 in reply to pipsy
    dear Pipsy, I have replied to you but it hasn't appeared on the All Posts'. L Geoff. xx
  5. pipsy
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    17 March 2015 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff.  Not sure what reply you're talking about that hasn't appeared on All Posts.  Better re reply then, hadn't you lol.  Look forward to walking with you and Moo-Moo, (you may lose her).  I seem to have a natural affinity with dogs.  About birthdays, I'll tell you mine, if you'll tell me yours, fair deal?  This birthday this weekend, he's 60 years young.  Makes me feel ancient ha.  No, I'm not that old - yet.  Life's wonderful for me.  L comes home talking about his day with his family, quite boring for me, but I don't say anything.  I suppose I bore him when I talk about my days with my friends.  We don't seem to have much to talk about these days.  Least we're not arguing, that's something.

    Looking forward to hearing back from you.  Much love P. xx

  6. pipsy
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    17 March 2015 in reply to pipsy
    Geoff, quite an interesting discussion with L tonight before he went out.  Seems he had a run-in with m today.  Not sure what was said, but gather m was running me down and L got stuck into her.  First time (to my knowledge) he's ever supported me over her.  I said I'd like to get together with his sister (I used to get on well with her).  L said he'd discussed with her about bringing me to see her new house, she wants to see me too.  Evidently sister is getting fed-up with m as well.  Father not saying anything in m's favor, either.  M also being nasty towards sister and her family.  L thinks m has dementia/alzheimers, possibly.  Do you know much about the condition?  L's not emotionally strong enough to simply walk away from m/d when they start their rubbish.  He tells them off, but stays there rather than leave.  I feel sorry for L, they know he's weak, they laugh at him.  I would just leave, after all, it's their loss.  None so strange as people, eh!!!   Much love P.xxx   
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    18 March 2015 in reply to pipsy

    dear Pipsy, that's fair enough, my birthday is 5/10/54, but more important I'm pleased  that he stuck up for you.

    Do you really want to go and see their house, I'm just scared that m might take this as a chance to lash out at you, and I don't want that to happen.

    Yes I have had elderly people, some I have looked after but not 24/7 who have had dementia/alzheimers and it is a sad demeanour when they just lose their thoughts of who they are and don't recognise anyone.

    I wonder whether L would get on just with d as m seems to be putting everyone off-side or whether she is becoming ill. L Geoff. xx

     

     

  8. pipsy
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    18 March 2015 in reply to geoff
    Hi Geoff.  My birthday is 27/04/51.  Yes I do want to see their house.  I know sister and brother in-law would not allow m in particular to cause any problems.  L has assured me he would not let m/d know we were coming down.  He knows if he hurts me again, that's IT.  Apparently sister only sees m/d if she has to take them to Dr's.  Brother in-law can't be bothered with m, so he wouldn't even let them know we were coming.  It's a shame how downhill m has gone.  You ask if L would be better off just seeing d, they're a package deal, no d without m.  If anything was to happen to d, m goes into a nursing home, she knows this and she's scared, maybe this is bringing out the nasty side of her.  She has always been negative in thought, she's getting worse.  I don't know whether it's dementia or not.  I thought dementia meant forgetting, m knows who's who, so I don't know.  I think she's just a nasty women who's getting worse.  Have a great day.  Bunch of flowers for my birthday, please. lol.  Love P.xxx  
  9. geoff
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    18 March 2015 in reply to pipsy
    dear Pipsy, well wish I could give you a bunch of flowers and a box of chocolates, and have now written it down in my diary. L Geoff. xx
  10. pipsy
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    18 March 2015 in reply to geoff

    Dear Geoff, thanks for the lovely thought.  I'll make believe the chocolates, and I love the flowers.

    Much love P.xx

     

  11. pipsy
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    19 March 2015 in reply to pipsy

    Hi Geoff.  You asked in a previous letter if L's mum is ill in some way.  I feel (and I'm not a Dr) she has a serious personality disorder.  I know L's sister said a few years ago, she thought she was in the early stages of Dementia.  I disagree, she knows who's who, she is outspoken about religion (Muslims, in particular).  The way she 'bags' people in public who may be over weight.  She says they're Diabetic.  With Dementia sufferers, they tend to forget mid-sentence what they're saying, she doesn't.  I don't think she has Bi-Polar, I just think it's a serious personality disorder.  I know L's father nor the rest of the family will ever get her assessed, they will just continue to make excuses for her behavior.   I feel very sorry for her and the rest of the family.  I feel some day she will say or do something that will really cause problems.  I just hope she gets some help before that happens.  L told her off the other day and she wouldn't talk to him for quite some time after.  That doesn't help the situation.  Nothing will be done, though, till, probably, it'll be too late.  I prefer to remember them as they were when we used to go on picnics.  Had a great day today, went and bought new pair of shoes (not dancing).

    Take care, my friend.  Much love P xx

  12. geoff
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    20 March 2015 in reply to pipsy

    dear Pipsy, from what I can gather is that I agree with you about having a serious personality disorder, and I'm not sure she will get any help until it's too late and taken out of her hands and put in a nursing home.

    I bet she didn't like to be told off, but unfortunately she won't learn from this and continue on what she is doing.

    I have to ask you how pairs of shoes do you have. lol L Geoff. xx

  13. pipsy
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    20 March 2015 in reply to geoff
    Dear Geoff.  I have quite a few pairs of shoes (tongue in cheek).  I haven't danced in years, are you asking me to a dance lol.  L doesn't dance at all, he has 2 left feet.  You're right about m not being happy at being told off.  Also about her not taking it well.  She apparently informed L that ' you won't have me much longer'.  She's been talking like this for years.  If d goes first, a nursing home won't necessarily take her if she can be left at home.  There is more help available now than there was, say, 20t  years ago.  The things she does forget doesn't mean she has Alzheimers/Dementia, she forgets to turn lights off, turn off the element on the stove, leaves taps running.  These are things you or I would possibly forget, due to other things on our mind.  That doesn't constitute an illness.  If that was the case, there'd be a lot of people in nursing homes.  How come you are so late at night on your computer?  What time do you go to bed?   Looking forward to walking with you and Moo-Moo.  Hear from you soon.  Pxxx    
  14. geoff
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    22 March 2015 in reply to pipsy

    dear Pipsy, boy, I forget things, but I put that down to my head injury, but I still know we all can do it, it's getting older which none of us can ever stop.

    I think that the title of this post 'in hospital' we should change, so do you have a preference, what about Pipsy and Geoff. L Geoff. xx

  15. pipsy
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    22 March 2015 in reply to geoff

    Dear Geoff.  Fine with me, as long as you're happy.  Had a super, duper night last night.  Tell you about it later.  When are we going dancing? lol.  L would not have enjoyed last night.  He would've wanted to come home five minutes after we arrived.  There was dancing, trivia.  Tell you more later.

    You make me feel very worthwhile, thanks for that.

    Love P.xx

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    24 March 2015 in reply to pipsy
    dear Pipsy, I have started a new thread called 'Pipsy and Geoff'. L Geoff. xx
  17. pipsy
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    24 March 2015 in reply to geoff
    Dear Geoff, how do I find the new thread?  I looked under 'new threads' but there was nothing there.  L Pip.xxx 
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    24 March 2015 in reply to pipsy

    dear Pipsy, the reason I replied to you on this old thread is because it didn't seem as though you found the new one.

    Just type in 'Pipsy and Geoff' in the search bar and up we come, because that's what I have called it.

    Send me a reply in the new thread. L Geoff. xx

  19. pipsy
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    24 March 2015 in reply to geoff

    Dear Geoff.  Found it, found it.  Forgive my thickness.  I finally figured out what you meant.  When I was living in N.Z, there was an advert on t.v about the yellow pages of the phone book.  People would find what they were looking for and the saying was: found it, I've found it, in the yellow pages.  That was me just now.  At the party on Saturday, there was a dance where there was an outside ring of people and an inside ring.  When the music played you danced with whoever was your partner, then moved on till the music stopped, when you were re-partnered.  At one point the music stopped and our minister was alone for a couple of seconds.  Without thinking, I started singing, are you lonesome tonight?  Luckily Matt (the minister) knows me, he just laughed.  We had trivia questions, logical, but difficult.  I didn't get home till after 10 p.m.  I thoroughly enjoyed myself.  As I said L wouldn't have enjoyed himself, as it turned out he worked overtime.  He finishes today where he's been for 25 years.  It won't make any difference to us, we'll still live as we are, me doing my thing, him doing his thing.  He mainly watches t.v and sleeps.  He's actually quite boring to me, I suppose I am to him.  Sometimes we have a bit of a laugh, over nothing in particular.  I am really enjoying my life now.

    Take care, have a great day, my friend.

    Much love P. xxxx

  20. pipsy
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    24 March 2015 in reply to pipsy

    Hi Geoff.  I'm now calling myself curious.  I see I'm now classed as a Century Member.  What does that mean?  I was thinking today about how much my life has changed over the past month or so.  When I first started talking to you last October, (would you believe it's that long ago), I couldn't see the light for the darkness.  Today, I'm happy, I enjoy a good laugh, I have some wonderful, special friends, you are at the top of the list because you were the one who helped me when I was at my lowest.  I still have my 'moments' but they're few and far between.  L and his family don't really figure in my life.  I don't hate them, hate's too strong, but I feel as though they're part of a past I'd rather forget, like my own parents and brother.  Once L's free of his parents hold, maybe things might get better, but I'm not waiting for him.  He wants his own interests (whatever they are).  I would like him to come to church, but I'm quite content without him.  He wants me to build my own life.  Unfortunately, in the long run, he will be the loser.  His choice.  It's a pity we can never meet because I'd love to have a coffee with you (my shout), to say 'thanks' for always being there.

    Love you heaps.  P.xxx 

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