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Topic: Quit my job due to depression and anxiety

  1. Jujumac
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    23 September 2020
    Hi Shelby and everyone, I a new here and have just quit my job of 9 years due to bipolar depression.
    this is the second time I have quit my career due to the illness. Unlike you I do not have savings as I am a single mother of 3 children, all adults now but at uni and dependent on me. I left suddenly as I had a breakdown and I expect everyone at work is mad a me and again I have left a long term job with no friends, no-one understands bipolar even though I was working in the community sector with people with disabilities. I am not going to survive financially but couldn't continue my job. I am so angry at myself because I was just at the point of earning a decent wage again after last time and I was just starting to save and now I am back to just surviving. I'm so sick of this roller coaster life.
  2. Sophie_M
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    23 September 2020 in reply to Jujumac

    Hey jujumac,

    Welcome to our online community, we are so glad you decided to join us here. We know it can be hard to write the first post, so thank you for having the courage. We are so sorry to hear that you've been struggling, and have recently quit your job after a breakdown. We can hear that this must be a really stressful time, but please know that many in our community will relate to these feelings and hopefully some of them will pop by soon to offer you words of wisdom and kindness.

    Can we ask if you are you currently receiving mental health support, or have you in the past? We understand it can be really tough to cope sometimes, especially if you don't have a lot of support from family or friends. If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport One of the friendly counsellors can offer you some support but also provide you with advice and referrals.

    Please also know that the lovely counsellors at Lifeline (13 11 14) and Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467) are available to you 24/7 during your most difficult moments.

    Many of our members will understand and may be able to help. If you would like to post further, please tell us more about what's on your mind and how we can best help support you. You might also like to start a new thread so that our community can offer you as much support, advice and conversation as you need. 

  3. PureHoney
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    2 posts
    25 September 2020

    Hi Everyone, i can relate with the OP post and many others.

    I am in a job where it demands much from me, however does not provide any sort of satisfaction. The only reason i can think of why i am still working there is because i need an income. My boss and my team mates are not accommodating, there is no cohesiveness in the team and most work in silo. I asked my self if i even enjoy the nature of the job itself; and most times the answer is no. I am thinking of quitting my job, but at this point of time, we are in the COVID situation and challenging times, where opportunities may be limited. So it is a risk itself. I have left another job in 2018 due to illnesses and took 10 months off. Despite my illness (which i started to slowly recover although not fully), i was in a better position than right now. I meditated, read self-help books, prayed, did hobbies. I am fortunate i have my partner to support me through.

    However, i am encouraged too, reading previous posts, where many have stated that your well-being is wayy more important than a job or money. I have been going through days of depression, i am 37 years old and each day going through the day, feeling this way is wasting my life away. I just worry being a burden on my partner again if i do leave my job.

    I am planning to hang-on until Feb 2021 where it would be a year in this current job, at least it does not look too bad on my CV. I have a 10 months gap from my last job already in there! After that it is another leap of faith into the unknown. But like many have said, you only have 1 life. Why waste your precious minutes, hours, days doing something you do not enjoy; filled with anxiety and depression and dragging yourself out of bed, crying. It is absolutely the worst feeling. Even my physical appearance has taken on a tired weary look! So not worth it.

    Take care xx

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  4. real_name_hidden
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    6 posts
    30 September 2020

    I can also relate to this thread.

    I feel like I am in a job that is untenable, and I am miserable. I am a project manager and my role requires me to manage people to get things done. Following a restructure, the company has been stripped of expertise required to get work done. I get the blame when things aren't done quickly enough or when things go wrong because people didn't have the experience and support to do things right. My workload is too big to manage and when I speak to my boss he just tells me I need to find a way. I want to quit but in the current climate of COVID there are not many options for new work in my field. I have been looking for a new job but I can't help but think things will be just as bad at another company - same clowns, different circus. I also worry that a gap in employment will raise red flags to potential employers and make me unable to find another job.

    I think the people who have left jobs without another one lined up are so brave. I wish I had the courage to do that.

    I am trying to hang on until Feb-2021 when my current list of projects are due to finish their current phase so I can at least have some achievements to point to.

  5. SHELBY MUSTANG
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    14 posts
    23 November 2020 in reply to MlSn

    Hello, well over another year has past since my last post.

    In that time I left my corporate project manager job in 2019 for a public transport role, however I was actually fired for the 1st time in my life as I passed all the tests but did not score high enough on my practical tests, go figure. Blessing in disguise I suppose as that company clearly had no patience and was not willing to invest in people as other organisations would have allowed you to iron out problems with additional training while you grew your skill level.

    So again I found myself unemployed for almost a year before I accepted a job in a contact centre. It was a horrible numbing experience, training was woeful some lazy staff member just read out powerpoint slides for 2 weeks after which we were then thrown on the phones to answer calls unsupervised and with no training on the software.

    We were also constantly threatened with performance management if we did not stay at our desks and answer calls with only a minute allowed between each incoming call. All this for just slightly above minimum wage at $21 an hour.

    The company was a multi national billion dollar outsource provider and I know the equivalent govt position they were replacing would have paid $67,000 with 15% Super as opposed to the 40k we were being paid.

    I thought again I do not want to repeat mistakes in my life and stay in another company treating its workforce a serfdom, so I quit on the Friday afternoon after 2 weeks so I could de-stress over the weekend.

    I then began another period of unemployment in the middle of Covid 19, however after a few months I have managed to find a permanent part time job with local government, I only work a few hours a week but it is relaxing and I no longer have any stress. Money wise I am only earning a quarter of what I was on before so I am looking for another part time job to supplement my income, such as Coles , Woolies shelf stacker or a delivery driver on weekends or nights.

    I also managed to pull money from my savings and bought into the sharemarket at its lowest point in March and sold in November so I am sitting on surplus money which again i have put back into savings as this needs to last me until I retire.

    I lead a very frugal life, no holidays or expensive dinners etc. My only luxury is Fish and Chips on Saturday night, I make do with my small earning but I have my mental health and that is worth more than a large salary in a stressful, unrewarding corporate job.

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    24 November 2020 in reply to SHELBY MUSTANG

    Hi Shelby Mustang,

    Welcome back! It sounds like you have had quite a time in the work force since you last connected here.

    You mentioned you live a very frugal life, I consider we can do that in different ways. We can be down right miserly and make ourselves miserable, or we can live within our means and make the most of what we have.

    Money can be an issue for many people. I like to pack a simple picnic lunch and a drink and go for a drive somewhere, find a park or a peaceful place and enjoy my lunch. When funds are really low, I wait until I have an appointment in a different town, then do the same thing, I am combining a trip I had to make with a bit of enjoyment as well.

    There are lots of things we can do to make the most out of each day without spending a lot of money.

    Hope you continue to enjoy this job and you are able to find a position to help you pout a little more.

    Cheers from Dools

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