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  1. Birdy77
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    10 April 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach
    Hi gorgeous friend,

    I am so sorry to hear aboyt your friend having covid-19 - i really hope she is ok - even if she is not in a high risk or vulnerable group, it's still scary and confronting. I hope she takes good care of herself and is able to keep her mental health looked after during her isolation and recovery.

    I am relived for the client if yours whose results came back negative - especially as i know your clients are high risk.

    It siubds like you've had a big week, i hope you can relax and unwind over the long weekend. Will you be getting together with 32 facetimers? 😃 i guess you were just explaining the awesomeness of the facetiming, but it could actually be quite fun (while i secretly scour my brain to thinkvif 32 people i could even think to call, ever!) !! I am glad to hear you have some virtual social time lined up anyway.

    I looked up your book on GoodReads, it sounds quite interesting - my trusty 2nd hand online bookstore has stopped for now, but i will look out for it down the track maybe. I started and discarded 3 books last night, sometimes it's hard to find one that speaks to us in the place we're in at any given moment. I have plenty more on the shelves - have been meaning to re-read The God Of Small Things, i might try that later.

    We have a jigsaw puzzle on the go on the dining table at the moment - good to have a few things to do, especially with rainy weather.

    Had a yummy scrummy lunch of stir fry shredded veg with vermicelli noodle and pan fried with garlic "sunfed chicken-free chicken" with peanut sauce and crushed peanuts and coriander. Obsessed with noodle salad bowls at the moment.

    We watched The Birdcage with lunch while it was raining - i love that movie!!

    I am putting my worries of the week behind me for today! What are you up to my friend?



    🌻b xo
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    Darling friend/beautiful b (& a wave to all),

    It sounds like you’re focusing your efforts into having a relaxing day. Hopefully you’ve been able to unwind & temporarily shelve some of your troubles for today :)

    I’m happy you were able to revisit an old favourite movie of yours. I’ve never seen it before, but it’s clearly something that you’ve been able to enjoy time & time again. I’m glad you were able to rewatch it today :)

    I think it must have been fun to enjoy your delicious noodle salad bowl today with mrs b. Sounds like such a fresh meal! Scrumptious.

    I’ve heard of The God of Small Things. It’s a pretty famous book...I haven’t read it before though. Either way, I hope you find something to read that aligns with your current frame of mind...sometimes that can be a bit tricky, I know.

    Sigh, I’m just over it today. I miss my old life. I miss my friends...I miss a lot of things....I understand & agree with social distancing, & yes, I’m following it, but that doesn’t make it pleasant...

    I’m grateful for FaceTime, but it’s obviously not the same as seeing people in person. I know that I can’t do that so FaceTime is a temporary substitute...a poor substitute in many ways, but better than nothing...

    (Laughs) I won’t be FaceTiming 32 people this weekend, but it’s good for the future if we want to have virtual cocktails, parties, etc. Something that my friends & are want to look into...

    I hope she will be okay. Who knows...sometimes it can affect people in unexpected ways, but here’s hoping she’ll be okay.

    If you find a book that you can get into, please let me know.

    How far into your jigsaw are you?

    Will you be testing any new recipes tonight or over the next couple of days?

    With love & sending blessings of peace & calm xoxox

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    10 April 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach
    Hi sweets,

    I told another friend today that we were watching The Birdcage and she hadn't watched it before either, but she found it on Stan so is going to check it out.

    It's such a funny movie! 1996, beautiful Robin Williams (love him, such a shining light and stunning talented spirit), and Nathan Lane, what a scrumptious performance! I highly recommend it!!

    I totally hear you my friend, your frustration and missing your regular life. I am personally fuming right now - the people across the road are starting a party, so many people arriving, leaving for more alcohol ... what makes them think they're above it all? Why do they get to socialise while the rest of us stay home and go stir crazy and get excited about jigsaw puzzles? So unfair and annoying!

    Sorry, feeling super cranky!

    (Aaah, look at my gorgeous compassion for humankind hahahaha!)

    I'll be back.
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    Darling friend/beautiful b (& a wave to all),

    Thank you for hearing me out, & for your understanding, my friend. You are appreciated...

    Vent away, my friend. I feel your neighbours’ behaviour is very self serving & inconsiderate of others...

    Sigh, it’s also that kind of behaviour that helps spread the virus...

    No wonder you’re feeling so angry. I would be fuming too...

    Thinking of you xoxox

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    13 April 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach
    Hello gorgeous friend ❤

    How are you holding up there lovely? Are you managing to find some things to help you feel ok?

    Yesterday was a really lovely sunny day so i spent time working in the garden. A few more of my plants made their decisions about location, so in they went.

    I shaved the boys on Saturday, what a mission. Wow kazowie do they look handsome though. A couple stopped outside the front yesterday & took photos of them! I should charge a fee - all proceeds to Animals Australia of course! they spent yesterday jumping around like rabbits, they felt so free! But now, they're shivering under a blanky with me.

    I just put a banana bread in the oven, got an idea to make it marbled, so we shall see how that turns out.

    Have you done any more on your canvases?

    How is your book so far? I still haven't settled on one, but i did pull The God of Small Things off the shelf, go me!

    Have you heard how your friend is going with the virus? It can definitely be unpredictable, quite a few young people have suffered badly, even when healthy and strong. I really hope she is ok.

    I think I've gone 3 days without fresh noodle bowl 😭 am craving it, so today i make that aspect of my world right 👍 have you found any food inspo? You could always follow my obsession - i love doing them with Sunfed "chicken-free chicken" it's pea protein i think (I'd check the box for you but i have 2 boys pinning me down right now) and delicious pan fried with some chopped garlic. Sorry if I've said that before, i couldn't remember, and i know you won't mind if i did! 🥰

    I don't think i gave you my ginal thoughts on Vome To The Edge and Rabbits For Food. I really loved the first half of bkth of the books, but i felt the second half let them down a bit for me. RFF - the stories Bunny related and her feelings/thoughts were so vivid i thought and really interesting, but in the second half i wish there was more of that storytelling, rather than just the daily life in the hospital? I guess that was her reality though, i felt i would have liked to hear more about the the stories she started earlier, like about her friend who passed, and other things. Come To The Edge i felt a bit the same in that the set up in the first half was terrific, but then it just sort of went on and on in it's zany chaos towards its inevitable conclusion and i felt like our narrator (did she have a name, i can't remember!) was like "& that's what happened & then i went back to my life & that's the end of the story" sort of thing?

    I think that's what i think anyway! I don't have the books in front of me this second, & for reasons stated above, i can't reach them!

    Let me know how you're holding up if you feel like it my friend. I'm thinking of you and sending love.



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    Darling friend/beautiful b (& a wave to all),

    Your love & affection for you boys is so obvious. You exude warmth when you talk about them...even when they are being cheeky. But you know, dogs & their puppy dog eyes ;)

    Laughs, yes, you you should have charged them for the photo & donated it to a good cause. Maybe you can create a 2021 calendar, featuring them, to raise money for animal welfare.

    Your compassion always shines. It’s one of your most beautiful qualities...I love that quality in you, my friend.

    I’m happy your plants finally decided on homes...they took their time ;)

    Let me know how you find re-reading God of Small Things.

    I think fresh noodle soup is great comfort food. Yes, you should definitely rectify that situation ;)

    While you’re going gourmet, I’ve been having the lazy person’s version. Cheap vegan instant noodle variety (laughs).

    Oh yes, I love plant based chicken. It’s quite nice in stir fries too with any available veggies. Korean, Japanese & Chinese grocery stores are great for spices & sauces, but online shopping is probably the way to go if possible...

    I also liked the 1st 1/2 of RFF more. But you’re right, I think the author was just trying to show us her daily reality. Sometimes I suppose reality is a little like that...

    As for Come to the Edge, I see what you mean by the chaos. In a way, I liked the ending, because I thought the whole point of her character was she’s a cog in the machine, & that society punishes/puts you back “in your place“ for straying from the norm

    She was your standard, run-of-the-mill, “conventional” character who liked her creature comforts & safe life...then she strayed for a bit. So as “punishment”, she was eventually “put back in her place”...so to me, it made sense...an analogy.

    Thank you for caring, my beautiful friend. She is not feeling very well at the moment & is in complete insolation. But she doesn’t need to be hospitalised right now. Let’s hope it stays that way!

    Another friend who works at a hospital lost a patient to COVID-19 recently. He’s taken it pretty hard, but it’s even more devastating for the patient’s family. Sigh.

    I’m enjoying the book. I love the themes/issues raised, but I’m not a fan of the writing style.

    How have you been feeling the past few days, my friend?

    I always care...

    Also, I would love to hear how your delicious sounding marble cake goes :)

    What other plans do you have for the day?

    With love & blessings of comfort, health & safety xoxox


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    13 April 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach
    Hi beautiful friend,

    This might be just a brief reply, i loved reading your post! I think tomorrow will be a big day with an early start, my friend who is a builder, i think i told you his work was going to shut down, he actually had another couple of weeks work, but he's coming over tomorrow to start on some jobs i need doing.

    First things first, the banana marble bread was a complete disaster! Hahaha!! I was about to pull it out of the oven and I'm like "hang on a sec ... did i put the sugar in that dough?? No!! I did not!!!" Whoops a daisy!! Plus, i accidentally put the oven timer on for 30 minutes, not 60, so, it ended up a damp, rubbery kind of non-yumminess. Despite this, mrs b ate 2 pieces with her coffee, and i had 1 ... but it was all a bit wrong. Oh Well!!!!

    Now, the noodle bowl i have been missing is a fresh salad noodle bowl, like vietnamese style? I'm not sure exactly what to call it, but it's like what i put in my fresh rice paper rolls, but in a bowl instead of wrapped in the rice paper, i guess : "vermicelli noodle salad" sort of describes it, the one i love with a peanut/coconut sauce (which i must go and make soon, cos we skipped lunch).

    I loved your thoughts on Come To The Edge, and i toally agree!! It is so true and fitting that it ended up with her returning to being the cog in the wheel ... i think what bothered me slightly was i felt like it was the second half just describing this happened, then this happened, rather than the interesting thoughts and convos and zaniness between Cassandra and our narrator (forgot to check if she had a name). Not sure if that makes sense.

    I am so sirry ti hear about your Dr friend who lost his patient, i did read that on Quirkys thread after i had written to you. How confronting for him. I really hope your friend is ok.

    Loved your idea about the calendar, i have something funny to tell you next time.

    Gotta go do my peanut sauce. I hope it goes better than the banana bread 🤞

    ❤❤❤

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    Darling friend/beautiful b (& a wave to all),

    It’s always good to see you, my friend :)

    I hope the home maintenance work goes well tomorrow. I do feel sad for your friend though; that must be really hard for him. So it must be nice for him to be able to help you out tomorrow. Win-win.

    Laughs, it still sounds pretty decent tasting. Besides, no sugar means it’s healthier right? In conclusion, you made a nutritious banana marble cake. A success according to me ;)

    Oh right, yes, thanks so much for explaining about the noodle bowl. I had it in my head that you meant noodle soup with broth (laughs).

    I think those noodle bowls tend to be very fresh tasting. Lots of subtle, delicate flavours, which is nice...no wonder you’ve been craving it :)

    Yes, I get what you mean. Come to the Edge did drag on a bit during the 2nd 1/2 with the descriptions. I agree it was definitely less interesting, in a way.

    I agree that her relationship/ interactions with Cassandra was one of the most interesting parts. I think, deep down, she liked the idea of a less conventional life more than the reality of it.

    Also, she seemed to want Cassandra’s approval so much...like she was desperate for an anchor. I think she wanted to believe in a higher purpose (or something!), but wasn’t willing to look for it herself. Instead, she just latched onto Cassandra...

    Sigh, my friend is feeling sad. Yes, it is confronting. Doctors & nurses try their best, but sometimes things don’t work out.

    The sad thing with this virus is people have to leave this world without their loved ones by their side. You don’t get to say goodbye.

    I have continued to draw. It’s an artistic outlet, & it helps me process/express my emotions. I have been doing yoga, which helps ground my thoughts. It’s really good if I’m feeling anxious...settles the mind a bit.

    There’s a book that I plan to read some time, Almost a Mirror. It’s set in the post-punk scene 40 years ago. It’s about how creativity helps heal, & people redefining family & love in its many forms.

    Let me know how the home maintenance work goes if you like. Also, I’m excited for the funny story you plan to tell me :)

    My friend, how have you been feeling lately?

    I know you’ve been a bit up & down recently. There’s obviously no pressure or anything, but if you want to unload anything, you always have a friend in me.

    Enjoy your dinner tonight!

    I’m thinking about you. Sending love, comfort & warmth to you, mrs b, the boys, & chooks xoxox


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    19 April 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach
    Hello gorgeous friend!

    Something strange happened and i didn't see your post for days and days, even though it says you posted it the same day i posted my last? I can't work it out, but i saw it not until midweek ...

    How has this week been for you my friend? You can let it all out if you want to.

    I've had a really busy and tiring week, but it's been a positive time for me - having my friend help me with some stuff ariubd the house, things I've wanted done for so long, has really helped.

    Although he's not wirking his usual job, i am paying him an agreed hourly rate, so at least he has some cash coming in, he lives closeby, so pops home for lunch and to take his kids for a run at the beach etc.

    My art room is finally starting to take shape! I am ridiculously excited. It's been a long time coming.

    I am so glad you have yoga to ground you. Have you done any coreography lately? When you do, is that for your own creative outlet or is it also for performance, audience orientated, just intrigued ❤ the post-punk book sounds good, i might try get my hands on it.

    Darls, i have been interrupted, want to catch up with you, and have been thinking if you heaps - please let me know how you are when you get a chance.

    Love ❤❤❤

    🌻b xo

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    Darling friend/beautiful b (& a wave to all),

    What a hectic, exhausting week it has been for you, my friend. But it also sounds like it has been a very satisfying week of progress :)

    It must be such a relief to have those home projects finally tended to. I know how much that was getting you down & perhaps even contributing to your stuck feelings...I think it works out for both you & your friend. It’s good timing, in a way :)

    Congratulations on your art room progress. I can hear your excitement! That is a huge step, my friend :)

    I’m very happy for you. What do you plan to make in that room?

    I know that you love making art, but I don’t think we have discussed it in detail before. I would be interested to hear more about your work...

    Thank you so much for caring & being here, my friend. I am over it...

    I’m sick of being home on weekends & half my weekdays. I know we all need to avoid going out, & yes I’m following (& agree) with state advice, but it’s also making me feel really unhappy.

    Sigh, I miss my friends & family too, which is getting me down. I haven’t seen them in over a month now...our communication & interactions are all virtual now, but virtual is never a true substitute. It’s all we have now...

    I miss my old life & I’m feeling increasingly claustrophobic & short tempered as time passes...

    I haven’t done any choreography lately, my friend. I’m feel deeply uninspired. Being holed up at home doesn’t help...

    In more pleasant news, 2 people want to commission me for 2 paintings. A portrait & landscape.

    It was a nice surprise, as I don’t make a living from my art (never have), & it’s not something that I currently sell, market or advertise. So it was flattering that they found me, & asked of their own accord. Although I must admit that I’m not really into painting landscapes, but if that’s what he wants...

    So, in short, I’m feeling cranky, sad, claustrophobic & uninspired right now (laughs).

    Let me know how your art room goes :)

    Also, what have you got planned this weekend? Any time to rest amidst the home upgrades?

    I think of you often, congratulations again on your art room & home upgrades and sending love & hugs xoxox
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    Hello Peppy and Birdy.....🤗..

    Peppy I’m deeply sorry and saddened for the hard struggling your having with doing the right thing with isolation..it’s hard isn’t it sweety but necessary for now...I’m very proud of you and everyone else doing the right thing by staying home..

    Peppy do you have a yard or balcony that you could start growing a few herbs or small plant in pots?...It’s very rewarding when you start using your own herbs for cooking..just a though...

    It’s nice that your still communicating which your family and friends, I know it’s not the same as r/l, but you’re all still being their for the other in your hearts and souls, and it’s probably helping each other to get through the horrid virus safely..That’s the main thing sweety, to keep each other safe....then when lockdown is over, wow there will be so many hello hugs, and visits to each other places, plenty of restaurant outing with your friends....That’s something so precious and special to look forward too..

    Well done getting commissioned to do some art...That was nice to hear..You must be good at doing portraits and landscapes for them to seek you out...I am very happy for you..

    Hello Birdy....You sounds like you’ve been very busy the past week..I’m pleased your getting your to do list shortened a bit....and feeling positive about getting them done...

    I love the idea of you having an art room...It’s a place that you can go to and be peaceful and relaxed in....So many people are good at art..when even my stick figures look funny...

    I hope your garden is coming along good, I know you like to spend time in it...and I have a sense of feeling that you have a green thumb..I hope you and Mrs B. are feeling okay and coping with the isolation rules...

    Sending you both my care, love and hugs..🦋💜🤗..

    Grandy...

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    19 April 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach
    Oh darls ❤ i think you are in great company with those feelings of claustrophobia and frustration, it is a very strange and trying time.

    What is über annoying is hearing/seeing people flouting the rules for their own pleasure/convenience. It druves me insane reading/hearing/seeing people having parties/relaxing for a picnic for hours by the beach/river etc etc when the rest of us are following the rules, as painful as the rules seem.

    I want to make clear that my mate helping me is a job not a social situation, one that will help keep him and his family afloat during this time, plus essential work that i need done around the house. It's not socialising, i am paying him by the hour. Just to be crystal clear!

    I know it's really hard, being such a social person esp. not to see friends, or your social network regularly, it must be hard.

    I am used to it in a way since i moved away from my social scene, i often have to wait quite a while to see my friends in person. When restrictions are in place, it's even harder.

    Wowee, that is so amazing that you have two painting commissions! How did they see your work/commission you? I am guessing social media? No pressure to say, i totally understand.

    However it happened, that is terrific!

    Do you find commissions stressful?

    I have only ever had a couple of commissions. I don't think we've ever talked in detail, but here goes: I am primarily a potter. One time i was commissioned to make crockery for a restaurant, which was a huge opportunity for me , but also very stressful! The other commission was for some linoprints for a fancy homewares shop.

    Apart from that, I've had no experience with commissions but they generally scare me. I am more into doing my thing and if you like it, great, if not, no worries!

    Well, actually, ive been commissioned this evening to make vegan san choy bau!!! Minced tofu, onion, garlic, capsicum, corn, marinated in soy sauce, sweet chilli sauce, coconut Aminos, miso paste, sesame oil, crushed peanuts. Going to cook that up, then into lettuce cups and yummy yummy! What's for dins at your house?

    Gotta go, love ya xoxo
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    19 April 2020 in reply to Ggrand
    Hey Grandy,

    Beautiful lady, we must have been messaging Peppy at the same time,

    Thank you so much for reading my posts and showing your care and attention, it means a lot! I am excited for my art room as well, i will let you know how it tirns out.

    The secret is that our shed has finally been built, it has laid in our backyard for a year, and now it is up! It looks so darn cute, and have built a picket fence next to it and a garden bed in front.

    Now if mrs b annoys me she can go live out there - hahahaha just kidding!!! Just kidding. Just kidding ....

    Love to you Grandy xo ❤

    🌻birds xo
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    Hi,

    i am feeling very sorry about making a joke of living in the shed.

    I completely meant it as a joke, just very lighthearted.


    I know living in a shed would be a luxury for some.

    One of my brother's lived in his shed for a time because his wife was so awful to him.

    I'm just sorry i brought it up and I'm really sorry if i hurt anyone's feelings 😥😓 truly

    😥
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    19 April 2020 in reply to Birdy77

    Birdy...sweetheart...there no need to sorry..it was a joke lovely lady...

    Please don’t be sad...We all know you have a beautiful heart and so much love and care inside your soul...please be okay Birdy...

    Sending you an extra big warm caring hug..🤗🤗🤗..

    Much Love Dear Birdy...💜💜💜.

    Grandy..

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    Hi gorgeous Grandy (& a wave to all),

    Thank you so much for you gentle words of warmth & encouragement, lovely one. How special it is to see you here :)

    I hope your garden is doing well. I remember a surprise watermelon (or was it a pumpkin?) that grew there. Must be a lot of nutrients in the soil :)

    Yes, my friends/family & I regularly keep in touch virtually. But you’re right, I find it really hard.

    I look forward to social isolation being over...we have been discussing celebrations when that happens.

    I love art. I can say something visually, which is nice. When words don’t do the trick, a picture can make up for it sometimes ;)

    Your love, care & hugs are happily received. I’m going to give you some warm hugs, a new telescope to admire the stars (as I know you enjoy star gazing), & much love xoxo

    Darling friend/beautiful b

    It’s okay, my friend, gentle & easy does it...you don’t need to explain yourself. I know your friend is there to help out for essential reasons. I never thought otherwise, my friend...

    It must be such a blessing for him to have some income. It must be particularly stressful with children to raise as well. I’m glad you’re helping him out, & he is also helping you out :)

    Sigh, I agree that it is frustrating how some people completely disregard self isolation or social distancing advice/rules. I think some people just don’t understand, or they value their own self interests more than helping to minimise COVID-19 spread. It’s very upsetting.

    I’m a pack animal without her pack right now. I miss my friends, not just for fun, but I miss their company more than anything. I also miss my family, like my aunts...

    Aside from the social side of things, they make up a bulk of my emotional support & sense of community. It matters less what I do with them, but I value time with them

    I can definitely picture you as a potter. I imagine the tactile process of pottery must be calming.

    Those commissions must have been huge opportunities, but understandably stressful. I can see why you prefer the creative freedom of making your own pieces.

    Laughs, I don’t know if I find commissions stressful or not, as I’ve never accepted any before. I’ll find out ;)

    Your dinner sounds like it will be a success! Delicious meal.

    My dinner? I don’t know. I’ve little interest in food lately...

    I would love to hear how your art room goes, & what work will be done on your house next week?

    Thank you for being here & sending love & blessings xoxox

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    25 April 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach
    Hey beautiful friend❤

    How are holding up?

    I know you are without your pack, and that's difficult and frustrating and maybe lonesome.

    That quote i left a few weeks ago about tears being a river - did you notice the book it came from? Women Who Rin With The Wolves. Apt? You said you'd be a wolf if not human!

    Wiw am i in a werid headspace - i have had a really mindblowingly difficult last half of the week. It's been a very weird one for me.

    It's been balanced by some more work done around the house which is making me feel really good and happy.

    Just wanted to tiuch base after several days, I'm always here for you, even when I'm not posting, i hope you know.

    Being interrupted again, sorry, theres a bit going on.

    Love ❤

    🌻b xoxo
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    Darling friend/beautiful b (& a wave to all),

    A hand extended & a warm hug. What a rough time you’ve been having.

    Would you like to share what has been going on in your world, my friend?

    I know sometimes the words don’t come or you don’t want to talk about it, & that is okay. But just know you have a friend in me if you want to talk about it...no pressure though...

    Your emotions sound very erratic at the moment...it must be hard. I’m so glad work around the home has been making quite a difference...

    Sigh, I’m over it. The very things that will help me now are the very things that I can’t do for a while. So I’m at a standstill....

    Yes, this wolf is missing her pack...& no distraction is great enough to take my mind off that reality. All I can do is wait & connect with them through, sigh, a screen...

    Smiles, I did notice the book title when I looked up that quote. Thank you for that gift, my friend. Apt indeed...

    If you want to talk about anything, light or heavy (or both), I’m here for you too...

    What work have you done in your home this week, my friend?

    Thank you for being here, my friend...

    Thinking of you & sending love, encouragement & hugs xoxox

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    28 April 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Hello Peppy, Birds..and all...🤗..

    Hi two beautiful ladies...I was intrigued by your animal of choice being a wolf...They are beautiful animals..

    Their healing crystal/stone is...Celestine..

    When the wolf is your spirit animal, you need a powerful stone if your karma wasn’t all bright in the past. Celestite will help to find your hidden potential. It is a stone of leadership that helps you figure out your talents and luck on your own. Celestite will help to harness the abilities to do just that.

    I would have to say..my animal of choice..is the Eagle..Flying free and wherever my heart and soul want me to go...my long wings would take me....

    Hello Lovely Birdy...I hope you are doing okay..sweet lady...Do you have an animal that you choose?...

    Not sure if it’s the same at your places..Today the clouds are beautiful...A mixture of pure white with shades of grey...

    Hoping that both of you have a lovely day...

    My care, love and hugs to both of you amazing people...🦋💜🤗..

    I made you both a hamper of..cherry chocolate cake, and a hot beverage of your choice..to sit under a beautiful willow tree and enjoy each other’s company... also under the cake is the lovely poem that I love...Footprints...written on two sparkling small crystal slabs...one each for both...

    Grandy..

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    28 April 2020 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi gorgeous Grandy (& a wave to beautiful b & all),

    Your post brought a smile to my face. Your words were comforting & warm, lovely one :)

    I love how your spirit animal is an eagle. Majestic & powerful, soaring high above us...an eagle would see so much of the world. I can see why their freedom draws you to them...

    I did not know about the connection between the Celestite Stone & wolves. I’m learning something new today, which pleases me. Thank you so much for sharing that with me, lovely one. Perhaps I need to online shop for a Celestite stone then?

    I suppose my spirit animal is a wolf, because they run in packs. They have strong social & familial ties, & live in communities. So the common phrase of “lone wolf” has always puzzled me, as wolves are typically very social animals.

    There are some very famous words that goes:

    Now this is the law of the jungle...

    For the strength of the Pack is the Wolf.

    And the strength of the Wolf is the Pack.

    - Rudyard Kipling

    I know it might sound silly, but it makes sense to me. I think my heart understands that quote :)

    Your care, love, hugs, hamper & beautiful poem are all excitedly & happily received :) I love how caring & creative you are with your presents. I love them. Thank you...

    I would also be curious about beautiful birdy’s spirit animal...good question, Grandy. Good question...

    Thank you for bringing a smile to my face during what has otherwise been a difficult time :)

    With love and hugs,

    Peppy xoxo

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    30 April 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Hello Gentle Peppy and lovely Birds...

    Im pleased I put a smile on your face Peppy..you often give me one as well....

    Would be amazing to be an eagle, I have often dreamt that I was one...Flying high up in the clouds, and weaving in and out of them..then flying to the highest mountains and being able to just perch in a tree up their and watch the world through different eyes...

    No.not at all sounds silly Peppy....I have heard those one words from Rudyard Kipling before and I love that quote/words..My interpretation of them... is “each wolf looks out for each other and works together as a team”.. everything works well when every wolf does their share to help....relates to this COVID-19 in a way...If the world’s people all works together..We can as a team defeat the coronavirus...

    I hope your day was a good day..dear Peppy...

    Hello lovely Birds...I hope your feeling okay also..

    Dance with the stars, move with the sea...Let the rhythm of the water, set yourselves free...

    My care, love and hugs beautiful Peppy & Birds..🦋💜🤗.

    Grandy..




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    30 April 2020 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi gorgeous Grandy (& a wave to all),

    How lovely to see you here. Thank you so much for making time for me today. What a gift that is, lovely one :)

    I can see why you chose an eagle. The freedom, the power & the strength...

    Perhaps their independence & solitude draws them to you too?

    I don’t know too much about eagles, but they strike me as creatures who enjoy their own company for the most part...I may be wrong though. I need to look that up one day...

    As for wolves, I think at a basic level, they are team players but they can also be leaders; you get a mix in any pack & everyone plays a unique role. Cooperation & compromise is important.

    So I think it also means each wolf will at some point, have to give up a personal want or need for the long-term benefit of the pack...

    I don’t think all people necessarily understand that concept though...

    Thank you for thinking of me. Your post was received with a smile.

    Warm hugs and a gift of tomato soup for you...thank you for writing to me...

    Peppy xoxo

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    Thinking of you my friend ❤
    Hello dear Grandy 💕,

    I have had a really wretched few weeks, i can't say it's been "the worst", but my world has been tipped at least sideways .... i am hoping to come talk with you tomorrow.

    Lots of love - i mean it

    🌻b xoxo
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    Darling friend/beautiful b (& a wave to gorgeous Grandy),

    What an awful, awful time you’ve been having, my friend. I feel saddened that you’ve been struggling so much...

    I care about you, I’m here for you & I’m listening. There’s absolutely no pressure, but you can unload here any time here...I care and want to know how you are doing & feeling...

    I’m holding a hand of friendship out to you, beautiful friend.

    Sending gentle comfort & reassurance your way...

    I’m thinking of you...

    With much, much love xoxox

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    8 May 2020 in reply to Birdy77

    Hello Peppy and Birdy..

    Birds..I hope your okay lovely lady...I also feel saddened by the troubled times you’ve have/having the past few weeks...

    I would also like to hold my hand out with our gentle Pepper...

    Birdy...The sunflower 🌻..Has a unique ability to turn itself towards the sun....

    Take hold of us lovely little Birdy and we will help try to turn your word around again to be faceing toward the sun...

    Sending you both much love, care, and big hugs....Birdy and Peppy...from my heart to yours..

    Grandy....

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    10 May 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Hi there beautiful Peppystar ☘Tweety 🐣 Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 and readers ☺

    Dear Peppy it's been way too long since I've been here. I hope you believe darling friend that you truly are often in my thoughts which isn't the same I know as popping in but is true. I really do care very much 🤗 ..freebie

    It's a concern that you two lovely friends aren't travelling so well atm. I'm sorry to be hearing that. I read a few back and a while back read a few hun. I hope todays looking brighter for you loves. It's so hard isn't it. It feels like you're trapped.

    I don't know if any words will be of help but just want you both to know you're loved appreciated and very cared about.

    You both matter to many.

    Sending love affection 🤗 🍫 and ..oops.. soz..🙄 that was meant to be that 🍎 of yours Peps you know the crunchy non alcoholic type...remember I'm looking after those...Grandy said it was ok...or was that a dream...🤔...hymmm

    So much love and time for you beautifuls you too of course my bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩

    Take care lovely ones 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🌹 and all other lovelies out there ☺

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    12 May 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach
    Dear beautiful friend, gorgeous Grandy, Aunty Deebsta and everyone reading along,

    Firstly, thank you so much yiu lovely people for your care, love and support!

    Grandy that was so lovely, it's true about the sunflower turning it's face towards the sun! Isn't that amazing? That a flower can do that? I have certainly been trying to, i have been so lucky to have some positive things happening at the same time as this really big awkward horrible wretched (ok ok I'll stop with the negative adjectives) situation, so it's kind of balanced things out a bit. I could bore you with the details of my excitement!! But you will seriously regret encouraging me 💤😴💤

    Now - how did you guys get your spirit animals? I lnlw Peps you said way back that you think you'd be a wolf, cos of the whole Pack thing - is it just an instinctive thing?

    Grandy, you said Eagle - i know you look to their freedom and soaring high above and their grace ... do you just choose it?

    I looked it up,because I've bever thought about a spirit animal again, and it came up with a quiz. So one night just after I'd read your posts, i did the quiz and it came up with Owl. Then a few nights later i did it again and it came up with a Bear.

    I was just interested how you guys chose.

    My friend Pep, how are you? Have you felt some freedome lately with slight lifting of restrictions ? Or is it still very strict where you are?

    I have lost track with the rukes to be honest, because I've been having a sad, awful time 😥

    I might post in my cheery old Doomfest thread later, although I'm anxious that i will be doing the wrong thjng by my family? To mention what's going on? 😥

    Love you ❤ hope you're all feeling well xo
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    12 May 2020 in reply to demonblaster

    Hi wonderful DB (& a wave to all),

    Thanks so much for dropping by. It’s lovely to see you here :)

    I appreciate the kind words, thoughts and caring. Thank you for the love, affection and...wait chocolate bars?...just you wait for that invoice though ;)

    I hope you’re being kind to yourself and that Mr Deebi is doing okay too.

    Supersoul hugs and much love xoxo

    Hugs and love to Grandy xoxo

    Comfort, love and friendship to beautiful b. I know you’re going through a hard time, my friend. Hand outstretched xoxox

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    Darling friend/beautiful b (& a wave to all),

    I’m very sorry to post again. I only just saw your latest post after writing today. I hope that’s okay...I try not to do that too often. It’s mostly when I accidentally miss a post...

    My beautiful friend, what a horrible time you have been having...I don’t know what has happened, but it’s clearly something very big. My heart is open and I’m listening intently, my friend...

    I think you’re allowed to feel negative emotions, hurt and struggle. We are sitting with you in your hurt and struggle.

    You don’t have to pretend to be okay if that’s not how you’re truly feeling...maybe give yourself permission to not be okay...we won’t think any less of you...

    I know you love and respect your family, and want to respect their feelings and privacy. I know mrs be means the world to you. Your love for your family is precious...

    I also know you want to do the right thing by them, because of your compassion, care & your love...but at the same time, I also feel there’s a story that is wanting to be told. Or deep feelings that want to be expressed...there’s something stirring...

    I don’t know what is the right thing to do or how much you want to share. But as long as you are comfortable sharing, we are comfortable too.

    We are listening, we care & we respect however much you wish to share or not share. Your thread is always available to you if you wish to let some of it out...maybe it’s time, my friend?

    That quiz sounds interesting. I wonder, what does the owl or bear mean? Does it mean anything to you or was it simply what the quiz told you?

    I chose a wolf instinctively. There’s no real reason, aside from the Pack thing. When I picture a wolf, I understand something. It’s hard to put in words...

    I suppose pack animal aside, they are also ferocious creatures even when alone. They tend not to be alone for long though...it just means they are going to form their own pack soon.

    They understand it’s not always about “me.” That sometimes we have to do things we don’t like for the benefit of the Pack.

    As for restrictions lifting, we will probably get a second wave. The question is how big or small. I’m erring on the side of caution till we understand the size of wave no.2...

    A gentle hug to you. You’re in my thoughts. You’re welcome to post here any time, or on your own thread. I’m listening, either way.

    Hand outstretched in friendship. I think you’re a wonderful person. Sending love, affection and comfort your way, my friend xoxox

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    12 May 2020 in reply to Peppermintbach
    Oh no.

    I wrote a biiiig reply 😔😔😔 all gone 😔😔😔
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