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Topic: how do i stop crying

  1. Sophie_M
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    10 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69
    Hi Matchy69

    Pouring your heart out takes alot of courage so we're really glad you're here sharing whats happening for you.

    Please dont be discouraged in posting here. Often, externalising our thoughts and feelings (with or without a reply) can be very therapeutic. We hope that you continue to check in here as needed.   
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    10 January 2022 in reply to Sophie_M
    Hi Sophie I often think about you meditators and how many of you their are and how hard itudt be for you reading these post on here.I will be alright just venting as I feel so alone at times and think how life could have been so different for me.Keep up the good work moderators and hope you are coping ok.
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    11 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark I'm sorry u feel alone and just letting u know u help me a lot and are a kind person.

    I'm so sorry for Ur loss and I also think about losses of opportunities and relationships in my life. Hope Ur OK today and here to listen during this difficult time.

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    11 January 2022 in reply to Guest_1643
    Thanks sleepy I was just having a bad night thinking about it to much and it made me feel very alone.I am feeling a bit better today.
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  5. Hanna3
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    17 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Matchy

    I've only just found your thread for the first time.

    I think when we get older we start to look back at things like a lost love or a missed opportunity

    It's bitter-sweet I think, but still good to know that someone you once fell in love with, was also in love with you.

    I think it's just human to sometimes wonder about what could have been...

    That old saying 'tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved before".

    🤗💝

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    17 January 2022 in reply to Hanna3

    Sorry. "to have loved at all".

    (predictive texting on my phone, my apologies Matchy!)

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    18 January 2022 in reply to Hanna3
    Hi Hanna it was a long time ago for me but does still seem like yesterday it happened.When things in my life are so not great I look back at those moments and wonder.Its a human thing to do and when anniversaries come around of dates of things that have happened in my life I remember them as I have I always remember dates and times.I am in such a different phase of my life with one child 18 in four weeks and my youngest still in primary school.Its hard for me when my health isn't real good but I will keep going and will see what the next stage of my life brings.
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    18 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    That's it Matchy, we keep on going, it's difficult times at the moment and it's good to have memories to look back on.

    I hope your daughter is successful with the job at the boarding kennels, it sounds like that might suit her!

    You sound like a very caring Dad, and it can't be easy on your own.

    Let us know how your daughter goes!

    🙂👍

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    7 February 2022
    I can't take all the constant mental abuse from my ex.I have to put up with it for the kids.I have no where to escape.
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    7 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69
    Dear Matchy69, 

    We are so sorry to read that you are experiencing mental abuse from your ex that you cannot escape due to sharing children with them. That sounds incredibly challenging.

    We're so glad you decided to post here and share what's going on for you. Hopefully, some community members will chime in and provide you with some support; they are usually quite good at this.

    Please know that there are services that you can call for support with this type of abuse, such as 1800 RESPECT. You can contact them on 1800 737 732 or visit  https://www.1800respect.org.au/ for further information. There are many support avenues around and you do not have to go through this alone. 

    Again, we are so glad that you posted, and we encourage you to continue to post as you see fit. 
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    7 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark

    I'm sorry you're having a bad time with your ex. I can imagine with the children you can't get away from it all. Do you share the children or do they always stay with you?

    There's a guy on utube Mark Hutten I think his name is, he's on the spectrum and talks about neurotypical wives of men on the spectrum. He is American, there is an Australian guy I like better on utube but I wonder if any of your problems are similar to those he talks about... Just I don't know much about it.

    I hope you are OK there. I hope your son and daughter are doing ok. How's your daughter finding TAFE now?

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    10 February 2022
    Today's date didn't pass me by I remember exactly the day and time and place we met.A meeting by mistaken identity and I still can see your pretty smiling face and knew their was something special about you.A shy guy who never talked to girls before found the courage to talk to you.A friendship I will never forget and taken to soon and all I have are the amazing memories of you.I play some Neil Diamond and I will shed some tears remembering how he bought us together in the strangest way.
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    10 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark,

    Just yesterday I found my old emails from my ex now married and across the world, it bought up a lot for me but I felt better after reading it, usually I try and block out as it hurts so much

    It can be so hard to relive losses and pain but I think it can help us feel. Neil Diamond sounds good, if that was Ur shared music.

    take care

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    10 February 2022 in reply to Guest_1643
    Hi sleepy thanks for your kind words.Neil Diamond wasnt our shared music but a strange way we met a very long time ago now.I wasn't sure who Neil Diamond was when I met her but did some research that night and impressed her the next day with my knowledge on him and his music.Every time I hear a song of his it brings back memories of that girl and how I met her.I still cry after all these years thinking about her.
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    10 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark although so painful your love is still there which is powerful...

    I went for a date with this man to see a particular movie and that movie reminds me of him.,,

    I don't know how to detach the memory from the movie,..

    It was Blue Valentine and a very dark movie !

    We also used to watch New Girl....

    Sometimes talking about it helps me let go,

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    11 February 2022 in reply to Guest_1643
    Sleepy I think their is always certain things that will remind us of someone wether it is good or upsetting for us.Today while taking my daughter to Tafe a song came on the radio that reminded me of a girl in my grade 11 and 12 maths class that I liked.I wanted so badly to ask her out but could never find the courage to and I use to get so physically sick thinking about asking her out.The irony of it was I left school and went to Tafe to try and move on from this girl.
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    11 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi mark so true

    I once went to the supermarket where I found someone's eyes on me, looked up, it was him,

    At very least I'd say he remembers me too.

    I used to try and block out memories but they are a part of life and a part of our story.

    It must have been confronting hearing that song when the girl and the memories returned.

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    12 February 2022
    Sleepy their is always going to be things that trigger us in our life.We try hard to avoid these things but you can't avoid them all.I think it's the way we deal with things when we are triggered. Avoiding it is impossible at times.
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    14 February 2022
    Another day filled with sadness.I walked my daughter down the aisle on this day 6 years ago and now the marriage has ended and my daughter is overdue to give birth.She is struggling so much and I just want to be their for her and help her.It triggers me sometimes and is very hard for me at times as what I went through in my marriage.
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    14 February 2022
    It all gets frustrating at times.
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    14 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark, are you OK?

    How are u doing today....frustrating days can be so hard. Here to listen.

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    15 February 2022 in reply to Guest_1643
    Hi sleepy,I want to help my pregnant daughter but she is not telling me what's going on.She is struggling mentally and is finding it hard coping.I asked her to stay here but didn't reply back.I only know what her sister told me she dosnt want to keep the baby.I am worried and stressed about her.
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    5 March 2022
    I can't stop crying hearing the sad news of losing two great legends in the same day.I remember getting rods autograph about 45 years ago at the Gabba.Its just a total shock.
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  24. Hanna3
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    5 March 2022 in reply to Matchy69
    I don't follow sport much Mark so I don't know about Rod Marsh, but Shane Warne was only 52, that's so young for a fit man like that to go. It's sad.
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    6 March 2022 in reply to Hanna3
    Some things are just a complete shock.It makes you really think and appreciate things.
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