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Topic: This bipolar life

  1. Lisa611
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    6 November 2021 in reply to asdff

    Hi All!

    Quirky I think one of the most important things we can do is read to a child.

    Velvet don't over do it...you are on the go all day. If you get to the gym 3 days then that's great.

    Aries enjoy your getaway.

    Am going out for dinner tonight with both my daughters. We are going to a seafood Greek place. Am wearing a new outfit. It's my birthday. Hope everyone's Ok.

  2. quirkywords
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    6 November 2021 in reply to Lisa611

    Happy Birthday Lisa. Is it a big birthday or an in between one. Are yiu having cake if so what type..

    my daughter reads and talked everyday to her baby , I delivered a few hundred books my daughter asked for her baby. A great collection of our favourite authors and new ones.

    Aries have a nice time away.

    Asdff I know what you mean about crying babies.

    Velvet I want to buy one of those fit bit things to count my steps but never do as it seems complicated.

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  3. velvetfaerie
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    6 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    I was spectacularly lazy yesterday. 6k steps. Lazy today. Not really. Comparitively.

    Ohhhhhh a getaway Airies. Nice.

    Dinner is nice too Lisa. I'm cooking some top notch steak tonight. Man thing is banned from cooking steak. Last scotch fillet he munted.

    I believe interacting with babies helps them learn so much about the world around them. Emotions. Speech. Probably bucketloads!

  4. quirkywords
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    6 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet

    I doubt you could every be lay but your idea of lay woul me bring flat out!

    Enjoy tomorrow

  5. asdff
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    6 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    Happy Birthday Lisa. Enjoy your night with your girls.
  6. Guest_9347
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    6 November 2021 in reply to Kazzl

    Omg, this is exactly me, I really thought I was the only one that had these exact problems of crazy go go days and then feeling useless  for the things I have done and my husband just can’t understand me…

    Thankyou for this

    let’s talk

  7. asdff
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    6 November 2021 in reply to asdff
    I’m riding this sickness way. This increase in meds has done a number on me. Nauseous, headaches, lethargy, metallic taste.
  8. quirkywords
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    7 November 2021 in reply to Guest_9347

    Guest 9347

    welcome to the forum and thanks for making your first post here. When you feel you are the only one it be lonely. You are not alone and we are listening.

    we are not medical people but we have lived experience. Have you ever spoken to your gp.

    sometimes moods maybe caused my different things.
    we are a friendly supportive group so ask questions chat and or read. You are welcome and we are listening.

  9. Airies
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    7 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Lisa, Happy Birthday , hope you have a good one.oh yum seafood Greek place I’m salivating.

    Asdff , be kind to yourself. Medication takes time to adjust. I’m on lots . My issue is I have the odd one falling out or staying in the Webster pack. I’m now on Panadol osteo. Didn’t realise taking these can lead to issues. I’m a bit blasé in regards to meds. I’d like to be off them. Maybe one day.

    Will try and enjoy time away.Not a fan of driving but we can share

  10. velvetfaerie
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    7 November 2021 in reply to Airies

    As I learn about things I've been diagnosed with, I see things so much more clearly now. I wish the people in my life would educate themselves to understand too.

    Why am I bad with praise? Rarely if ever have I received it. Positive feedback is super rare. I don't think that's unique at all.

    I always have to push myself because I've been conditioned to think I'm not worth positive feedback, because it has rarely happened.

    Need to do more and more to seek the reward. Never get the reward. Burn out. Rinse repeat.

    It's depressing tbh.

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  11. velvetfaerie
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    7 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    I've tried to talk to people about it. It only gets ignored / pushed aside and they continue about themselves.

    It really hurts.

  12. asdff
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    7 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie
    Velvet everything you wrote sounds so familiar to me. Praise, what’s that? One of my parents never told me they loved me until I was 38. Never said I am proud of you till I was 38. His behaviour changed because he lost a child and went to therapy. He is sh$t with acknowledging his feelings. Anyway back to you my friend. Are you putting in some strategies to help with burnout? I would probably have it but I saw my Mum with it. So I do some self preservation things.
  13. velvetfaerie
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    7 November 2021 in reply to asdff

    Probably why we both go full tilt hammer and tongs wanting that recognition. The praise. The positive feedback. Acknowledgement. Validation. To be heard and heaven forbid understood!!!

    My parents are the same. Maybe it's me? I've blamed myself too for the lack of normal parent / child affection.

    I've started with not chasing people anymore. I have always been the one to contact, suggest catching up, etc etc. I've stopped. I also never get invited or included in anything unless it's something I instigate. So I've stopped.

    That's it for now. Work I'm putting in boundaries. Ones in my own head. Like don't try to do 3 jobs at once. Do 1 and if you can't do the others let it go. I was told any absences now I have to plan them. Ok. I'll plan my next germ no sweat.

    Gah.

  14. velvetfaerie
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    7 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    I've come out of the diagnosed and treatment adhd closet to a lot of close people. Only the smallest minority seemed to absorb the basic of info. The rest ignored it, dismissed it or reduced it.

    Cool!! Try doing that to a person of different race, gender identity, sexuality or culture and watch the kick off.

    I hate society's double standards.

  15. quirkywords
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    7 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Asdff and Velvet

    i can relate to what you both write seeking approval. When I started writing a weekly blog my family thought it was a joke and I regretted showing them what I wrote.

    Maybe not praise but to have people I love be proud of me.

    I was often told I was messy careless untidy and clumsy which I was.

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  16. velvetfaerie
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    7 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    When I look at society as a whole, tearing people down, bullying etc is now the norm. Praise comes from posting heavily filtered photos on social media while wearing next to nothing.

    This is what we've become. Praise the fake and ignore the real.

  17. velvetfaerie
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    7 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    I almost cancelled my gym membership yesterday too.

    The instructor wasn't very nice and I tried to chat to 4 class members friendly and stuff and not one smile or a word. They looked at me like I was some swamp creature.

    The instructor got friendlier though as he got to know me a bit so that was good. He figured out I wasn't a threat or something

    .

  18. quirkywords
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    8 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Where I volunteer I always say hello when I arrive. Not dire if people can’t hear.

    through my mask but I am often ignored. I keep on being polite

    Velvet I am glad the instructor took time to know you.

    I have had lots of social interaction in past week and cuddles adult and baby, Really good but strangely tiring.

  19. velvetfaerie
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    8 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Sorry to vent.

    I hope you all have a fabulously lovely awesome week ahead.

    V

  20. asdff
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    8 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    Quirky, my psychologist says I am mean to myself. I have a few years to make myself that way. I have really low self esteem.
  21. Airies
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    8 November 2021 in reply to asdff

    Velvet ,it’s healthy to vent.Finally made it to our destination. Long drives aren’t for me. Speaking of venting I cracked it with a mate trying to organise a catch-up. He insists on communicating by email. A couple of phone calls would be far quicker. He’s cracked it with me with another email. My wife says I’m over reacting. I don’t care. Such a tight ass he won’t go anywhere decent. I’m not a snob but frankly I cant be bothered. Maybe I’ve turned into a grumpy old man. My worlds becoming smaller but that ok, I’ve got people here as we get one another.

  22. Airies
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    8 November 2021 in reply to asdff
    Asdff, I think we are really hard on ourselves. If I could give you a hug I would. Plus we don’t give ourselves enough credit. It’s only through therapy that things have picked up for me. Baby steps
  23. quirkywords
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    8 November 2021 in reply to asdff

    Asdff

    i am told I am hard on my self but then people say something criticsl

    Velvet I enjoy your post because I learn something .

    Aries enjoy you break.

  24. velvetfaerie
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    8 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    After a lifetime of being treated like rubbish, I think we are all hard on ourselves. Conditioning.

    After work, gym and walking the dog, I should sleep very well tonight!!!

  25. Airies
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    9 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet, you are so so right. I’m cutting myself some slack during this getaway in terms of food/fasting.After a decent walk had a magnum ice cream yummy.

    Just saw a discounted gym membership. Maybe when I was younger not now.

  26. quirkywords
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    9 November 2021 in reply to Airies
    Aries Icecream after a long walk.
    I am not a milk drinker but while away I rediscovered a chocolate powder with milk again. So addictive. I felt like a naughty school girl.
  27. quirkywords
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    10 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Rain more rain and fog, what a wet day .

    Does anyone’s mood het affected by the weather.

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  28. velvetfaerie
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    10 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    Yes. I love the warm sunny days. Even the hot days to a point. Sunshine is the best.
  29. Airies
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    10 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie
    Much prefer the suns rays on my bike. Brings out the bees, flowers, fragrances. I hate the wind. It sets me off these days. Once I loved running in the rain, the ultimate challenge.The rains set in here on our coastal getaway . V there’s lots of birds here. They have ve provided seed for us to put out. Luckily enough to see King Parrots, Rainbow Lorikeets and some doves I’m not familiar with.
  30. velvetfaerie
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    10 November 2021 in reply to Airies

    King parrots are great. First time I saw those was in the snowy mountains I think. Was a very long time ago.

    Sunshine and bike rides. Maybe I need a bike ride this weekend. Been a while and it's going to be super warm. Flowers are great. I have Guinea flower in the backyard and the blue banded bees love it.

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