I had been wondering how you and your daughter are fareing, so I'm pleased you are here - though not at your distress.
May I speak frankly? I stand outside the matter and may see it clearer (and less sympathetically) as a result. I did debate with myself if I should do so, but decided I would not be a friend if I did not respect you enough to tell the plain truth.
I think it is a good thing that man showed his true colors and total disregard of you well-being - something he has done consistently, but now to the extent that it must become clear to you, no matter your love or how you personally feel.
His wife's behavior is as one might expect. Blaming you serves to excuse and insulate herself inside her unsatisfactory selfish world. The business with their children is very vague, secondhand and no doubt done in spite - if true. The teller is an unreliable weakling with his own agenda.
It is a horrible thing to be closed out. I had it when I was formally disinherited by my family, hard to believe, causes self-doubt and feelings of unworthiness. These are all beliefs and feelings caused by the perpetrators and foisted on the unlucky recipient who in no way deserves them.
It took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that there never had been any love there, heartbreaking.
I don't know if all this makes sense. It boils down to the fact you are the victim, the wronged party - and a lovely caring vulnerable person. They are the ones (the man included) who ride roughshod over others for their own selfish and unstable ends.
Please do not think I'm insulting you by saying you are a victim or vulnerable, in some ways it is a tribute to your kind and loving nature that you find weak selfish underhanded people so alien that you have no real knowledge of their ways and so no defense. It has become obvious from all your posts. you are a strong and capable person. I'm afraid you were naive, but no longer. I admire you.
You may feel I'm coming on rather strong, perhaps, but I'm complimenting you with the truth as I see it.
OK, having said all that I'll move on. I'm sorry your job ended and hope another presents itself soon.
With you daughter, as you say, being at home just now has been an advantage. So has the sensible approach to medication increase. Going to her friend's a blessing.
This has been a very bad episode in your life, knowing you I'm most sure things will improve greatly.