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  1. Paw Prints
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    7 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hannah, wave to Katy, Tayla & all,

    I wrote a review on the book thread for "American Gods", I think you would hate it from the types of books you have mentioned liking. I was very disappointed with it.

    Most people think that because they are so big Great Danes need lots of exercise, but they are really full blown couch potatoes. They like to do zoomies where they run around in a circle or figure 8 at full pace, but only for a few minutes & that's pretty much it exercise wise. Woofa has about half an acre securely fenced that he can wander about in, stalk critters, or play with the neighbour's cows through the fence. Most of the time he's inside laying about like lord muck.

    Sorry to hear you have fibromyalgia, my nephew has it & it's horrible. Please don't feel you can't talk about your illnesses physical or mental it's what we are here for. I find my physical ailments can have a big impact on my mental health & I'm sure it's the same for everyone else.

    It's still so smokey here, looking down the valley the view is lost behind the smoke, even looking across to the other side it's bad.

    Pats to Sam

    Hugs all

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  2. Hanna3
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    7 February 2020 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws,

    I'm just about to go to bed... is there a fire near you somewhere that you're getting a lot of smoke? Hope you're OK there and quite safe...

    Oooh I'll look up your book review - I had a look at some reviews online and I didn't think it sounded like me....

    Sorry to hear you have some physical problems that give you trouble too. Fibromyalgia is nasty it's sooo painful and the pain makes me tired...

    I thought Great Danes would need lots of exercise so now I have learned something thanks Paws! They really just want to lounge around and break couches.. wonderful! How nice to have cows next door now that does sound pleasant - I feel like I'm in suburbia here that's part of the problem - I need some land/bush around me, I just look onto other people's backyards and houses it's yuk and worst of all for me, there's no privacy and no beauty. I guess in the snow it didn't look so bad and I thought once the trees were in leaf it would be private but nope. Plus the Rottweilers go bezerk every time I go outside and alert the entire neighbourhood that I'm in my yard... I like my privacy so I hate that. Boy am I in the wrong spot here...

    I could go to my writing group tomorrow, but the men are all writing Sci Fi which is not my thing, and one reads out an entire story which takes at least half an hour and it's always dreadful and he wants everybody to admire it and I just zone out - and the French woman next to me last time confessed as we went out that she did too and she wasn't sure if she would come back again... so I'm thinking I'll give it a miss. I'd rather be in the nice café reading my lovely Irish book... Gosh I'm becoming antisocial here!

    Oh well we have a chamber orchestra out from Germany at the end of next week playing some beautiful music and I am treating myself to that on the Saturday night next week - it costs more than I should pay but since I had a lousy Christmas alone I am going along to hear some lovely music.

    Sam was having a lovely time playing with a stick in the park this afternoon, he carries it around running like he thinks he's a big tough guy, the bigger the stick the more he huffs and puffs - two workmen nearby thought he was gorgeous and came over and played with him which was rather nice...

    Sending hugs your way Paws, and I'll look up that review of yours! Take care, furry waves to Woofa from Sam xx

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    8 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello :)

    Bummed out I forgot what day it was and I never got to the library to get a new book out. I've nothing to read for the weekend now. I'm loathe to go buy another book in case it's awful and I've wasted money again, which I can't afford to do. I wonder if there's any op shops open...

    Great Danes are interesting dogs. I met a lady at dog training classes that had 2, and my staffy hit it off with her younger one. I ended up going to her house for a play date and it was so much fun. Her young one used to bounce up and down like an excited pony, and crack me up. And her other one was really old and mellow but loved playing tug of war with Stormy. The GD would just stand there holding one end of a toy, and Storm would be tugging with all her might, which had us in fits of laughter. They were such a gorgeous pair :)

    Well, not sure what I'm going to do with myself for the weekend. It's cool so not even beach weather. wahhhh

    Katy

  4. Hanna3
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    8 February 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy! (waves to Paws!)

    I absolutely know how you feel I live in terror of not having a good book to read!!! It's why I always keep a couple at home that I haven't read yet that look OK in case of times like that... I don't know what I'm going to do when I finish "This is Happiness" it's such a delightful book, and the writer has another book in the library but someone has it out on loan and someone else has a reserve on it before me, oh no!!! Once I find an author I like I tend to read everything by them... so I'm going to feel quite bereft!

    I often find cheap books on World of Books Australia, worth checking out as I find they're very prompt with postage and often you can buy a copy which is merely "good" or acceptable and not pay much...

    I skipped my writing group today, slept in it was so nice to have a cool overcast morning and Sam slept in too. Then I bought the newspaper and had a coffee and I'm just back from walking Sam, I'm so tired of the same little park we went to the university campus here - I tried him there several times when we first came here and he was too frightened - well he must be bored with the same park too now, as he walked around the campus panting with excitement! He loved it! There are kangaroos everywhere so he has to stay on a lead and his eyes were out on stalks when he saw them.

    I thought there would be students around but it was very empty - when does the Uni year go back?

    Anyway now I'm having lunch and was going to go to my favourite café and curl up in an armchair again but am actually feeling instead like a lie down, oh dear!

    I loved your description of the dogs playing - Storm could cope with a Great Dane but I'm not sure how little Sam would manage - although of course like all little dogs he thinks he's a big tough guy....

    I hope you find a way to fill in the day... I'll check in again later to say hi to people. I find these forums a real help when I am feeling lonely as now I know some people to chat with it's really nice!

    Take care and thank you for the lovely description of the doggies playing tug o war together!!!! Hugs xx

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    9 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello

    You did give me a giggle on my thread and I appreciated that yesterday, but wasn't able to reply as BB had a glitch again and I couldn't post. Yes, being bookless is worth being sad about. I actually do have quite a lot of books on my bookshelf that I haven't read. Just none that I want to read either. But I might take a chance on one this afternoon. What's the worst that can happen right? Perhaps it gets added to the "had a go, but didn't like it pile". Are you still loving your current read? And how's The Bridge going? Did you end up finishing it?

    The uni campus walk sounds nice. I haven't taken Storm to ours for a while. We have kangaroos there too, so it's a definite leash walk, but lots of lovely smells and surrounded by bush, so it's really pretty. I might do that later today :) All uni timetables are different, but ours goes back the end of this month. I've been trying to get in quick and put text books on hold at the library before anyone else does, so I can save a bit of money. Some of them are so expensive. I don't mind if I can pick them up second hand, but our lecturer has prescribed a new one for this year for the Legal and Ethical unit and I'd rather not have to buy it!

    Dogs playing together are one of the greatest joys in life, I think. I just adore watching them. The dog training group I used to attend had social gatherings too, and sometimes there would be 30 dogs there of all breeds and sizes. We would do a bush walk or beach walk or just play on the oval and it would be magnificent chaos! Storm is a ball of energy, but you'd have shy ones, aloof ones, working dogs rounding all the other dogs up, dogs wrestling, tug of war, and the occasional bite on the bum, but gosh it was fun. I really miss it, but the lady running it left.

    Well I need to go and restring my clothesline so that I can do some washing. What are you up to today?

    Katy

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    9 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    ok have decided on either:

    The Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold

    or

    The Other Eden by Ben Elton

    Have you read either? Otherwise I'll toss a coin ;)

  7. Hanna3
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    9 February 2020 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws,

    I hope you are OK today and the heat and smoke where you are are a bit less. Just wanted to say hello. Hugs from us here xx

  8. Hanna3
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    9 February 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hmmm Katy I'm not a fan of anything Ben Elton likes - but I have a friend who loves his books.

    I think I wasn't crazy about the Sebold either, read it long ago but it would be depressing. Have you got anything else on your shelves you haven't read? Maybe if down try the Ben Elton over Sebold as hers is a depressing topic and Elton's usually funny I think - just not my thing...

    Now if only you didn't live over the other side of Australia I could hand you a bundle of lovely books, darn!

    Let me know how you go with either of them.... xx

  9. Hanna3
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    9 February 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy,

    Glad I gave you a smile on your thread, that was the idea! Being bookless is a horrifying thought for me...truly!

    I am up to series 3 of The Bridge, she has the new partner who is rather good I think - oooh isn't her mother dreadful though framing her for her murder! I think the main actress who plays Saga is amazing. I love her facial expressions and the way she uses her eyes.

    The walk around the Uni here is lovely, it's up high near the mountain and some lovely old original buildings and gardens. I prefer it when the students are there as it can feel a bit creepily alone otherwise and nobody else is around... but it's a good long walk for Sam with all sorts of interesting smells. The roos don't like him though!

    I remember texbooks for Uni used to cost a fortune...

    I am in love with Niall Williams, what a pity he lives in Ireland and is married... sigh. He's written several books including one nominated for a Booker prize, they all sound wonderful, I wish I could have bought them all... I slowly will, one at a time, second hand from online shops. I love the characters he writes, the landscape sounds amazing, and it's set when not only are the villagers first getting electricity, but also climate change is starting to hit, and the rain stops and they keep getting sunny days which go on too long and nobody has light enough clothes because it's always been so cold - so it's pretty topical in that way.

    I bought Sam a new bed today but of course he refuses to lie in it...

    Not that you asked for suggestions, but I could suggest a couple your library should have - a fairly new book by a Melbourne writer, Invented Lives by Andrea Goldsmith, about a Russian girl who emigrates to Australia - made me realize just how difficult it is for a new migrant to adjust to a strange country. It's a very enjoyable read, not too heavy. The other one is The Erratics by Vicki Laveau-Harvey. She was a lecturer in French studies at Macquarie University and wrote an autobiographic book about her mother with mental heath problems - well be prepared for an astonishing book!

    On that note I had better go and make some dinner. Take care dear Katy, pats to Storm, xxx

  10. Hanna3
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    9 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3
    Sorry, Ben Elton writes, not likes! I had a phone call in the middle of typing...
  11. Hanna3
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    9 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Excuse my errors Katy I should never type swivelled sideways on the couch with the laptop beside me...

    autobiographical not autobiographic... duh!

    Both books are fairly recent and have been best sellers. The Erratics was a book a friend of mine here had to read for her psychology course at the Uni here. Her mother is astounding...

    Happy reading! xx

  12. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    9 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hi Hanna

    Really got stuck into the gardening this afternoon, and my brother popped round to help me with some things around the place that I couldn't do myself, so I didn't end up reading anything. You put me off both the books I'd tentatively decided on anyway - which is fine! I had a google of some of the other titles on my shelf, but most are thrillers, which I'm not in the mood for. I do have The Dovekeepers by Alice Hoffman, which had mixed reviews. Have you read that one at all? The library is open tomorrow and I like the sounds of the two you've suggested, so I'm going to look for those :)

    Mmm speaking of beds, I really need to get the cats a new one. I think you'd appreciate the set up I have. I pinched a set of shelves out of my son's room after he left, and put it in the loungeroom. I've filled the shelves with books, except for one, which I've put a bed on for the cats. They just love it there! You were talking about getting a cat - have you decided against it?

    Talk tomorrow. Hugs to you both x

  13. Hanna3
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    10 February 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy,

    I haven't heard of the book you mention. Mary Lawson is a Canadian writer whom I enjoy very much, you could look for The Other Side of the Bridge or Crow Lake by her - she writes family sagas, I like reading about the Canadian countryside too.

    I'm going to try and return Sam's new bed today if Big W will - he won't get into it and I suspect I've bought a size too small... Your shelves sound like a great idea! I didn't decide against a kitten permanently but just for the time being - I think it was because of heat exhaustion but Sam's separation anxiety was so much better during the heat, I think when I had to go into aircon for a couple of hours for my own health he got used to me being away, and I thought getting a kitten might disrupt him again, so I'm leaving it for the time being. I would love one eventually - but maybe not here...

    I'm anxious today as I have to see the GP late this afternoon for scripts, and they seem to think once you've got any MH history you must imagine everything, and I get severe neurological pain but t the last visit she halved my pain meds, I've been in so much pain I contacted my old GP and he said to go back on the full dosage and see her again today... but I'm not feeling happy about her.

    We have sunshine today and it looks like the week will get warm again, oh no! I hope we don't go back to that awful heat....

    Good luck at the library today, do let me know if you find anything good to read! Take care hugs xx

  14. Hanna3
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    10 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3
    I read your review Paws, definitely will give American Gods a miss thank you! I hope you are OK. Hugs to Woofa. Take care xxx
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    Hi all.

    I'm not a huge reading fan so I'm not sure what to say.

    Tayla

  16. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    10 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    I seem to have climbed into the anxiety pit too today :( I always yearn for uni to start so I'll be kept busy with something, but then as soon as it gets near I experience the same old feelings of not being good enough. Despite the fact I've passed 3 years with good grades, it hits every time. I'm full of stress and tears, and wishing time would slow down, because I'm not ready! ugghh

    I hope your gp visit went ok and you managed to get your pain meds upped again? Let us know how you went. I'm going to shower and go to the library and hope that mends my mood. I'll check in when I get back. Sorry for the downer on your thread... perhaps I should have put this on my own.

    Anxiety sux. Katy

  17. Hanna3
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    10 February 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy, well that's two of us having an anxiety-filled day so I'm gad you posted as I don't feel like I'm the only one now!

    I'm in a state because this GP wasn't very nice last time and I'm so anxious that she's going to be unpleasant, or refuse to help with my pain medication, that I've had to go to bed for a while and just try to shut out the day...

    I got up a little while ago and made myself make an appointment with a GP at a different practice in 3 weeks' time because I noticed she has a mental health qualification - I actually prefer men doctors, but the receptionist when I rang and explained recommended her, so that makes me feel like I've got a back up if today is no good I guess - although trying yet another new GP is super stressful.

    Took Sam for a walk this morning but the sun was so hot we had to cut it short. I liked the cool days better.

    So it's fine to put a downer comment on my thread, please do feel absolutely free, as you can see it's made me feel less alone!

    I can totally understand your anxiety before starting Uni again, everything feels overwhelming again. Once you've started you'll be better, it's the anticipation that starts the anxiety as I know very well from today! (Wishing I'd made an early appointment it's not until 5pm so I have to be anxious all day...)

    Am wishing I hadn't moved from a place where I didn't feel scared all the time like I do here. I've thought of ringing Lifeline today but that's really stressful too, so I haven't.

    I've got to return some books to the library and then go on and see this unpleasant GP and hope I get the scripts I need... otherwise it's been a horrible day.

    I hope you find something good to read, do come back on later and let me know. And it will be nice to hear back from someone also suffering anxiety today as I must be about a 10 on the Richter Scale today!

    If you hang on, I will, and together we'll get through this at least today... hold tight! Hugs from me and Sam xxx HUGS

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    10 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    dear oh dear, quite the pair today aren't we?

    How did you get on? I really hope the gp was kind to you today. Although I'm glad you've found someone with mental health qualifications, I think that will be better. It seems not all gp's are sensitive to our needs.

    I managed to drag myself out of the house, though it took some convincing. Even the library made me anxious, so I didn't stay long. They had Invented Lives that you recommended, but not the other. I found The Merry-Go-Round in The Sea by Randolph Stow instead. Not sure if you've heard of or read that one, but it sounded interesting. I didn't even read the first page, which I always do, so there's anxiety for you.

    Anyway, I'm back home in my safe space, and thought I'd see how you're managing. Pop by and say hi when you're ready x

    Big hugs xxxx

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    10 February 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy,

    Yes we are a good pair today! When does Uni go back? When I took Sam to the campus here this morning it looked like students were being shown around, so I wondered if it was O-Week? I guess as the time gets closer your anxiety is shooting up. Understandable but once you settle back in you know you'll be fine dear lady - you're passing well, you can do this. It's just unnerving until you get started and then you'll soon be back in the swing of it. You know you're a capable lady, look at what you have achieved so far! Have confidence dear Katy you are up for this! Are there any things that help your anxiety? I can't talk, I had to go to bed today - but are there any things/places/practices that help to calm you? Medication? Do whatever you can to help calm it down, and remember you are a bright, articulate woman!

    Let me know when you start and how it goes OK? I really do care and would like to know how you go. I do remember what Uni was like and how anxious I was at times!

    I'm glad you found Invented Lives and the Randolph Stow is one I haven't read so I must check the library here for it! A shame they didn't have The Erratics as I think you'd enjoy that - maybe you could request the library purchase it?

    My GP visit was an absolute shocker. This woman GP is the third I've seen at the same group practice. I'm on a Schedule 8 med which they have to phone up to get (which is quick and easy). She said I had to go back to the doctor there that I hated to get it. I said she cannot force me to see a doctor I do not want to see. She then asked me why I didn't like her colleague as lots of people do. How inappropriate to enquire why I didn't want to see a colleague of hers! (It's a large group practice).

    I replied that as I told her at the last visit, I simply didn't like the first GP's manner. She said again but lots of people like her. I said and lots of people say they would never see her again. Now will you give me the script or do I need to leave to another practice to get it?

    So she rang and got the script and I walked out and will never go there again. I was shaking it was so unpleasant and nasty.

    Surely I have the right at a group practice to decide I am more comfortable with one doctor than another? That has been the case at any group practice I have attended.

    I do so wish I'd never come here... my GP in Coastal Town was so pleasant...

    Courage Katy dear you are doing well. Have confidence in yourself! HUGS HUGS

  20. Missing user
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    10 February 2020

    Just wanted to say hi everyone.

    And does anyone like my new profile picture? I found it on Google searching Floral Pictures.

    As gorgeous as my Dog Buddy is who was my previous profile picture (he's 11 & a Fox Terrier), I thought I'd change it because why not? It's so colourful & pretty to me, there were so many nice ones!

    Loving everyone's profile pics also!

    Love and hugs all around,

    Tayla xo

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    Hi all - new person here. Came to this post as I have regular patches of time where I don't speak to anyone, and I have friends but no one close, and no one who speaks to me more than once every two weeks.... Stayed here for the book talk and the flowers :) Hope everyone is doing something nice today. Thanks for mentioning Talya that it is a new picture, still trying to see who everyone is. May have to choose a picture myself now with that inspiration....xx Vanessa
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  22. Missing user
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    10 February 2020 in reply to Sleepy21

    Hey Vanessa. It must be autocorrect when you type my name but that's alright haha, it happens.

    I understand how you feel, I spend too much time on the Internet in general because I'm just so used to it & just a routine I suppose. I wish I had more to do & wasn't on it so much. I don't talk to anyone either, especially in person, so I relate.

    Yeah we put pictures up of random things because as you know, the forums are moderated and we can't have pictures of what we all look like up here and whatnot, but that's understandable.

    Good luck finding a nice picture!

    Tayla x

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    Morning Hanna, wave to everyone,

    It seems to be the season... I have a GP visit for me to get scripts later this morning. My GP is nice-ish, though like your GP Hanna she makes such a big deal about having to ring & get authorisation for one of my meds. It's not hard!!! OK grumble over.

    How unprofessional to challenge you about why you don't want to see the other doctor. That's none of her business. No wonder you were shaking when you left. It's good to hear you may have found an understanding GP (& with mh experience), fingers & paws crossed your visit goes well. Though by the sound of things it's not a very high bar she will need to get over to be better than the disaster of a GP practice you've had to date.

    The smoke here has mostly cleared but the humidity is still a shocker.... well it is for Victoria....

    I think I've caught "Great Dane syndrome" as the last few days all I have seem to have done is sleep....more sleep... get up have a quick feed.....go & puddle.... back to bed.... repeat.....

    It's horrible that you are feeling scared all the time, no wonder you're anxiety is high lass. I'll pinch what you wrote to Katy..... "but are there any things/places/practices that help to calm you? Medication? Do whatever you can to help calm it down, and remember you are a bright, articulate woman!" ... because Lass this applies just as well to you....

    Do either of you have a safety plan in place?...... Something written down for when you are feeling overwhelmed, or anxious & unable to think clearly....that you can turn to for the coping strategies... tips & tricks that you find helpful..... poems.... recipes.... whatever works for you. There are guides available to give you some ideas of the sorts of things you might like to include.... BB has info under Suicide safety plans.... you don't have to be feeling that bad to find it helpful.... there is also a thread

    https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/coping-strategies

    Sending you huggily hugs

    Paws

  24. Hanna3
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    11 February 2020 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hello Paws! It's nice to see you back and OK!

    I've been wondering how you are, good to see you here again. Sounds like you've needed a few lazy days, good for you! Thanks for posting a reply...

    I was exhausted from the stress last night and had to go to bed early. I don't understand what those doctors are fussing about. My understand in a group practice is that you have the right to see another doctor there if you want, why not? All the medical records are there at the practice... And they can't force me to see a doctor I don't want to see.

    As for asking me why I didn't like a colleague of hers, I thought that was highly in appropriate. I don't know if it's gossip she wants, or what. I should not have to explain that to another GP there, which is why I simply said "I don't like her manner" which doesn't give her any detailed information. And then she pressed the point by saying that other people liked her - well so what! I evidently don't! I came away feeling that the practice is toxic.

    Unfortunately the other GP with MH experience is at a neighbouring practice now bought out by this practice, so I'm wondering if it's now going to be included in the toxicity of this practice... and I got chatting to one of the nice librarians at the library here before I went to the doctor's visit, and she was saying how hard she'd found it to get a good GP here and I mentioned the new one I might go to and she didn't think she was very nice... so now I 'm not sure about that one. Where to go????!!!

    Coping mechanisms - I haven't worked out much here as there have been so few nice places to go over the summer of heat, smoke and dust. Usually I retreat to just walking Sam and staying quiet with him. He's my safe place I guess. There were serene nice places to retreat to in coastal town but with the fires heat etc this summer and drought I haven't been able to find any places like that here.

    I've emailed my old GP friend back in the city and asked him his advice, and I might put a thread on BB as well about it, see if anyone can help...

    I think I'll go and buy the ticket to the classical music concert this Saturday night today, so I have something nice to look forward to. I have no company here day after day after day. I think I need a treat so I'll pay $35 to go to the concert Saturday. And get my scripts made up.

    How are you, how's Woofa, keep in touch, hugs from us here xx

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    11 February 2020

    Hi all.

    Wow Hanna I'm so sorry to hear about your struggles with the GP & whatnot. I'm going through the same things actually. My GP is horrible, she doesn't do her job at all. She doesn't do tests like she should so my blood pressure & weight.

    She also told me she doesn't even communicate with my Psychiatrist & doesn't even read his letters. She doesn't even know his name & what meds I'm on despite it all being in the letters, I have to go in & explain everything when it's on my file!

    She just has no knowledge of anything, not even that my Psychiatrist gives me therapy & Medicare do pay for it since she thinks they don't. Wow.

    & yeah my GP will hold it against me if I see another one. I'm in the process of finding another GP.

    I hope things get better for you Hanna, and everyone.

    Love and hugs to all of you.

    Tayla x

  26. Hanna3
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    11 February 2020 in reply to Missing user

    Hi Tayla,

    I think a lot of people here on BB find their GPs are not good at dealing with mental heath issues at all, so you're not alone. It's a good idea to try to find another one, yours does not sound as if she is doing her job properly at all. It's much more difficult in the country unfortunately as you have fewer GPs to choose from. Good luck!

    I like your new picture it's nice to have a change sometimes isn't it! Good luck and take care, xx

  27. Missing user
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    11 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hey Hanna.

    That's quite sad that a lot of people have GPs who don't specialise in mental health. If only there were more who did.

    Yeah I'll try to find another one, I've been looking at a clinic 30 mins away. A bit far to travel there & back but we go to that place a lot, & I guess it's better than being treated like this.

    Thanks I found the picture on Google searching Floral Pictures, so many nice ones. Yours is cute too, is that Sam?

    Good luck to you and take care aswell. Love and hugs,

    Tayla

  28. Hanna3
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    11 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hi again Paws, waves to Katy,

    Had a shocker of a day, what a downer - if either of you is around later would love to hear from you - just a few kind words would do! Hope you're both OK, hugs from us here xx

  29. Hanna3
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    11 February 2020 in reply to Missing user

    Hi Tayla,

    I appreciate your offer, but it is OK for me to like to talk to a couple of people that I have come to know quite well here. It's not personal to you or the other person you mention. I have been talking to Paws and Katy for some time and I like to talk with them sometimes. Thank you anyway.

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    11 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3
    Dear Hanna (hi to Paws, Katy, Tayla and all your friends here) 😃

    Sorry to hear you're having a shocker today! We are all here to listen if you feel like unburdening.

    I really hope you can find another GP, how dare she ask "why" you don't like to see a certain other! Time to change doctors. Next!

    Did you get to have a walk with Sam today?

    So in an attempt to distract you from your bad day, i will tell you that today in my letterbox was Olive Kitteridge from World of Books (yay!). Loved the miniseries, and am looking firward to the book.

    Did you finish This Is Happiness? I received a message from the library this morning saying that is waiting for me, double yay!

    I told you last time that i recently finished History of the Rain (my first Niall Williams) and loved his style. I then read Boy In The World last week, and hated it! Foubnd it so boring, and completely different to History of the Rain.

    I tried a couple of other Elizabeth Strouts, wasn't a huge fan of My Name Is Lucy Barton, but quite enjoyed The Burgess Boys.

    I also read The Erratics last week. I liked her style (and what a mother!!) but i found it a little unsatisfying in some way ... like the story never really unfolded about why ?? I don't know, but i gave it 3 stars on Goodreads for the writing.

    Thank you so much for your lovely reply last week, and you're right, i haven't been around the forums as much, and yes it's been about the fires, i am ok, just so emotionally drained with everything. But i am starting to get back into the swing of things very slowly.

    Did you hear anything from the feral neighbours after you left a note about the fence/dog situation?


    Well, i hope you are very gentle with yourself this afternoon, and i hope you can do something nice for yourself and Sam.

    Sending good vibes, and just give yourself a whole lot of compassion, you've been going through so much. Be kind to you.

    🌻birdy

    PS Katy i would echo Hanna and also not recommend The Lovely Bones - i found it very disturbing and quite disturbed on many levels.

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