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Topic: Getting to know you...or is that me?

  1. Cornstarch
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    6 November 2016 in reply to sparkvark

    Sparkie we still have along way to go, especially outside of city centres, but we have come a long way.

    My niece's male school principal wore to the end of year school concert a very, 'normal' corporate suit and tie, with a pair of bright, bright red Dorothy sequined shoes.

    And androgynous women are so totally hot don't get me started.

    And as for you Miss androgynous Sara Conna re: not being dead from the waist below me thinks Holland Taylor and Sarah Paulson agree with you whole heartedly.

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  2. Just Sara
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    6 November 2016 in reply to Cornstarch

    Good morning Corny, D Girl, Sparky and Wishful;

    So yesterday I had a great post ready to go, and the 'system error' blasted it out of the water well and truly! A whole day of actually having to speak with physical people...new concept? lol

    First off, would any of you consider applying to become Youth Community Champions? Dottie/Corn-girl; you guys are on here doing it anyway. The only difference is you'd be supported by/supporting our small group of volunteers and wear the badge on your profile.

    You already have recommendations from CC's, but the app's have to come from you. If you send a request to Chris B (via 'email' under the search bar top of page) he'll get back to you with the details. Good luck!

    Sparky - identifying as Bi has taken me a while to absorb. Your sexual/gender identity intrigues me. I've not heard of it before and wonder if you'd up-date me on some info. Corny mentioned 'androgynous' in her post, is this relevant?

    I'm so tired guys...I've only been up for 45 min's but have lost that lovin' feelin'. I wish I'd saved my post from yesterday, it said all I felt and more.

    I might crawl back into my bed to get some more Z's.

    Hugs...Sara xoxo

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  3. Wilma1
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    6 November 2016 in reply to Guest_322
    Dottie, I just found the cake. Yum. Thank you. Wishful
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  4. Wilma1
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    6 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara
    I second and third the votes for young community champions. Hope you consider it seriously . Sara, I had the same problem with the error reading. Have a good sleep, maybe you'll get back that lovin feeling. Wishful
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  5. Cornstarch
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    6 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    Sara I am confused, is it flattering or am I a delinquent, in my wayward youth who didn't have a childhood. A barman last week made the same judgment, asked to see my birth barcode, and then wet himself.

    There is nothing about my gene pool that should continue, it should all be annihilated off the face of the planet, except I am happy to keep the youthful looks gene.

    I am flattered for the 'youth' bit Miss Machine Gun, keep it up until my 80th OK.

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  6. Just Sara
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    7 November 2016 in reply to Cornstarch

    Ok sickly as molasses Sweetcorn...I don't know how old you are ok? You seem youthful and daring...not like a delinquent either lol. I remember reading somewhere you're a hippie? I didn't know it was literal!

    So feel flattered instead. I bet you're smoking hot anyway, miss machine gun girl perv. Ha ha...

    Apply as a conventional CC then; it doesn't have to be a Youth CC. Stop bustin' my bum and just do it already! How old are you anyway now we're on the subject? 50? (Ooh I'm cheeky)

    Hey Wishful...thanks for the well wishes! I got some sleep and woke refreshed. More lovin' to go around...

    ...Dearest Dottie, please don't feel left out, I'm in a hurry and Creamed Corn is bustin my chops with pedantic's (sigh)

    Anyhoo...gotta go and fill my med scripts. Just popped in to say 'hi'

    Sharing the lurve...Sara xoxo

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  7. sparkvark
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    7 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    Yo yo no problemo Sara.

    The term means different things to different people, so I'll preface this by saying that I definitely don't speak for anyone else and am only talking about what it means to me.

    For me, it means that I don't identify 100% as the sex I was assigned at birth (the "trans" part of the word) and I lean towards a masculine identity. I've seen it used as a term that could apply to binary female-to-male transgender people, or to non-binary or genderfluid or people regardless of assigned sex at birth.

    I'd consider androgyny (as an identity, not as a gender expression) to be similar to non-binary to an extent, but it's not a word I'd use to describe myself. Some transmasculine people are male in identity and wouldn't consider themselves to be androgynous. Some transmasculine non-binary people might consider themselves to be. Everyone's different.

    Clear as mud? I hope that gives a bit of explanation but let me know if you'd like more info on anything in particular.

    Bummer about the loss of the giant post. That always seems to happen at the most inconvenient times. Glad you got some sleep and I hope the rest of your day was good. :)

    Cornstarch that principal sounds pretty awesome. It's great when people are in an environment where they can be themselves, and I admire his courage in wearing those shoes regardless of the reasons he picked them. You're right that progress is gradually coming along.

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  8. Guest_322
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    7 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    Hi Sara,

    It's super frustrating when you've found the right words but technology decides to fail you in that moment. Damn it.

    Aw thanks, it's very thoughtful and flattering that you would suggest that 😊 I'm not sure...my 1st exam is next week so I'll have a think about the YCC/CC idea afterwards. Thanks again.

    I hope you managed to get some more sleep this morning.

    Stay amaze!

    Dottie xxx

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  9. Guest_322
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    7 November 2016 in reply to Wilma1

    Hi Wishful,

    Lovely to see you here again!

    Glad you enjoyed the cake ha, ha. And thanks for the support...I'll think about it after my exams. No promises but I'll have a think.

    Dottie xxx

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  10. Cornstarch
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    7 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    Hey Sara,

    You're a trickster, great to see you having fun. There was some other bi-sexual connex or event I saw advertised, and I could have pointed you in the right direction, but I'm feeling a little mellow, dazed and confused this evening.

    Had a very intense appointment this arvo with my Head Doctor, bringing all the trauma to the surface again, and you asked how old I am? tonight I am 5.

    Depending on the outcome this week re: Leader of the 'Free' World, I will remain on planet earth a while longer or I will exit via my spaceship accordingly.

    Did you listen to Tara Brach?

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  11. Just Sara
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    8 November 2016 in reply to Cornstarch

    Hey Corny;

    I did listen to Tara; she speaks of a place I was quite a few yrs ago...my self help book stage. Her words seem authentic, and have a wonderful presence of the peaceful spirit. The thing for me now, is wanting a more practical and personally workable system of self 'doing', not 'being'. In this I mean, something to grasp for the daily grind of mind, body and spirit...mine, not anyone else.

    As with most self-help writers/speakers, their words address many types of people/issues/mindsets, so a sense of generic approach is necessary. In the 90's I attended a huge presentation of multiple (authors) speakers popular at that time. It was a whole day seminar at the Sydney Entertainment Centre. I got to meet up with a couple of them and was star struck.

    Looking back, I realise how this deep thinking and self assessing/witnessing, kept me so much in my head, I found it hard to connect with the reality of my life. However, I do admit I needed to dig there to find 'my' truth. Grounding was always a problem for me and this was why.

    These days I'm more pragmatic...it has to be this way; I can't go back. I must admit though Corny, I did feel her peaceful heart coming thru her words. That was a nice surprise; it doesn't hurt to visit that place now and then...respite...recovery...recharge (The 3 R's)

    I wrote in a post today; 'The thing is, I'm a PTSD veteran..and coping with memories has become easier because I chose to fight each day to get out of bed and face my fears.'

    The word 'veteran' just popped into my head, but it's a powerful expression of my plight thru life and recovery; the way of the Peaceful Warrior comes to mind.

    I'm grateful Corny, for showing me a path of remembrance...place of the peaceful heart.

    Hope lives eternal...

    Sara xoxo

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  12. Cornstarch
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    8 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    Hey Sara,

    I never really got into the self help movement.

    I stumbled across her via someone else in the Vipassana meditation movement.

    I agree that all of these things just augment other approaches, ways of living, and to be taken as cure alls or panaceas is ridiculous at best.

    I was a late teen, impressionable, young, stupid, naive, gullible, and needed something to hang on to. I didn't know what I was in for.

    But it was worth it, and it was life changing for me. Still is. I'm not a Buddhist though. There would have been many tribal and primitive cultures long before them doing meditation/trancey stuff under tress 'n' that.

    Just because it was ignorance/starry eyed youth that got me there I see it as a catalyst and a portal to something positive, because if I'd been too mature and rational about it I would have discounted it. Head first is just a beginning.

    Sounds like brain/mind has been done to death and you are now focusing on BOD_EE_EE_EEEEE

    Hosana in the Highest, like a bad-ass would be Catholic girl if they got their way but they did not!!

    Woof.

    Oink.

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  13. Guest_322
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    8 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    Hi Sara,

    Just popping in to say hi. Dottie's itty bitty brain is rather fried from stats and biopsych today so this will be short ha, ha.

    Kudos to you for waking up each day and fighting. Resilience and survival right?

    Here's to you going from strength to strength (but being vulnerable too is okay sometimes).

    Stay amaze!

    And hi Corny, Wishful, Qld Mouse and Sparkvark!

    Dottie x

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  14. Cornstarch
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    8 November 2016 in reply to Guest_322

    Hi Dots,

    No more studying.

    Tomorrow, once the white supremacists decide if they wear faded orange wigs or not, Sara_Conna will remain here with us, or judging by her machine gun fellatio, she may very well be moving to TEXAS to defend the border or build a wall.

    Corn Cakes in California

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  15. Guest_322
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    8 November 2016 in reply to Cornstarch

    Morning Corn Cakes,

    Ha, ha that made me laugh but I probably shouldn't be laughing...the US election worries and kind of scares me.

    Enjoy California.

    And happy morning to you, Sara 😊 May your hopeful vibes continue!

    Dottie xxx

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  16. Just Sara
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    8 November 2016 in reply to Guest_322

    Darling Dottie...Good morning and salutations!

    I'm with you...Hydrolysed Corn Syrup cracked me up...still LOL! Machine Gun Fellatio...ah ha ha ha, he he, ahh.

    Just a note on the election..Nostradamus predicted the Anti-Christ will come into power and cause havoc; Mohamed followers would spread like a virus thru Europe and the world would never be the same.

    So Corny...Texas ain't gonna happen girl! This Island is perfeck for machine gun totin' granny's to fly under the radar and watch from afar. I haven't seen the results yet...if I don't look, will it go away?

    Shit-hot Sara xoxo

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  17. Cornstarch
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    9 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    I am terrified right now.

    Mortified right now.

    Am I Orange?

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  18. Guest_322
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    9 November 2016 in reply to Cornstarch

    Sara,

    Don't check. They're still counting but it's looking orange so far...

    Dottie xxx

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  19. Cornstarch
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    9 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara
    Sara you're needed at the border. ASAP.
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  20. Guest_322
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    10 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    Hi Sara,

    Just swinging by to say hi 😊 I hope you're still feeling the hopeful vibes. If not, that's okay too, whatever you feel/don't feel is okay. Keepin' it raw and real...

    Off to do some studying now.

    Stay amaze!

    Dottie xxx

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  21. Just Sara
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    10 November 2016 in reply to Guest_322

    Good morning lovely ladies;

    No Corny...we're not orange, we're green like Kermit the frog. Going into hibernation for a long 4 yr nap until it's all over, and re-awakening to the sound of spring 2020. (Hindsight)

    Although I won't be heading for Texas, I hear Canada is thinking of building a wall. Their mindset is far more accommodating to us green folk and less likely to lynch me when I get on my high horse...come with?

    Hey D Girl...yes, I'm still in high spirits, though yesterday was a bummer so I stayed hiding in my woman cave to recharge and reset. I guess you're in exam mode? I find exams worrying for those poor buggers who panic and sink in the thick fog during head's down. It's no indicator of a person's intelligence, only their ability to answer questions under extreme duress; not everyone's cut out for it.

    ...In the wake of the US election tsunami, the value of currency has seen better days. I never did understand how global monetary evaluation works, but we're stuck with it. I still haven't 'looked' at the news broadcasts or papers etc. just snippets here and there.

    I watched a doco on Trump's history of project management where opposition from pro active public members gazumped his efforts on several high flying pie-in-the-sky New York ventures, one of which went into liquidation. His arrogance and ego of course was his downfall...literally.

    What came across loud and clear was his differing persona's in front of, vs behind the camera's. I've always suspected him as being a man willing to do/be whatever it takes to get what he wants. Now this isn't always a bad thing, however his focus seems to be ego self first...win at any cost. Let's just hope that cost won't be at the expense of vulnerable individuals.

    I'm finding it hard to comprehend how someone with such sticky green-back fingers in so many corporate pies can hold office...conflict of interest comes to mind. But then what do I know? My voice isn't even a tiny bird's song in the distance.

    In contrast...I'm enjoying this long awaited beautiful weather to dry out my dampened rain fuelled spirits and focus on that amazing 'blue' sky.

    Gun in hand awaiting the fallout...Sara xoxo

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  22. Guest_322
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    11 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    Hi Sara,

    I'm glad to hear that Agent Orange's rise hasn't dampened your spirits. Go Sara Conna! You're wise to avoid the news because you will cry (Dottie is devastated by it all).

    Yep, I'm in exam mode. 3 exams next week then 1 more the following week.

    Enjoy the gorgeous weather.

    Stay amaze!

    Dottie xxx

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  23. Just Sara
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    12 November 2016 in reply to Guest_322

    Sconnor here! ha ha aha...I love that name..hope it sticks

    Hoping this post finds all here busy with enjoyable weekend activities. The markets at Newtown should be a blast Corny. I'm stuck here voting (local) and doing domestic bliss. Scorpio's love the nooks and crannies of discovery when cleaning out the cobwebs.

    Last night I got the courage to confront a friend with some uncomfortable heartfelt truth re our communication. It challenged me to my core, but the response was more than I could've imagined. I'm so proud of who I'm becoming; I'm proud of my friend too.

    I felt the frustration building, then instead of reacting, I used my 'feeling' words to get my point across. Sounds very self-help psycho babble-ish, but low and behold, it worked.

    So Dottie, please stay out of the books and study notes this weekend ok? A brain break is necessary for preparation prior to facing the 'heads down' situation. Wishing you clarity and a speedy successful finish to the yr. Mwah!

    Love you guys...Sconnor xoxo

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  24. Wilma1
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    12 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    Just dropping in to say hi to you all.

    Dottie, all the very best with those exams. Be thinking of you. Wishful

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  25. Guest_322
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    12 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    Hi Sconnor,

    I'm glad you were able to have an honest conversation with your friend. I don't know the backstory but I guess sometimes we have to spell out what we want and need to get the ball rolling.

    Well done for keeping your cool and finding the nerve to have this conversation! Ha, ha never underestimate the power of the feels...I think most people respond well to feeling words as they can soften difficult conversations. Tact is smart.

    Thanks, I'm afraid that my head is very much in the books this weekend. 3 exams next week so definfely hitting the books ha, ha. I appreciate the well wishes! Almost there 😊

    Stay amaze!

    Dottie xxx

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  26. Guest_322
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    12 November 2016 in reply to Wilma1

    Wait, technically it's 3 exams this week if we count today (Sunday) as the start of the week 😉

    Hi Wishful,

    It's always fantastic to hear from you! Thank you, I really appreciate your thoughtfulness. I'm almost at the finish line. Yay!

    Dottie xxx

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  27. Just Sara
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    13 November 2016 in reply to Guest_322

    Hey D Girl!

    You've got it bad girl...next week, this week..your mind needs a break. Go out with friends for a Sunday coffee at the local 'go-to' for some well earned respite from info overload. Just sayin'...

    Thanks for the kudos re friendship woes; it was a necessary learning curve. However, I was hit with a backlash last night that kept me up till dawn. Won't go into it, I'm spent. But I did learn about my own responses and how to cope better. I'm staying amaze!

    Hi Wishful!

    You're so welcome to pop in whenever you want hun. Hope life's treating you well with lots of hugs, virtual or otherwise. You've got one from me...here ya are...smooch...cuddle.. You too Dottie!

    Group hug!!! ;-D

    ...smooched out..

    Sconnor xoxo

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  28. Guest_322
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    13 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    Hi Sconnor,

    Thanks 😊

    Last night must have been very rough. I'm glad you managed to still get something out of it, learning about your own ways of coping and what not. Hopefully things will calm down a bit and it will hurt less. If not, that's okay too...whatever you feel/don't feel is okay.

    Thanks, no cafe break with my friends. Most of my friends are also in study mode so we have all been hitting the books, macs, printouts and other laptops (plus desks in frustration) ha, ha. Almost the hols..can't wait!

    Random observation: your other thread on the Staying Well forum has certainly taken off ha, ha. Must be some sort of BB record relative to the time that it has been up 😉

    Virtual hug back your way 😊

    Take good care of yourself now.

    Stay amaze!

    Dottie xxx

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  29. Just Sara
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    15 November 2016 in reply to Guest_322

    Need to go off the grid for a while. Overwhelmed. I'm ok..just need to rest. Will be thinking of you all.

    Much love...S

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  30. Guest_322
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    17 November 2016 in reply to Just Sara

    Hi Sconnor,

    Rest up. Take good care of yourself 😊

    Stay amaze (as always).

    Dottie xxxxxx

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