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Topic: Anyone had to spend days alone without anyone to talk to?

  1. Paw Prints
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    26 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello all,

    Dools I hope you managed to find something to keep you occupied today... did you manage a walk in your garden or have the cold fronts kept you indoors?...

    Hi Sleepy I hope you have a good week too...

    Hanna you have had a lot on your plate lately... hopefully a quiet day or two will help... rest up lass

    Hugs

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    26 July 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    hi all!

    how is everyone? hope ur okay hanna, how are u doing today?

    Thanks so much Paws. Thanks dools...hope ur quarantine is okay...i know it can seem long and dull :(

    It has been a bit boring here and had to get a covid test as well, but hope all is alright :) hope ur staying warm

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  3. Hanna3
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    26 July 2021 in reply to Sleepy21

    Hi sleepy

    Sorry I wasn't well last night and left a message here to say I wouldn't be around. I hope today goes better for you. Hugs. 😊

  4. Doolhof
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    26 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hi Paws, Hanna, Sleepy and All reading,

    Hope you all have something planned for today that will put a smile on your face or at least make you feel like the day was worthwhile.

    I have no idea how I am going to fill my day yet, haven't decided so will just go with the flow. It is windy here again and we are expected to have a top of 18 before afternoon rains, so I am going to be outside and enjoy the early part of the day.

    Yesterday I found a 1 metre length of broken off tree in the garden. I took that bit and left other bits for critters that might need a home. The section I chose, had a grove in it where the dead wood had rotted out a little so I filled it with soil and put some succulents in it. I will see how they like their new environment.

    I found a sheltered spot in the garden, took some cushions of the bench and snuggled down for a snooze with the sun warming my back.

    Hope you are all doing okay and Sleepy hope the Covid test is negative.

    We are doing another phone order for shopping today! I am excited! It is like Christmas when your groceries arrive! Ha. Ha. Doesn't take much for me to feel excited!!! Cheers all from Dools

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  5. Hanna3
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    26 July 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Dools!

    I think you're amazing! The tree branch idea sounds terrific I wish we could see it!

    I have woken up to bright sunshine which is amazing so I've stripped the bed and an doing a big wash before taking Sam out.

    The river here was so high yesterday part's of the path along it were completely flooded.

    I am trying to write a letter to the local MP here but it's hard to have to sit in the library and type it..

    I'm hopeful I will have my computer back soon it's so difficult to read and type on this tiny phone!

    Good on you Mrs D!

    Hugs 😊🧚‍♂️🎆🦘😷🧩🌷🎸🍃

  6. Hanna3
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    27 July 2021 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi. Paws and everyone

    I'm having trouble finding where I log in and I can't find my threads so please excuse me if I miss someone.

    Lovely day here but I have a severe pain flare up so taking it quietly.

    Take care dear paws and everyone 🌷😷🦘🎆🧚‍♂️💕

  7. Hanna3
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    27 July 2021 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws, Dools, everyone

    Please excuse me tonight as I've had a bad pain flare up all day. I've got my laptop back repaired, hooray, but I miss the emojis! Had an interesting conversation with a woman who is a volunteer counsellor for Lifeline... while I was sitting in a park with Sam this morning - but the pain has got the better of me now and i'm going to have a rest. Hope everyone is OK.. Pats to lovely Woofa, Paws! oxoxoxo

  8. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    27 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hi Hanna, everyone :)

    Hanna, that’s great your got your laptop sorted. You’ll be able to get back to YouTubing while you rest. I was considering volunteering for Lifeline (saw them advertising) but seems odd given I use them lol. Do you think it’s something you might like to do? Or you just enjoyed the convo?

    It blew an absolute gale here overnight and I got no sleep, so I’m tired and lazy now. Hugs to all, Katy

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    27 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hanna, Dools, Katy, Sleepy, Grandy & everyone,

    Dools I love that you left some fallen branch bits for the critters in your garden... you are brave having a snooze in the sunshine... I would be worried about being joined by a snake or two....

    Hanna sorry to hear you are having a pain flareup.... hopefully resting up in bed with your electric blanket on will help...

    Another day spent mostly in bed here

    Hugs to all

    Paws

  10. Doolhof
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    27 July 2021 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hello to you all,

    Paws, it is too cold and wet here for snakes. I have seen plenty of them in the garden though, trodden on a huge black snake in the dry grass, had one in the garage when I went to get in the car and pulled up a handful of baby browns while weeding under the daisy bush! God isn't ready for me yet! Ha. Ha.

    Hanna, I too hope your pain eases and you are able to cope. Congratulations on getting your lap top back. The chat with the lady from Life Line may have been interesting. I have had some wonderful help and support from those people and BB as well. They all deserve medals for what they do.

    Katy, I don't think the wind has stopped blowing here since we have been in quarantine! Thankfully some parts of the garden are protected a little.

    Yesterday I was really struggling with depression and anxiety. I stood out in the garden facing the howling wind and the rain and felt like screaming...but didn't want to freak the neighbours out, so just screamed in my mind. It was refreshing being blown about and pelted with rain.

    The wind is still blowing a gale outside.

    Hope you all have ways to stay entertained today. Kind thoughts to you all from Dools

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  11. Hanna3
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    27 July 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Dools paws everyone

    Hang in there Dools how many more days to go?

    When I got home the laptop isn't working so I'm taking it back to the repair shop this morning!

    Hope to chat later hugs 💖🌞🌷🎆🌹

  12. Hanna3
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    28 July 2021 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi. Paws and everyone

    Is it the weather sending you to bed most of the day Paws? You were doing so well clearing your house up a while ago.

    How are your relatives in the city?

    Is there anyone in your town you can chat to or do they all keep in their own groups like they do here?

    I hope I get my laptop back today oh dear...

    Thinking of you dear Paws and Dools!

    😷🌼🎆🌸🌹💖🐕

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    28 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello to yo all,

    Hanna, sorry to read you are still having trouble with your laptop, that is a bother.

    Paws, sorry to read about your aches and pains being worse when the weather changes. I've heard people say their bones/joints/ muscles ache when the temperature changes. My back just aches all the time!

    I fell over in the garden a couple of days ago and then again last night in the lounge room! A few more aches and pains now!

    We have our last COVID test on Saturday. Hopefully we will have the results back in 24 to 48 hours and will be clear on Monday. We have had different ideas on this from Covid health staff phoning us, so not sure if we actually receive a clearance from them or just a 3rd negative covid test is enough and we are released on Monday.

    The sun is shining here again today so I will have more time in the garden today. I purposefully walked for 1/2 in the garden yesterday so will try and do the same today.

    Cheers all from Dools

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  14. Hanna3
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    29 July 2021 in reply to Doolhof
    It's Sam's birthday today, he's officially 10 years old! Going to the park so he can run in the sunshine! 😊🐕🐾🦁🎉🎊🎀🎁🎈✨🍰🎂🥳
  15. Ggrand
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    29 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hanna, Dools , Paws, Katey, Sleepy and all..🤗..

    Hanna Just popping in to wish Sam a very loving Happy Birthday....If I was with you I would give him some nice soft Smackos....and lost of kisses and hugs.....

    Happy Birthday to a very special fur companion/friend...I hope you both enjoy your walk this morning....

    Its quite cold here! Even though the sun is out...that cold wind is blowing down from the mountains....

    Love and hugs dear friends....💜🤗.

    Grandy..

  16. Hanna3
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    29 July 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Thank you Grandy for your lovely wishes! We had a coffee in the park where Sam had a happy roll on the grass in the sunshine. Yes the breeze was a bit chilly!

    I have a doctor appointment this afternoon..

    Mr Sam will get something special for his dinner!

    I can't imagine the last ten years without him, he's my little furry shadow and much loved! 😊💖🐾🐾🐕🎁🎈

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    29 July 2021

    Hi Hanna, Paws, Dools, Grandy, Sleepy

    Biggest happy birthday wishes to lovely Sam! Sounds like he enjoyed the sunny outing ☀️☀️🎈

    Sounds like you all have some sunshine to enjoy over that way - that’s nice.

    Blowing a gale here again but Stormy and I are tucked in bed.

    Hugs all, and using the gusty wind to blow a kiss all the way to the birthday boy 😘

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    29 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello everyone,

    Happy Woof Day Mr Sam.... how lovely a roll in the grass & a special dinner.... (don't tell Woofa as he didn't get anything special for his birthday earlier this month)...

    Dools I'm guessing you meant Hanna as she is the one who's pain has flared recently.... thankfully my aches & pains don't seem affected by the weather... lass are you ok after your falls?...

    Hanna I hope you your Dr's appointment went well... was she able to give you anything for your pain flareup?... It's not great that you had to take your laptop back again... do you have any idea when you might finally get it back?

    Very mild & dry with some sunshine here today... it looks like there are storm clouds growing to the south so the next rain front won't be far off.

    Hugs
    Paws

  19. Hanna3
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    29 July 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Dools

    I got home late today. Are you OK after falling over? Gracious Mys D do be careful!

    I'm glad to hear quarantine is nearly over for you all going well!

    Long busy afternoon here and it's starting to look like early spring but I'm an autumn/winter person...

    Might be going to the next big town tomorrow. No. Laptop back yet... I miss my computer!

    Hugs 💜🐾🐕

  20. Hanna3
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    29 July 2021 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi paws!

    My go furious because she's not considered a front line worker and can't get a Pfizer jab and there are none available here. It's just dreadful.

    Sam had a hard oiled egg with his dinner which is a special treat 🙂

    I hope you are OK. I'll text more tomorrow and send you hugs! 🎁🐾🎈🎉

  21. Doolhof
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    29 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Everyone,

    Belated Birthday greetings to Sam. Ten sounds like a splendid age for a dog. I know some breeds of dog live longer than others. I hope Sam and yourself had a wonderful day.

    Oh Paws, sorry for getting mixed up! You would think with all these days off my brain would have had time to rest! Unfortunately "depression" followed me into quarantine!

    Katy being tucked up in a storm sounds like a wonderful idea. It is supposed to be raining most of tomorrow and will be cold so I am looking forward to that in a way. I can tell myself it is a good day to snuggle up with a book or craft.

    I've been meaning to phone some distant friends and relatives while in quarantine but have not done so. I need to let go of the thought of expecting them to phone me!

    It is overcast, grey and windy outside. We are predicted to have a day of 18 so don't know if it will clear up or not. The washing is out on the line anyway.

    I seem to be okay after my falls! A few bruises. Might need a physio appointment once quarantine is done.

    Cheers all from Dools

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  22. Hanna3
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    30 July 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi all

    Sorry I'm not on tonight just really tired. Hope you're all well hugs 🙂🌼🌷

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    30 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hi Hanna and All,

    Thinking of you Hanna and hope you are feeling a bit better.

    We have our last Covid test today. Hopefully we won't have to line up for the whole day.

    We had a text message stating we could attend a fast tracked service in the city from 8.00 to 10.00 a.m. only today to be covid tested...it takes us nearly 2 hours to drive there! At least we save petrol going to the local testing place 20 kilometres from us.

    Wishing you all some niceness for the day!

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  24. Hanna3
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Dools

    Gosh a 2 hour drive each way to get tested sounds a bit much! Fingers crossed your tests are OK and you can go free next week!!!

    Hi paws

    Sorry to be late replying how are you keeping dear lady? How's dear Woofa?

    Sunny and mild today I walked Sam and did some shopping and this arvo got stuck into the house cleaning thanks to the Jordan Peterson videos I've been watching on utube - he's very motivational! Now I'm whacked. 😢

    I got the computer back yesterday apparently a part in it had come loose hence no sound. So last night I enjoyed myself listening to talks on utube from the School of life and Jordan Peterson.

    I saw a little tablet in BigW that I'd like to get but I think I'd have to connect it to the wifi with Bluetooth which luckily my music teacher showed me how to use and it's amazing!

    Absolutely no friends here apart from my music teacher. Gosh the women seem cliquey. I'm getting tired of my own company all the time.

    How are your relatives in the city?

    The virus in Sydney is a mess.

    Fluffy hugs from little Sam to you and everyone 😷😊💖🐕🐾🌿🌸🌼

  25. Hanna3
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Current temperature I'm tired out. Switched on my laptop tonight to discover the battery is empty and I've been trying to charge it for hours and it won't charge. No power at all. I need to use it to write an urgent letter to the local Mp tomorrow and now I can't and itt will take extra money to see if it can be fixed next week.

    I'm so tired. I have no friends here and my two brothers never check how I am. I'm so tired of having nobody to help me.

    I'm giving up and going to watch a movie.

    I'm just tired of struggling alone. Gosh it's tough.

    Hugs to you all.

  26. Hanna3
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Well I've had my meltdown for the night! Two days with the repair shop and two hundred dollars and now it won't charge I give up!

    I'm going to watch a DVD and chill out for a while.

    Cheers everyone! 🌷🌿🌼

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    31 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hi Hanna

    Can totally relate to the loneliness, it’s awful. I’m glad you’ve found one nice soul though at least - it’s a start!

    Your laptop should still work plugged in, or is that not the case either? I’m not sure what you’ve tried but changing power points (I have a dead one here), removing any mediums (double adaptors/power boards), jiggling the connections, removing the battery and putting back in? Mr fix it might have jiggled something loose. What a bummer!

    Big hugs, sounds like you had a productive day. We had a few peeks of sun, but another big front rolling in now. Boring! Katy

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    31 July 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    hi Hanna, its okay to exprss urslf let it out, its so hard not having ppl to help with those small things, and so tiring having to go through endless steps to sort it out on ur own.

    hope ur okay and chilling with a nice movie

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    Hello Hanna, wave to everyone,

    Oh lass you sound so down..& the laptop issues won't be helping... I hope one of Katy's suggestions works for that...

    How did you go at the Dr's was she able to help with your pain levels?... I do hope you didn't over do it with doing all that housework... lass I'm going to put my mother hen hat on & ask if you have been eating well & getting enough rest????...

    I wish I could think of a simple solution for your loneliness... I know with covid lots of things will not be on... you have already had to put on wait some ideas you had for volunteering... have you checked your local community group/hall to see if they are doing any free activities you might enjoy trying as a way to meet people... or perhaps one in a neighbouring town?

    Dools I hope you didn't have a long wait in the queue for your 3rd test... keeping everything crossed for you both that you get let out on Monday... it sounds like the SA health services have as little idea as the Vic one does when it comes to distances between places...

    I spent most of Friday & all of yesterday in bed... I finally felt ok enough to get up at 3am today... I'm hoping to do a little housework & just take things easy... I know what had triggered me a couple of weeks ago & I finally feel like I am getting past it...

    Hugs

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  30. Hanna3
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Thanks Katy thanks sleepy

    It's hard trying to type on this tiny phone! It's hard to see it too.

    The laptop charges to 5% and stops. Tried every power point. Googled it and apparently it can happen after installing windows and he reinstalled all my programs so I wonder if that's what is wrong. A check of the battery says it's healthy. Back to the repair shop I go.

    The grass outside is a foot high already and it's $80 to get it mowed every 3 weeks and I just don't have the money. I've been down to instant noodles for weeks in the past because of paying for the lawn. I don't know how to go on.

    I've asked a disability service and the charities and they say it's in the lease and there's nothing they can do.

    It's ridiculous that you get put into public housing and then can't afford to eat properly because of the cost of maintaining the property.

    So in thought I'd ask the local Mp here if he would intervene. Now I can't type the letter today and it's urgent.

    Library is closed today so can't use computer there.

    My music friend who lives in the next street 3 minutes walk from me - I knew her 15 years ago - has refused to talk to me since she found out I'm friendly with G.

    It's weird. She's the one married to the abusive alcoholic. She's now divorced him and trying to fight out how much of her house he can take and she still has him living there and looks after him. He's always abusive.

    She says she hates G but I suspect she knows he is kind. Also she is having an affair with another married man. I suspect she is jealous because she knows G and I are both single. The man she is having the affair with isn't going to leave his wife.

    G and I are only friends so far and I feel like why can't I even have a nice friendship with him without losing another friend? She always has a reason now why she's too busy to catch up with me.

    G and I talk for hours. His female dog died last year and his elderly boy dog now can hardly get up and walk. He was nearly in tears last time. His dogs are his family. His social anxiety isolates him so much. He's an absolute sweetheart.

    My two brothers never even helped when I was homeless and living in my car. I lost my job and home when I was working in a psych hospital and discovered that a doctor was molesting patients. I got sacked when I told management & lost my job & home.

    Life is tough sometimes. I'm just tired and struggling.

    Thanks for listening Sleepy and Katy! 💖

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