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  1. mmMekitty
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    7 October 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Dear DnG, a little housekeeping, if you please,
    When my text-to-speech reader reads the clue, P___ ___e, as you wrote it, it says:
    “p[line] [line] [line] [space] [line] [line] [line]e
    Do you mean to tell me the clue is two words, each of four letters, the first beginning with ‘p’ and ;the second ends with ‘e’, OR, is a single word of four letters, beginning with ‘p’ and ending with ‘e’? It is a little difficult because the underscore lines all run together and I am not sure what you intend me to make of what you’ve given, because my text-to-speech reader reads each ‘_’ separately.

    mmMekitty, picking orver pretzel portions at the bottom of the bowl.

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    8 October 2021 in reply to mmMekitty
    two words four letters each word.
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    8 October 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Okay, drum roll...

    Pear Tree! 😺

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  4. Guest9337
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    8 October 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Yep, just to my right, less than 10m away is a fruitless pear tree that I still love heaps. Birds, bees, flowers, some shade, what matter if it is fruitless... still a nice pear tree.

    Your turn mmm...

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    8 October 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Wow! I WIN! IWIN! 💫wud I win...?

    Oh, another go...but first, why is a pearless pear tree better? What will the Partridge (currently lost in another Post, somewhere, I suspect), eat when he/she arrive?

    I spy, with my muddy eye, something beginning with M )& it is not me)!

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    8 October 2021 in reply to mmMekitty
    mud
  7. mmMekitty
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    8 October 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    No, I wasn't giving clues yet, 'cause I think there are enough if you just look around a bit. 😼

    Were you worried about fruit bats making a home in your pear tree? That why you got a peaarless tree?

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    8 October 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Or maybe I am...

    ('cause I'm not completely clueless)

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    9 October 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    nah the pear tree was so big it split and fell on neighbours boat. so the landlord cut it all down to the ground.

    A few years later the pear tree came back and is now 3 metres high but bears no fruit.

    my guess for eye spy is a mouse

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    9 October 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    Just lost whole post here ???? Hi everyone , still here but still trying to fix self . Chat soon , love Jo&LD . ( Look on BB cafe that is there ) ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌠💋💖🌛💤☀️
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    We'll be here for you, Jo. ❤️❤️❤️ waiting. Getting up to mischief, but I promise we'll get the place cleaned up before you are back.

    So I'll order a big air-filled Partridge for the Pear Tree? Be really is nice with tinsel and stars and lights, (solar powered, of-course.) Lately, it takes stuff so long to be delivered, I'd better get onto it today.

    Sorry, DnG, not a mouse, not even stirring anything inside the house...

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    9 October 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    mousemat?

    molotov cocktail?

    membership card?

    murky window?

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    10 October 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Oo I hadn't thought of using a Molotov cocktail...hehehe ... Maybe get some landscaping done in the process... 😸

    cooler->warmer-> cooler->warmer->keep stumbling around, you're sure to notice it soon!

    mmMekitty

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    DnG I'll devide myself into two, & see you over in your new Thread for I Spy games.

    I will still be hanging around here, walking the perimeter, keeping the hearth warm, the billie simmering, and the cows milked.

    You never know, someone could drop by anytime. 😺 & I wan to be sure they feel welcome.

    mmMekitty

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    11 October 2021 in reply to Jo8049

    Hi Jo, I am sad u lost an entire post, that is very distressing when that happens to us.

    I hope and pray for your safe trucking this week. I did only about 140 km driving on sunday... and once the darkness settle in i discovered i was somewhat confused and lost even on the streets of my home town, and the roads and suburbs that I know very well.

    I was tired and my sense of location/direction just fell away. But i made it home to reconnect with my place.

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    I know that feeling. I get lost in my own flat, & have been here 21 years now!Turning off the lights, getting, not seeing anythng but the bright phosphenes my brain produces disorientates me, & I might turn to go to my bedroom, but I don't turn in the right direction, and I spot some light, and think it is my back door, and take a couple steps, and I suddenly cannot feel anything within reach, (except for the carpet under foot), & I begin to panic. That feeling , as if I am miles from anything, is a source of panic for me.

    Or I simply don't remember which way I was facing when I went to sleep, or I forget which room I was in when having a brief doze, and am confused when I wake.

    Or, an example more in keeping to yours, DnG, if I am in a car & don't know where the driver has taken me, which route they chose without telling me. I find that very unsettling, I am anxious & verging toward panicking when that happens. It makes me feel so utterly vulnerable.

    I had a really bad dream about that, once. It was so rea I was afraid to even try to take a taxi from a rank for quite a while after.

    Everyone on the road, do take care, so we may hear from you soon!

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️some more of Jo's red hearts to share around. They are so great!

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    Okay, looks like clean-up day tomorrow. I'll need a pretty big skip and lots of soapy water.

    After, how would you like a fern gully garden, like the one Roma Street Gardens had many years ago? It was a cool and shady spot with a pond and a walkway, benches, and ferns from the ground up, high overhead, tree ferns, those were. Lovely, sof feathery fronds. a mist machine kept the place humid and cool,something like 10° cooler than elsewhere around.

    When there, it was hard to believe I was easily ten minutes from the centre of Bris CBD. I could hear nothing of the city's noise, could barely make out the very top of one tall building, and, well, it was beautiful and peaceful.

    I'll start cleaning, so Jo won't come back to this MEGA MESS! or ought I wait until dawn? I'm happy to wait, iI hear any snoring from anyone.

    ...

    mmMekitty

  18. Guest9337
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    13 October 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    just a couple of banrock station moscato please hospitality staff.

    wife wants to take a load off whilst we watch the coffee shop customers keep caffienated.

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    G'day, DnG, & wife! Pleased to meet you, mate!

    I'll be back in a jiff. You just pick a spot, relax as you like, & whatever a 'banrock station' is, I expect I will find for you, ... eventually, no worries. We've got all arvo for that.

    I have a batch of lamingtons in the fridge, getting nice about now...

    Anything else, just give us a hoy.

    (Did you happen to notice how the path was clear, the garden trimmed, the cows peascefully grazing, & your pear tree has been watered? This place is gonna be an oasis - not the band. Anyone will love to spend time here!

    I would like to be a little serious, though, because I have been trying to find out & get really frustrated, because, while I think the allowable exemptions to wearing a face mask are similar from state to state & territory, they may not be identical. I still don't know who or how these exemptions are monitored, regulated, policed, or anything.

    As you know, I'm in Qld. I got my exemption from the Psychologist I saw in regards to my problems concerning the mask. I'm still not sure I even am required to carry her letter around with me, in case I am asked, if I am required to show it, or not, or to whom, etc. It is not made clear at all even in the official statements I found on Qld gov's website.

    I found. the current notice:

    "Restrictions for Impacted Areas (No. 19) Direction ....
    "The requirements under paragraph 6 do not apply:
    p. to a person who has a physical or mental health illness or condition, or disability, which makes wearing a face mask unsuitable; or
    Examples – persons who have obstructed breathing, a serious skin condition on their face, an intellectual disability, a mental health illness, or who have experienced trauma."

    & that's all I found. This is just about as frustrating as not being able to wear the face mask itself. Have you thought to try to talk to another better, a Psychologist/Psychiatrist, who would be more qualified to assess your eligibility for the exemption? Given what you have said about it, I'd've thought you do have a legitimate reason to be exempted, Wherever you live.

    Have a look into the state's website relevant to where you live. Or, I'm sure there is a phone number, or the National COVID number (1800 020 080).

    mmMekitty

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    14 October 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Guest9337 indeed!

    As far as I am concerned you will always be DnG.

    If you are still reading, please come and talk. Whatever has happened?

    If it was anything I said, please, let's talk.

    It hurts to see you designated as Guest9337. I find myself quite upset about this.

    No good-bye?

    mmMekitty

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    It'sso bleeping quiet around here, I can hear an echo, and that's all.

    May as well clean up, stack the chairs and lock up for the night, maybe the whole week end?

    mmm?

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    17 October 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    0613 , Clear sky , 3 knt Northerly , 8.5° , 88% . WF 130km east of home x ❤️❤️❤️

    Happiness and love wrapped in hugs for everyone today xxxx ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    Hello everyone , LD & I are walkabout still and trying hard to mend . Taking a bit more time than expected .

    mmMekitty & dng , thank you both for keeping the lights on , xxxx hugs ❤️ . Hope so much you are both well .

    Mountains. Of peace and love with lashings of kindness and acceptance , xxxxx hugs ( when wanted or needed ) , FTNN Jo&HRS/LD ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🐾💃🌈🌛💤☀️💜

  23. mmMekitty
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    Hello Jo,

    I'm so glad to hear from you. Were there complications? Or is it only the mending which is taking longer than expected?

    I have found old thread of yours when you first came to BB and have read through it. You surely have been on quite a journey. My heart goes out to you. You have consciously persevered throughso much to, I don't know ... it it like 'creating' who you are? Your delving deep, bringing out the person inside, one marvellous Jo you are?

    *

    Something's happened, I don't know what, & DnG has become Guest9337.

    DnG spoke of an incident at a shop where shop staff were abusive in their insisting DnG wear a mask, which, for reasons very similar to mine, DnG cannot wear one. & DnG had not been able to get an exemption. I tried to reach out, explaining my experience, how I got an exemption, but I don't know for sure if the criteria are the same for all states.

    Then I read, DnG had severe anxiety responses. Then nothing.

    I don't know. I've been sad over it. We'd been playing I Spy, and DnG 'resurrected' a thread about video games, software & technology. I contributed to that, too.

    I can't believe, I mean, I don't understand, how I feel so much for the handful of people on BB who I have only interacted with here, not in 'real' life. So when some are not around for days and longer, I find I miss them, you included.

    I do struggle with this issue I have between needing people, & not wanting to need them, losing them, & not wanting them to need me in the same way. & knowing all along, you all have lives of your own.

    I realise, I don't even have to know much about you, like I know so little about my PDr, to still realise how much I want to hold onto having some people in my mind, if not my life itself.

    I had a feeling this would happen when I joined BB. I had this same problem fifteen years ago, when I joined another forum, somewhat like this. It is a pattern with me, that I, on one hand, want very little to do with people, but on the other, depend too much on a few.

    *

    I do hope youre feeling well again soon.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️to you & HRS/LD too & anyone reading, especially, DnG, if you are, Jo has some ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️for you..

  24. Jo8049
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    18 October 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    0309 , light cloud , Southerly 3 gusting to 4 knots , 15.9° , 48% . WFTNN ( 130 east of home .) x . ❤️

    😉 Happiest day you can have with hugs and kindness for all today ❤️❤️❤️ FTNN

    Chai tea or coffee and chicken soup perhaps ? Egg & bacon sandwiches seasoned to taste or porridge ? I will cook today for the early shift ! . LD is in charge in the dining room . ❤️

    Hello everyone , It is my hope this finds you happy warm and safe . ❤️💜❤️

    mmMekitty , thank you for your kind words . You are correct about my journey , in as much as it has been both swift and enormous . There has been much introspection and associated termoil . There has been significant cost at times but the reward of discovery of the true self far outweighs cost . The time spent on the planet ( 68 years & 3 months to the day ) prepared me for this amazing journey of truth and true self . Still much to discover though and adjust also I suspect ! All very fluid . Coming to terms with some things is arduous to scary as well . Time patience determination courage & this new self love are needed to navigate through these diverse adjustments . Much love 💜💜💜💜💜

    Being alone and isolated I understand very much the attachment that develops with people we meet on line and the almost rejection feelings when they are busy/ resting etc and not present at times . This in itself brought to me feelings of inadequacy about my life , ie: that they have life and I do not to some degree ( big gaps of alone time ) . We do have lives of course just more spare time perhaps ??

    It is very easy to become a bit dependent to at times , which is understandable , as long as I was aware I was able manage that . Sometimes with difficulty.

    DnG , are you ok ? I will be in and not in for a while , there is much more ground for me to assess and fix or replace in my journey .

    Much peace & love from the never ending never never xxxxxxx ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💜🐾💃🌈💤🌛☀️

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    Thank you so much for that, Jo. It's all a struggle for me, either too much or too little, & taking a certain perspective, I don't quite know how to describe this aspect of my thinking/feeling. I can need to the point of stupidity, & in trying to protect myself from harm or abandonment,stay at such a distance I feel no empathy or compassion, but still, beneath that, want someone to think I am more important than I think I am myself. It is irrational.

    Although I am only a few years younger than you, I feel you are far more mature and have been able to achieve a certainty about self that I might only dream of.

    I realise I must clarify about what it means when someone turns up as "Guest...", & "Missing User".

    Tighten the bolts holding my head on ...? I don't know.. I wish I didn't tie myself up up in knots.

    LD is such a great helper around here.

    I like a fairly potent garlic aoli, even though it seems to kick back. Same goes for fried onion on my toasted sandwich with a fried egg & salami & cheese! (That really used to be my favourite lunch(. How am I still here, you might wonder).

    At least, in this realm I can enjoy them again! No worries. Just don't put Vegemite on it, even though I could also have all the yummy salt I would like, here, too.

    Okay, off to give LD a virtual cuddle and a bonus for being so efficiant. 😸 I kept somebones for d & anyone who wants to gnaw on or bury something.

    ❤️💜☮🥇🎶❤️🍖🐶💜🌹😸mmMekitty

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    19 October 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    0910 , clear , 3to4 knt Northwesterly , 25.4° , 41% . WFTNN X . ❤️

    Welcome and happiest day you can with mirth love and kindness xxxx hugs ❤️❤️❤️

    LD & I are dropping in to say hi .

    Our rebuild will take time and that time I suspect will be a lot longer than I think ?

    mmMekitty you give me far more credit than I deserve , it has been a long arduous life we have had to get to Jo . Now so much more to learn and do . This learning is mostly a joyful experience . I go where I have to in life , the other option is not pretty .

    Today I feel a sadness flavoured with apprehension . We are camped at a free camp near a bigger town out our way and my friend will head home and we will be alone again after an amazingly happy fortnight ? Tomorrow we have appointments in town then back to our broken town where we are not safe . 👎👎👎. It is what it is ?

    Much love and hugs peace and acceptance for everyone from the never never xxxxx Jo&HRS/LD hugs ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🐾💃🌈🌛💤☀️💖

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    Keep yourselves safe, & I'll steer the BBQ's, you know, roung them up in a circle...get them all sizzling up a quickstep. 😺Nice.

    That 'broken town' is where your home is? It would be awfully sad to stay somewhere where you don't feel safe. Maybe moving would be something else to consider?

    Who am I to suggest that? I haven't moved in 21 years, & this social housing complex has steadily gone down hill throughout the time I have been here. The only improvement lately is that one aggressive neighbour no longer lives above me.

    The location is surprisingly quiet, so close to a main road, but so quiet. My unit is tucked back away from the street, & I don't have the small car park immediately outside my window, & there are a couple buildings shielding the units at this end of this little building from the sound from the main road.

    I was astonished when I first moved in. I discovered just how bad my tinnitus was when other noises from a main road were removed. I actually prefer the tinnitus.

    If I was out in a rural area, it might be like having cicadas all day, all night, except while sleeping. That would be too much.

    D'you know what? Those sizzling BBQs sound like cicadas, well, a bit. I better go & make sure I am not frying any ...

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ for you both. 🌺🎶☮🌹😻mmMekitty

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    20 October 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    1720, clear , light northwesterly, 29' , 35% . X . WFTNN . ❤️

    Hi everyone , just a quick hello as I am still not home yet . Things in our town have been going pear shaped in my absence . The man who was ejected from town who was the one who almost got inside to do whatever it was in his mind he intended is back there living in same room across the road from me ? Go figure ?

    This frightens me to know he is there and if gets on the ice again ( which is almost inevitable ) he may finish what ever his mind had started that day . He is well built early thirties and does manual labour , he could hurt me badly or kill me if that's what he plans .

    When he nearly got in he saw Jo who was unknown in town till then and took 5 minutes to decide that I was a paedophile , which then was spread around the mill and town in less than a day ?

    All of this has hurt me far more than I realised and I have had a very bumpy time with it all which nearly ended badly about three weeks ago . Council and Police are having a hard time making any difference to the town. Myself and another couple ( all gender diverse ) are being hunted out of this town by the mill owner who wants to own the town . .?

    It all adds up to a nightmare for the three of us who own our homes and are being made scared to stay ! It is horrible feeling like this all the time . So yet again a free camp in Mr A is the bedroom for tonight ,.

    Bye now and love from us ❤️💛💚💙💜💕

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    20 October 2021 in reply to Jo8049

    Hello Jo,

    Oh lass that is horrible for you... I know that wish to not have to move to feel safe, yet feeling scared to stay... but lass sometimes moving is the lesser evil... especially if you can't see things improving... perhaps while you are camping away it might be an idea to look online at what/where you might be able to afford to move to... if you were to sell...

    Lass you deserve not just a safe place to live, but somewhere where you feel comfortable to simply be you... such places do exist...

    Sending you huggily hugs

    Paws

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    20 October 2021 in reply to Jo8049

    Jo & Friends,

    The situation is simply appalling. I hadn't realised things were so bad. I am sure you don't want the bleepers to win, but YOUR safety must come first. & your mental/emotional health, too. The stress must be enormous. It does sound so frightening; I'm scared for you, too.

    I'm sure it would be heart breaking to have to sell up, (likely at a lower price than your home is worth), & leave, but, given what you've said, what else can you do? & the friends you have there, too?

    I am so grateful to Mr A supporting you as he is. He put a target on his own back doing that.

    I wonder, since the local Police (in particular) have not been able to help much, what if you went to their superiors? That 30yr old surely cannot be permitted to threaten you, let alone attempt to do 'whatever'? Nor should the mill owner, any employees, friends, neighbours, etc be able to harass you or anyone, as it seems they have.

    I hope you've been able to keep solid records; they could be very useful.

    As for the mill owner, the last thing they'd want is bad publicity.

    I will be thinking of you.

    ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜mmMekitty

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