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Topic: What If Future You Met Young You.What Advice Would You Give Yourself?

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  1. Denv12
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    10 October 2020

    Here's a topic to cheer you up. Think about this. If future you met young you,what advice would you give yourself? Its a back to the future situation.Have you seen those ads where you from the future tries to help younger you? Thats what my thread is all about. Think of all the things you have learnt throughout your life so far.What advice could you give yourself so you could give yourself the best quality of life?

    Please share you thoughts.

    Regards Denv12.

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  2. Delectable
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    13 October 2020 in reply to Denv12

    As I’ve had to parent myself from 13 and up I would have studied subjects that in my transition from country to city schooling that followed on from year 7 and 8: I would have gotten a part time job and saved every cent for travel and gone backpacking at 18 to Europe. Dreams....

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  3. smallwolf
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    14 October 2020 in reply to Denv12

    Everything will work out.

    My psychologist had me write some homework in the form of a letter to my younger self. If any part of my life were able to change, I would likely not be here writing this reply. As much as it sucks with mental illness, I have also learnt a lot about myself and other things.

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  4. Mum Chris
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    14 October 2020 in reply to Denv12

    Future me visits young me. Oh my gosh where to start. There's too much and too many cross roads. As a teenager I made mistakes and after I dragged myself out of that made more mistakes

    I'm thinking and thinking but there is too many to choose from. So many situations were set in stone

    But future me would tell young me everything will be ok. This too will pass and feelings are not facts. Also don't be so trusting judge people by actions and not words.

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  5. Not_Batman
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    17 October 2020 in reply to Denv12

    if it was child me, it’d be help your mum.
    if it was teenage me, probably pay attention in school.

    things turned out ok now, but they were very hard work, and long hours. But i suppose i wouldn't know what i know today had i taken a left instead of a right.

    hindsight has 20-20 vision so it is easy to see what decisions we could have made.

    Not_Batman

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  6. romantic_thi3f
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    13 November 2020 in reply to Denv12

    Hi Denv12,

    What a great question. I've thought about this one before, and even joked 'buy shares in Apple' only to imagine she'd be later looking at apples in the supermarket wondering what ?

    My true answer though would be to give her a really good bear hug, and tell her that I promise everything will be okay eventually.

    rt

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  7. PinkFeather
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    29 November 2020
    Don't mistake excitement for happiness.
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  8. AJH
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    10 December 2020 in reply to Denv12

    I would tell my young self the real truth; that no one will ever truly love or care about you.

    After all, here I am 37 years on still in this living hell.

  9. Sophie_M
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    10 December 2020 in reply to AJH
    Hey AJH,

    We're so sorry to hear how much pain you are in, and that you're feeling that nobody cares for you. It must be incredibly difficult to be sitting with these feelings, but we are so glad that you decided to reach out and join us here on the forums. Please know that you're never alone in this, and our caring community are here for you. If you feel up to it, we'd also really encourage you to talk these feelings through with the lovely counsellors at our Beyond Blue Support Service, who are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or through Webchat (1pm-12am AEST) at: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport. The counsellors are there to help offer advice and support, as often as you need during low moments like these.  We hope that you can find some comfort in the kindness that our community can offer.
     
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  10. NobleAlarc32
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    16 December 2020

    “Look, I could tell you what you should do, which moments to avoid, which opportunities to seek, which regrets to never have felt in the first place... but we both know you won’t retain any memory of this encounter until I meet my past self face-to-face, right now. I mean you’ve watched-

    “Yep, exactly like those crossover stories. That real-world scientist was absolutely correct. And the only reason I can confirm it is that only now do I remember meeting my then-future self, and - yes - I most definitely forgot said encounter as soon as he... “I”... was out of sight. The one thing I recall is that mysterious slip of paper suddenly being in my hand... oh, here, take this. You’re welcome.

    ”Consider it an investment. The catalyst that ultimately leads to this encounter in the first place. I think you will be pleasantly surprised.

    ”Well... since you won’t remember, this isn’t technically a spoiler, so... Never give up. Trust your instincts.

    ”Hahaha... pretty much! Now, young moon rabbit, go. Take your dreams off the shelf... and sculpt them into your reality. You will be... amazing. I am merely proof of concept.

    ”One day... count on it.

    ”And you... have a fantastic life. Vale.”

  11. randomx
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    17 December 2020 in reply to NobleAlarc32

    l wanted to do so many things , and l did , think l've done just about every dream l had.

    But if l could tell me back then something , it'd be don't bother , go for a nice long boring simple life forget the bs,

    l've met older people that have lived in the one little town all their life some even in the house they grew up in or been married to the one person 60yrs , they couldn't imagine my life , but then l couldn't theirs either. Yet l think l'd have preferred it now. They always seem to be at peace , l'd love to know that peace.

    rx

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  12. Weaponsofmassdisstortion
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    21 January 2021

    Don't trust those people they are not your friends. They are the kind of people who will cut off your legs and then ask why you can't run.

    Don't trust your family they are not here to help you. They will blame you for things that are outside of your control.

    Your mum is a sadistic crazy cow, don't expect anything from her except disappointment.

    Drop out of school at year 10, don't bother going all the way to year 12. It is a waste of time. Also if you stay in school it will greatly contribute to your mental health problems.

    Also things will get better and you are much stronger and smarter then you realise. Someday you will realise that the people who gave you such a hard time growing up, aren't as good as they think they are. For now though, just keep going. No matter how hard it gets.

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  13. randomx
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    22 January 2021 in reply to Weaponsofmassdisstortion

    And ahh yessa , l also would've told me to get into real estate the way l'd wanted to but just didn't, too many other things going on. lt's really the only thing l didn't do , but looking back later l think it actually should've been the one thing l did do. rx

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  14. randomx
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    25 January 2021 in reply to randomx

    Speak of the devil started back at work today.

    Which in my case today was 3 or 4 hrs on the computer today sorting things out first of all. But it feels bad, l don't feel like it or up to it , or like facing another new yr. l do have a modified new strategy for this one though and if l can get the stuff it should mean l work even less , but there is a touch more stress involved as a trade off, nothings bloody free in this life is it eh.

    rx

  15. Mudcakes
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    7 February 2021

    Dear past Mudcakes,

    You will go through some really bad things. But know you are not weird nor strange. You are beautiful and smart. Tall is a good thing you can reach the high shelves at the supermarket. You may figure things out about yourself which you never thought would cross your mind but really it was there all along and it’s a great thing. You will almost fall in love in year 6-7 but he will break your heart and later that year you will meet a beautiful soul in which makes you realise love is not just found in guys for you but girls are also where love can be found. It will be a confusing time but will open many feelings that may feel strange but soon to be found to be beautiful. You will lose one sweet little barker and that will break your heart into nothing, yet you won’t know if she’s even gone. You may never know. Karma for those who hurt you will come to the surface and you will find your dream passion/ job in screenwriting which you are extremely talented in. One year will change for the world in which it will bring upon many losses. Things you’ve seen in movies dear Mudcakes. Wear your mask and stay home. Hug your Mum and Dog. And please don’t become friends what that girl who likes the same show as you. That will become a nightmare. Let that sweet loud guy in, he will be the best-friend you’ve ever had. It may take a while to find your place in the world but trust me younger self, you will find it. It’s already inside of you. Just waiting to be found. With the love I give to others, here is my love for you. For me. All the best,

    Mudcakes(who know who I am) 😂

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  16. Lillylane
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    9 February 2021
    Keep things simple.

    Be honest with yourself. Face fears when they first show up, or they will keep following you.

    Appreciate those who are wiser than you, but there’s no need to feel intimidated or compare yourself with others. Learn from them (instead of telling yourself you’re not good enough).

    Always have clean litter trays available to your cats.

    Wow. This is deep :)
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  17. randomx
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    9 February 2021 in reply to Lillylane

    Ha ha ha , especially the litter trays. !!!!

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  18. randomx
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    9 February 2021 in reply to randomx

    But nahh, if l wanted to go into the many other aspects of living and looking back , shoulds and shouldn'ts , right now it'd do my head in. rx.

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  19. Frogsong
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    18 February 2021
    If l could do it all again l would have had more faith in myself. Trusted my intuition more and said no more. I would not have tried to please everyone all the time.
    I married too young to know my own mind, but the result was three beautiful children who l love so much and they love me.
    I guess you can't change the past only learn from it.
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  20. randomx
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    18 February 2021 in reply to Frogsong

    Tbh honest , l kept it very very simple l keep most things l get involved in here just down to the very basics. lt's not that l don't see or hear the things l read about on bb or comment on , l see more than most. But l just don't have the spare mental capacity to get too involved and so l mentioned one or two biggies here and left it.

    Truth is though, there's so many things l'd say, change , would or wouldn't do , l'd be here all night , and l'd just feel like total shit later to boot bc of it. l am where l am now and so be it , now, l'm just hoping l can salvage what's left into some peace and happiness bc without those , what's the point.

    rx

  21. Sophie_M
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    18 February 2021 in reply to randomx
    Hi randomx,

    It sounds like things are rough for you and that you may be in a hopeless space.  I understand that it may be difficult to commit to doing something and not being able to do it later, hense changing what you would or wouldn't do.  I recognise that this can lead to getting down on yourself later.  This forum is here to support you and acknowledge that you going through the posts with consideration to the supports offered.

    Just as a reminder if you would like support by phone or online chat Beyond Blue Support Service is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport.  Our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals. 

    Connecting with one of the counsellor may support you in finding some peace and happiness that you have been wanting.  You are not alone in this, we are here to help.
  22. randomx
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    18 February 2021 in reply to Sophie_M

    Thank you very much Sophie but tbh l'm sort of more referring to past lives and regrets but we can't do much about those now can we. l don't like where l am but honestly , l really couldn't complain there are so many here so much worse of.

    Thanks again. rx

  23. Guest9337
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    23 February 2021

    Its so hard to answer the OP question.

    I'd get a test for von weillerbrands disorder before tonsil surgery, that'd save me six months of ill health.

    I would avoid some bad experiences by : Never visiting a particular pub. Never get so drunk u chuck or pass out. Watch your drink for spikers.

  24. amberlite
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    25 February 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    Hi peeps This ones Sooo easy you my young self are enough so reach that bit higher and expect more for your self and Believe that you are totally capable. Plus follow your gut instincts!
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  25. Andrew-n
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    3 April 2021

    1) The fact your old man killed people for a living will effect you later so be prepared. DONT IGNORE IT!! Seek help now!
    2) Dont do drugs. It will destroy you inside.
    3) Dont drink. It does not agree with you and later in life you will struggle with it.
    4) People that betray you should never be given a second chance.
    5) Ignore politics its just a puppet game.

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