In order to become more myself over time, I became a 'researcher'. This is one of the benefits of the internet. With me having developed an idea of who I basically was, I took it to the next level. With researching, you can either define it as investigating who you are or re-searching (searching again) for you you are, if you've lost your core sense of self.
While you may have been a little natural in kinder, who doesn't think about how to act (you just act like you), looking into 'How do I find my natural self?' could give you clues in regaining that sense of self. Perhaps researching 'How do I balance the observer in me with my more active sense of self?' could also lead you to revelations.
If you're a natural philosopher, researching different philosophers might lead you to vibe with one in particular. 'I would never have considered that perspective in a million years. That's brilliant!' tells you you're experiencing a shift in 'reality'. It's said that reality is often nothing more than 'perspective'. It's like we may all see the same thing or the same event take place, yet it's our individual perspective/experience that dictates how we interact with it, what kind of reality we declare it as being.
Wondering whether you're this person or that person or wondering whether you're perhaps someone different from what you imagine in some ways, is something worth researching. If you don't research, you may never know. 'I am not who I think I am' is a constructive mantra to keep in mind through such research. If someone declares me as boring or weird and I think (mentally process) and then believe 'This is who I am' then this thinking does me a disservice. Now, if I stop thinking and feel myself as someone who's a listener and someone who is outstanding amongst 'normal' people, this can feel true, it can actually feel good at times. Sounds weird but I try not to think too much. I'm more of a feeler when it comes to finding the truth.
I found, once I began to get a more solid sense of who I am, I became more confident through falling in love with different aspects of myself, such as the self that wonders, the self that listens, researches, observes, feels and more. Sometimes you can feel how depressing it is to act like anyone other than yourself.
If you find you wonder far more than anyone else you know, consider the truth as being - you are the most wonderful (wonder full) person you know. There is nothing weird about being so full of wonder :)