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  1. startingnew
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    8 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster

    hi DB

    im not sure what to say but offerring a listening ear, hugs or hand holding for comfort whenever you need them

    xoxox

    hey Starwolf, how are you holding up

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    8 October 2017 in reply to startingnew
    Thanks hun xx

    I'll get through, just gotta not let the downs consume, or ackowledge them.
    Once I catch up in sleep, gunna try for some more soon.

    Had couple more manias lately in process of coming down but it appens.

    Thx :)
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    8 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster

    DB you can still acknowledge your feelings. its important to acknoeldge them instead of squashing them. it doesnt mean you have to act but rather see it on a cloud and watch it float away or see a leaf floating down a river with your troubles and imagine them just floating away.

    dont deny yourself of your feelings, it doesnt help.

    im sorry youve been having it rough though but i guess its part of life and having a mental illness. we all ahve those good and bad days

    hugs xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

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    8 October 2017 in reply to startingnew
    thx hun yeah acknowledge wrong word actually, I should say not to dwell or let them pull me down which I for a while had few tears and then pulled up.

    Sleep helped no end, had couple hrs or more.

    IF that's the worst and the other downs before and during I'll be happy cause have managed it all this time without sliding deeper and staying put.
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    9 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster

    Thank you for letting me know my ravings can help make a small difference.

    It sounds like you've had a few major wins just recently, music to my cyber ears. You are lucky to have a brother you can discuss life and all else with. Nothing like sharing a good laugh with someone who knows you well, is there ?

    I have been feeling really unwell (physically). So atm spending days on the road to have tests done. Those long, painful drives leave me feeling like a shredded rag so I'm keeping a low profile. Of course no one at this end to take care of "business as usual" while I'm away.

    Hi SN. Sorry I haven't visited your thread for a while for the above reason... though keeping an eye on how you're doing. Your chance to enjoy time off from my nagging :-)

    A peaceful, restful evening to you both.

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    9 October 2017 in reply to Starwolf

    Hi DB,

    I'm glad you managed to get a little sleep, and moreover, that it has helped you.

    You sound like you're managing the blues well. It's good that the depression hasn't caved in on you. Much credit to you. I'm happy to hear that.

    Sending love,

    Pepper xoxo

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    9 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster

    hey DB

    thats a better phrase. im glad you dont let them get to you. demonblaster you are arent you

    i hope you sleep continues to get better though for you

    sending lots of hugs

    xoxox

    Hey Star- YOUR NOT NAGGING! i love having you around, i see no nagging in your posts at all jsut genuine care and compassion. thank you for keeping an eye out but you need to look after you too which im glad your doing. i wish someone was there helping you though.

    sending a big cyber hug to you xoxoxox

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    9 October 2017 in reply to Starwolf
    Ahhh Rock that's not good chooks, really am sorry to hear ,would like to know what's happening if you wanna say. Can ambo pick you or community transport, sounds like you're doing it rough .

    You NEVER NAG OR RAVE, your input is solid GOLD, so much empathy, support and wisdom......((( ROCK ))) STAR
    You're respected here with damned good reason, it's earnt. Know that dear lady .... Thankyou I'm so glad we've met

    Can RSPCA help out when you're not able or sick like now?

    Guys this I hope but need to not only hope but to believe and keep determined & keep at self talk & get this mind fully made up. Gunna get this.
    Been getting through the hards. This is bloody mammoth. IT CAN BE DONE!

    So to learn to make and Keep resolve. Making up the mind. Let's go.

    Rock you be ok dear friend. Wish I could help you, what about talking to GP to see what help you can get?
    ((( x )))

    Thankyou dear Peps, hope you're travelling better than recently. We can get this Peps. Gotta believe aye, you do too, half the battle with anything's believing it can be done I reckon.

    Thx lovely people :)

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    9 October 2017 in reply to startingnew
    The deepest darkest of depression has had me all my life Starts, have over time got the super highs (type 1, down to mainly type 2, beeeeeautiful but more control) so I've always said I'm gunna beat this but not till now have started working harder on the downs well in a more productive way better description. I like thinking and put a LOT into this, huge emotional control needed, for us all. Doable with time and patience.

    RockStar can you let us know here how you're going plz even if just in for that, we can keep an eye on you cyberly

    Enjoy reading you saying a peaceful restful evening, makes me feel calm. To you too Rock

    Breath Starts you're strong to hack
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    9 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster

    hey DB

    i know ive gotta work on the lows too, (i jsut honestly dont have much hope left) just as you are and seem to be doing quite well. of course youll have bad days but thats part of life i suppose....

    glad your doing ok though. im glad

    xoxox

    breathing is a start isnt it

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    9 October 2017 in reply to startingnew
    I'm thinking to get hope back Starts, is first to believe and want to get through, want as in determined to.

    You can & will Starts, you've got strength kicking in and out, it's practice aye. In the couple of mths or so I've known you I've seen the goods rise, you'll get there, just keep at it and good you're listening to people here, everyone has experience of some sort, we all wanna reach a common goal, to be free of pain, I truly believe that if we really put our minds to it we can find & use the tools.

    Believe

    That's right there'll be days, just gotta not let the flow continue, cut it off after the thoughts if they're just downers, work on the stuff that needs work.

    (( good soul touching hugs )) for whoever needs em. Hugs release goods too, so does smiling.
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    10 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster

    Yeah, I'll have one of those soul touching hugs. Thank you.

    Please do not worry about me. Yeah, seen some GPs. One of the problems with rural area is that most of the doctors are not here by choice. Just fresh out of med school or/and cannot afford their own practice. So they don't really want to be here and are mostly inexperienced. It's ever changing series of new ones. Then tests happen a day's drive away. Too difficult if you're exhausted or in pain. Also too costly if you don't have regular employment.

    The dogs here have all been written off before by rescue orgs for being unworkable so their fate is linked to mine. It's an accepted thing. So is my choice of lifestyle so I'm mentally and emotionally OK with whatever comes of it. I'm no Spring chook. Never thought I'd make it this far (I'm 68 !). I've been unbelievably healthy and fit so far. So I've been luckier than many.

    It breaks my heart to see younger people being denied a normal life because they're coping with chronic pain or physical disabilities. To me you guys are heroes. This kind of endurance and resilience is more to be respected than the odd single act of courage. Add to this mental issues (I sure know what that feels like !)...do you realize how special you people are ???

    Hope today treats you kindly.

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    10 October 2017 in reply to Starwolf

    hey DB

    Giving up isnt in my vocabulary DB. I dont give up. Sometimes I stay on the floor because I cant get back up but I WILL get back up.
    Everyone has their own experiences and soemthing to add, its up to myself r whoever is receiving advice to take it (or not) as the please.


    How have you been? Managing your pain ok?

    sending some special hugs your way

    xoxox




    Star, I give squishy sister/grand-daughter hugs, you can have as many of those as you like.
    Star, we wont stop worrying about you, you mean a lot to myself, clearly DB and many others here whether your here or away from the forums we will worry (and we are allowed too ;-) )


    hmm yes rural isnt fun at all, hopefully you can come a cross a good one and can find out whats going on for you and actually help you and not send you all about the country side hey.
    Your not old, but no not a spring chook and we and you want yourself as healthy as possible.


    I cant speak for everyone Star but you have had a massive role in my resilience and endurance building. If I hadnt of come here and let my paranoia get the best of me to not sign up I might not be alive today because as you know I havent got much at all outside support, psych and gp. Thats it and I find when Im struggling I dont turn to them, I do the opposite and turn them away. But you and the lovely people here have helped me get to where I am now

    xoxoxo

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    10 October 2017 in reply to Starwolf
    Thx Rock for reply esp when you're not feeling so good. Yes I do worry about you, as you may have noticed lol, I think very highly of you & care deeply.

    Is it something serious as in heart or kidney etc or other which is rotten but treatable.
    Bumma re the docs, & having to say same old every time a newbie. Pretty poor isn't it.

    Hey thanks for what you say about people with pain. I at least re coop, some poor buggas chronic acute. Not that I haven't had torture multitude of times, GOD, nearly do anything to avoid that except not have chocolate that is :)

    You're such a brave lady doing what you do for those dogs, scares the beejeezus outta me lol but understand & appreciate why you do this and how your mental telepathy came about. What a legend you are lady. ((( soul ))) good you're taking the soul hugs, I love hugging but am realising more here to try to go easy as some don't for many reasons.
    haha giggling bout what you said bout lab teaching me to train it for food every 5mins, YEAH AYE, is that all dogs.

    Plz keep us informed dear friend,xx

    Want you to be healthy ALL time like you have been till now

    Deep care Rock

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    10 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster

    Deep care received. Thank you.

    Most dogs -not all- are food oriented but Labs take the cake and eat it too. They're usually kind, compassionate, playful dogs but their brain is firmly anchored in their stomach.

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    10 October 2017 in reply to Starwolf
    Mwah

    Cool, from you and had bits of dog knowledge and brother/sil learning more and more.

    Tinsy winsy bit .... if something happens but she's the true beautiful nature of a lab, and soo damned tired still so it'll be fine, enjoying this time here, magic.

    usually not a stressor.

    Hey didn't ask how you are today Soz. Been thinking tho

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    11 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster

    Hi DB,

    I just wanted to pop in quickly to say hi and to send some love and care your way. I know you've been up and down a fair bit so just know that I'm thinking of you.

    Warm thoughts,

    Pepper xoxo

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    11 October 2017 in reply to Peppermintbach
    Hey sweet, thankyou, you too are a real sweety, so glad to have you as a friend here

    Ditto love and care to you, you're so deserving xx

    And talking about deserving, how are you today ROCKSTAR (( soul )) hope you're getting some answers.
    Be well dear friend

    Thx beautiful people :)
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    11 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster
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    Have been doing really well this long cycle, very long and had a couple of mini manias lately during the coming down, the odd downs but got through

    Phooo I guess it's not gunna happen over night, bit teary atm, situations changed for a bit now & feeling a bit alone, but have to keep that resolve I had in the mania, not gunna let this pull me down. It is atm but I've gotta I reckon let the tears go and pick back up. I CAN DO IT. ... just tell my eyes that :)
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    11 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster

    Hi DB,

    Thank you :)

    It's good to hear that you seem to be managing your cycles even if you're feeling teary.

    Yes, I also believe, tears or not, you can get through it.

    You said it yourself, "I can do it."

    Caring thoughts,

    Pepper xoxo

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    12 October 2017 in reply to Peppermintbach
    Thx Peps :) How you doin today hun?

    Pulled up after few tears, think it's a good thing to cry, a release. Wasn't much.

    Rock how are you darl? thoughts. xx
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    13 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster

    Hi DB,

    Gentle hugs from me...

    I agree that tears can be cleansing and cathartic- an emotional release. It sounds like they have helped you and perhaps was what you needed...

    Thanks for asking, you're very caring. I'm a mix of semi-sad and semi-numb, which I have coined "same" (I.e. "sad" + "numb" = "same").

    Kind thoughts,

    Pepper xoxo

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    *correction: "samb" (not "same")

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    14 October 2017 in reply to Peppermintbach

    Samb that's good hun but not aye

    Thankyou for your ongoing support too darl sorry not much atm limited net access on ph: tricky jeez put brothers laptop to sleep can't wake it up arghhh

    Gentle hugs back atcha sweet xx

    & ROCK STAR to you too How you feeling xx

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    15 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster

    Still watching and listening but not up to much else. The body just will not go along with what the mind wants to do.

    But you are in good company.

    I can relate to computer problems. Due to necessary security updates, a spanner has been thrown in the works. My own safe line puts everything to sleep whenever the laptop is off. It takes ages to wake things up again. Reminds me of the old dial-up days...

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    15 October 2017 in reply to Starwolf

    Ahh Rock hate you're not well been thinkin bout you

    Worried (( )) Be ok Rock

    Hav u had any results yet?

    When you're ready I know you're not up to poor darling

    Know I really care bout you & want you better good lady xx

    Yeah laptop doesn't wanna wake

    I've been sleeping lot too

    Thoughts dear friend

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    Hey DB how are you?❤

    Hey Star hope your doing ok too ❤

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    16 October 2017 in reply to Starwolf

    Hey hun I replied but not up yet

    Had dream bout you & your health last nite

    How are you today

    B ok Rock I care so much about you

    Respect xx

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    16 October 2017 in reply to startingnew

    Hey Starts yeah ok thx

    Don't wanna b alone want someone to love & b LOVED but we all want that aye

    Not round much put brothers laptop to sleep,can't wake it up OHOH

    Probs back mid week properly

    Hope you're doin better

    Thx darling xx

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    16 October 2017 in reply to demonblaster

    hey DB

    uhoh! hopefully that gets fixed soon!

    that is all anyone could ever want DB but if its any consoloidation we love you and appreciate you here

    xoxox

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