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  1. Guest_1643
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    28 January 2022

    Storm and ⛈ 🌧🌂 ☔

    There was an enormous chubk of hail today that hit my car! What wild weather.

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    Hi all who gave me good wishes.My daughter hasn't had the baby yet.She was due today.I spoke to my daughter just before and she seems very calm and excited.I asked her if she had her bag ready and she says no I do it later.I told her do it now and make she is totally ready.I getting really nervous now and I am only the grandfather.
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    28 January 2022 in reply to Guest_1643
    Sleepy I had a car ruined in a hail storm in 1985.It was really large hail.I got some work out of the storm replacing roofs that had been destroyed by it.
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    28 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69
    Hi Mark, how do u feel about being a grandfather in general? It's a beautiful accomplishment !
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    28 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark that's amazing u knew how to repair the roof! I have to check if there is damage, it was so scary driving today in one moment it began hailing ...does the damage just look like dents? Here's hoping I didn't get them....

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    28 January 2022 in reply to Guest_1643
    Hi sleepy this will be my third but it just an exciting anxious time.Hopefully I can hold this one as a newborn as I couldn't even see my grandson last year when he was born for a few months.
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    28 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69
    Hi Mark I hope u get to hold the newborn and have cuddles... so sad that families are being kept apart at this time.
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    Hope it all goes well Match but you not wrong about the bag and being ready too.

    We got some beautiful storms up here to sleep. later l was suppose to be going over to my brothers waoted for it to pass at home but when l got half way to his later, 30,mins, it was still going over and my wipers stopped. So that was helpful , heaviest rain l've seen in a long time. Anyway got there and we had a beer watching it from his porch, very cool.

    rx

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    29 January 2022 in reply to randomx
    I couldn't believe she didn't have her bag ready as this is her second one.Still no news.I don't blame it not willing to come into this world at the moment.My daughter says she fine just resting.
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    29 January 2022 in reply to randomx

    Hi all,

    Did some lap swimming at the local pools and feeling much better for it. Hope you're having a wonderful Saturday.

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    29 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi everyone,

    What'll you have while waiting for Matchy's grandbaby to arrive? 😺 I think I could use something to settle my nerves - so, therefore, Matchy, I expect you want something stronger? This waiting is giving me 🦋🦋🦋I, 'm so excited!

    I think I will make up a platter of nibbles - 'cause I can't sit down!😺

    mmMekitty

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    I didn't have a real good night's sleep and I kept checking my phone and it went of at 2am for a msg and it was just a scam msg.

    Hi monkey I hope the swimming did wonders for you.I use to swim a lot when I was younger.

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    Hi monkey magic ✨ 💛 💖

    Hi Mark sorry u got a poor night's sleep, hope Ur not too tired today.

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    Oh, those scammers! These are some people I really feel so cranky about I would like doing to them what they try doing to others!

    Now I want to be a big 🐅instead of my usual Little Red Cat 🐈. Let me hunt them down!

    That'll be my fantasy this afternoon.

    mmMekitty

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    Good evening How's everyone going?🙂

    Congratulation Matchy69 on your third time grandfatherhood! 👨‍🍼

    Mekitty, I hope I'm prepared for this year of the tiger 🐅 that could bring me some courage and some strengths! Can I be fierce this year? I'm gonna wait and see

    Unfortunately, I had a racing heartbeat a few times today (more than usual). Pretty sure I have been stressed out and not been sleeping well lately. Hope it could change in the next couple of days.

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    29 January 2022 in reply to On The Road

    Hi On the Road.

    I just happen to have brewed up a steaming pot of Courage, & not a drop of alcohol in sight.

    It warms you up going down, & continues to warm you like a fireplace at the heart of a home. It's bright, too, it's light reaching into the shadows, so you can identify everything around you. You get a good look at it, & notice how small the shadows are?

    These are manageable monsters; you can talk to them. Yeah, they are not so pretty, not gentle in their manner, but that's because they are also a little scared of you, too. You are strangers to each other, that's all. Go on, meet your fears, talk to them, ask them to tell you their story.

    & then, put them to sleep by humming soft & low, because we only get out the claws when absolutely necessary. 😸Purring wins more than scratching!

    *

    How much concern do you feel about your racing heart?

    As you may know, I have had some rather serious surgery recently. For some months I had a feeling there was a problem developing, there was an unusual pain sometimes. But I put off going to fin ask my GP -I wasn;t comfortable with that GP. I finally got to see another GP, & I felt more at ease with herthan I had with other GPs for long time. I realised,, I was in fear of what the problem was, & te fear was not going to go away, no matter how I tried to pretend the problem could not be that great. I thought, I'd be wating the GPs time. That's how it has seemed for years. That pain was getting worse, too weird, so I felt I had to try.

    Turns out it was along the same lines as I feared, but I was also 'lucky' to have had the diagnosis & treatment when I did. These couple months have been difficult. My old saying comes to mind: 'Could be worse'. Yep, it certainly could have been much worse.

    When my body is more comfortable, I think I will be feeling 'freer' than I have felt for a long time.

    How about that Courage with marshmallows, now? It's my favourite lately, better than a booster! Puts a lining on your stomach, too.

    mmMekitty

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    30 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi Mekitty,

    I need a steaming pot of calmness tonight, the stuffiness in my room makes me.... fidgeting(?) I hear you've had some surgery recently. But when I'm on this forum I can see you've been active, so I assumed you're coping quite well. Undergoing surgery is a scary thing because there are so many uncertainties regarding health, long-lasting problems etc. It is a journey that has to go through... This is one of the moments that I believe people are very individual, and lonely animals in some sense. But emotional support and support from the community is quite important isn't it

    I'm not too worried about my current state of health, but I don't currently have a very good lifestyle either. I just hope my situation won't be getting worse and improve it babysteps.

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    There are people who have given me a lot of support. I am very grateful to them. & when I was feeling I couldn't focus & concentrate for long periods of time, I have enjoyed the little word games, where posts are brief.

    Last night, I felt I could not get comfortable enough to sleep. I've been so tired I could sleep no matter how uncomfortable my body was, so I think my tiredness is finally feeling a little less overwhelming. But I think I'd rather sleep, just not 3 - 4 times a day!

    *

    Now, I wonder what a steaming cup of Calmness contains? I've thought Calmness would be cool, milky or perhaps gently warming, & like chicken soup, so it will be a little thicker than soup.

    A drink of Calming. I think, would have nothing to startle, a smooth sensation, perhaps something that lightly coats the mouth & throat, then slides cleanly down, where it rests in the stomach,not filling up to bloating at any quantity. /as it passes through the digestive tract, it sooths & relaxes, no burping, no tummy aches, no gurgling , just settling everything down.

    *

    Then I go lie on the windowsill, or the pool table, in the sun for an hour or two. Try picking me up then, & I will simply droop like one of those Dali clocks. 😸

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    30 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty
    I have been so tired and trying to have a nap through the day.I don't drink coffee or anything like that.I prefer a milkshake or milo.
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    30 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmmekitty, love Ur writing, so descriptive,

    Hi Mark, I don't like coffee at all, have u ever tried a chai? With soy milk ...

    Love naps, it can be so good to catch up on sleep. Hope u get rest someway

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    Hello everyone,

    Really, I only have coffee in the morning, except for a couple occasions recently when I had a mocha-chino & another day, an iced coffee. with lunch. I've felt so tired I have been tempted, wondering if it would really help or not, because I don't want to have two or three naps & then sleeping at night too.

    I wanted to create an idea of something you could find in our imaginary BB Café, since this is where I was writing. But, I realised 'Courage' cannot be just a drink. We know about 'dutch courage', & I think real courage is more, & must involve some action, some facing of fear - & then doing what you need anyway. That's the definition of 'courage' I understand.

    Then we want something to calm us... I'm jjust thinking what that might look, taste, feel, & maybe I wll get around to smell & sound yet.

    One of mour old Writers' Group exercises was about including all your senses, & detail, all the detail we could convey. It begins to feel like a kind of mindfulness meditation, only not on something in the real world, (although it could), but on something I am creating.

    I'm always glad when someone likes my writing. Thank you, Sleepy.

    Anyone ever wonder what a cat thinks about when they seem to be lying there, not exactly sleeping, but with eyes closed, for hours? If I do this really good, I do forget my surroundings, & my body's aches & pains, but can rouse myself instantly, so, please, it would be nice if you don't hoist me off the pool table too abruptly. Or drop any dishes, or slam any doors, or suddenly shout... I'm sorry, that's a lot to ask. Maybe just carefully move me on the pool table, outside!

    mmMekitty

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    30 January 2022 in reply to Guest_1643
    Hi sleepy I have never tried Chai and when I was kid I had to drink soya milk all the time and wasn't big fan of it back then.It has been so long since I had some I should try it again.
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    30 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark,

    Soy milk always grossed me out q bit so I can relate. Don't drink it at home. It is a good combo with chai, as it complements the spices....chai is good with soy and honey, I think that is how they make it in India.

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    30 January 2022 in reply to Guest_1643
    I should give it a try as I always like trying new things.
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    I was fast asleep late last night and excitedly looked at my phone and see it's my neighbour telling me she's going down to her son's tonight.Then I get another msg from my ex still no news.She wanted my advice for her father on growing avocados so while half asleep typed something and went back to sleep.My son was up bright and early full of energy that I wish I had.
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    The only news I have is my daughter has been induced.I know this can take a couple of days.
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    Went for another swim y'day and ended up a bit burnt. It's was worth it though because I had a really good time. Love swimming. Only good things can come from swimming!
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    Well l'm pleased to say there have been no more voices at the door in the mornings since , l still have no idea wth was going on.

    Those laps would be beautiful Monkey, haven;t lived near a pool in a long time but it's something l would love to start doing again.

    Funny about coffee and sleep , l'll actually sleep really well if l have a coffee before bed and for yrs people have said you crazy how could you sleep. Well , they actually did tests on that , don't they do tests on everything now, and they discovered you may well sleep better with a coffee before bed. Don't ask me how that works but it can for some.

    ps , no babies yet Match , tonight could be the one haha.

    rx

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    After PowerPal was installed months ago (early last year) I wish there a check off list made by the Vic State government so that I wouldn't continually be rung up to verify if it's been installed.

    The same applies to the LED lights where different people ring me, once they have been done, then that's it.

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  30. On The Road
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    waking up with a racing heart...i can hear it knocking relentlessly

    in dreams I am a totally different person living in another world... But just minutes away everything happened in that world soon faded away and I can't remember.... or I choose not to remember?

    Delusions are linked to schizophrenia, they said...

    It's linked to fatigue, anxiety, sorrow, depression too... people are so tired, so tired that they don't want to be fully awake... they choose not to interpret the hard reality...

    Go back to sleep now, hope everyone has a good night

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