Dear Blue, plus a wave to Wilma (incidentally I thought you swore off posting til the 30th, maybe I misunderstood, nice to see you anyway)~
Blue you were talking of the problem about gettng your LM's effects sorted due to your thumb and your unhappiness with you not being able to fix it all. That reminded me of something.
Due to my physical limitations my partner does more of the physical things around the house. For example the wood fire that Sumo Cat and I enjoy every evening is down to her, lugging in the logs. There are many things like that.
It is difficult not to feel guilt at times, even trying to present her with a welcome morning cuppa (yes you can probably guess which brand:) when she is still in bed can leave a trail of spilled coffee on the floor needing to be wiped.
I'm not pretending I'm helpless or have no strengths, plus there are some things I assist with she cannot do (mail merge is an example) nevertheless guilt can creep in, unjustified as usual.
The one thing that wipe it away is the smile that breaks out when she comes home and sees me or vice versa. That wipes away all thoughts except "she is glad to see me".
A wonderful cure for guilt.
Perhaps I'm being presumptuous or misunderstand the situation but I wonder if your LM, who can be ill and not 100% may feel somethng akin to me at times.
So I thought I'd mention the cure just in case. (I'd expect you know it already.)
Just as a passing thought - difficulty dressing may have an up-side on occasions.
Wilma: I wonder if you will be granted your wish and stand beside those empty cruel people in heaven, it may be their places are not as assured as you assume.