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Topic: New Question

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  1. chrisjr9
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    2 September 2021
    I recently lost my father and am still processing the event. My father and I have the most special relationship a parent and daughter could have. I was at the hospital with him every single day. He was in ICU, and it was heartbreaking to see him in such a state. I wish I had had another chance to speak with him. My heart will never be the same after this experience.
  2. Sophie_M
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    2 September 2021 in reply to chrisjr9
    Hi Chrisjr9,

    Thank you for sharing this. We’re sorry for your loss, this must be really difficult, so please know that we're here, and that you've taken a really good step in sharing how you're feeling. 

    Are you connected with any bereavement or mental health support currently? We'd definitely recommend talking to Griefline about this, on 1300 845 745 (6am to midnight AEST every day). Please know that you're not alone with this, you can call the Beyond Blue helpline at any time, on 1300 22 4636. They can help you talk this through and will also be able to help you plan what's next so that you have that support in place.

    We hope you're able to be kind to yourself through this, as you've been so kind in sharing your experience here. You never know how your story might help someone else, so do feel free to share more if you're comfortable to. Some of the other community members may be able to relate to what you're going through, and might be along soon to share their kindness and understanding, here on your thread.

    Kind regards, 

    Sophie M 
  3. Petal22
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    2 September 2021 in reply to chrisjr9

    Hi chrisjr9,

    Wellcome to our forums!

    So sorry for your loss of your father…

    Its so beautiful that you had such a close relationship with him….

    I understand that your experience with him in ICU would have been heartbreaking..

    Im sure he appreciated that you were there and all the wonderful years you spent together as father and daughter….. a father and daughter bond can never be broken it’s for life now that he has departed you can still hold onto that special bond of once was…

    Hes still with you every day he’s never far away he’s in the air that you breath, the wind in your hair , the sweet smelling ocean and waves crashing down he’s there…… never loose faith…… until you meet again…

    here to chat

  4. smallwolf
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    2 September 2021 in reply to chrisjr9

    Hello there and welcome to the beyond blue forums.

    So sad and sorry to hear about the death of your father. It sounds as though you had a very special relationship with him and demonstrated by the fact that you spent that time with him. As petal22 said ... I am sure he appreciated your being there.

    In relation to healing or moving on... There is no set period or timeframe. It is unique to all of us. And we each have to work out our own path forward. You could talk to friends and family or even a professional about the good times and the not so good. Or the things you and he liked to do. Or do something in his name?

    And if it helps to write about him here that is another possibility. Know that we are listening to you.

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