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Forums / Grief and loss / Recently bereaved

Topic: Recently bereaved

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  1. Niamhs mum
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    31 March 2021
    we lost our youngest daughter on 21st february very suddenly - it has thrown our world off its axis and our family is distraught. She was our baby and at 21 yrs old had so many hopes and dreams. Each day is a living hell and the pain is so overwhelming.
  2. Sophie_M
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    31 March 2021 in reply to Niamhs mum
    Hi Niamhs mum,

    We are so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. We hear how painful this must be, and our thoughts are with you. Grief is something that takes time to work through. While everyone finds their own way to grieve it's important to have the support of friends and family or someone else, and to talk about your loss when you need to. Please know that you can talk about this here whenever you feel it is of benefit to you.

    We hope that you and your family have some support during this painful time. You may want to get in touch with Griefline - 1300 845 745. GriefLine provides counselling support services free of charge to individuals who are experiencing loss and grief 6am-midnight AEST.

    It's important to take care of yourself through this pain and grief. You might be interested in one of our threads, Three self-care things you did today! for some inspiration on small ways you can practice self care. 

    We want to thank you for sharing your story here and reaching out to the community. Hopefully a few of our members will be by over the next few days to share some words of support. 
  3. white knight
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    31 March 2021 in reply to Niamhs mum

    Hi, welcome

    There is a point when nothing helps the grief process and as humans we have to allow time and sorrow to get us through. Up till then we can be supportive and offer suggestions.

    Some people I've known have a special garden dedicated to their loved one, others a group of photos and others simply pack up the caravan and travel around. For me its poetry that helps me cope, maybe writing things down can help. Distraction, keeping busy can be a good outlet.

    Here is one I wrote many years ago that is copied for you today-

    to Niamhs mum


    On your saddest day
    You take a daisy flower
    You pick petal for each of your woes
    And count them by the hour

    And when they become a stem
    And petals line the floor
    Gather them up in your loving arms
    Put them in your store

    When you enter spirit land
    It be snowing like Daisy Dell
    Flowers thrown in celebration
    By faces you can tell

    Then you throw your own
    And you will include the stems
    Cause that’s what bound these petals together
    A meaning to and end

    They will pick up the last flower
    Of this daisy chain
    Reunited and delighted
    Connected once again

    A simple daisy flower
    Messages you can’t ignore
    A petal for each of your woes
    Are littering the floor

    So on your saddest days
    You take a daisy flower
    Feel free to pick a petal for each of your woes
    And count them by the hour

    For your heart will glue them all together again
    When it’s time to travel above
    For your girl a gift in your pocket
    The daisy chain of love…..

    repost anytime


  4. Philomena
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    20 May 2021 in reply to Niamhs mum

    Dear Niamhs mum

    i am very sorry to hear of your daughters passing. I can understand what you must be feeling.

    The pain can never go away as I too have lost a son 7 years old and have never been able to get over his loss though years have flown.

    But you need to move on and one way is to cherish memories and times your daughter spent with you . You can speak to your friends and family of those happy times .

    Get involved with doing something you may like or with some activities with friends. Talk to a friend you trust share your feelings with them.

    stay strong and take care

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