As the count down to your trip is fast approaching, can you make times to catch up with some of your friends before you go away? It doesn't have to be "For Christmas" just a catch up. Also is it possible for you to stay connected with friends while you are away?
I have so many hang ups around my Mum and Christmas, you can have my Mum if you like! LOL. I am not wanting to make fun at all in your loss or in anyone else's loss at this time, or any time of year. It is just so hard with my Mum.
Right, back to you Shred, in the mornings can you think of one positive and nice thing you can do for yourself sometime during the day. It might be taking the time to go for a walk, buying something special for a meal, having a coffee while reading the paper/book/magazine, soaking your feet in warm water with marbles to rub your feet on, or any other activity that will give you a little boost.
The other day I picked flowers from the garden to bring inside. I found time to sit and read a book. I played card games to keep my mind active. I went for an invigorating walk in very strong wind and that helped me to feel alive and fresh.
Regarding the Anniversary, can you do something special on that day to honour your memories? When it was our (deceased) son's 21st birthday, I bought a cake, had candles and matches, went to park, sang him happy birthday, cried, ate some cake and went for a long walk.
It felt good and horrible at the same time. In the end I was thankful I had done something.
Thinking of you Shred, and sorry once again for making fun of Mothers. My sister refers to our Mum as a sleeping crocodile. You never know when she will snap or if it is safe to approach her!
Cheers for now, sending you heaps of hugs and a shoulder to cry on if you need it, from Mrs. Dools