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Topic: This bipolar life

  1. velvetfaerie
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    3 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Very worn out after this week but looking positive towards the scheduled meetings next week.

    I hope everyone here is trucking along ok!!!

  2. quirkywords
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    3 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet

    I hope you rest on the weekend.

    I am volunteering on Saturday at charity shop .

    Been a bit of a struggle this week with family never letting me forget my past. People say change and then they won’t let you.

  3. velvetfaerie
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    4 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    I've definitely factored in rest this weekend. I've told 3 people no.

    Working in charity shops would give you the opportunity to meet and talk to some interesting and kind people yeh?

    Not like man things ex and offspring. Because it's not all their way this weekend it's not happening. Lol. They don't understand compromise, teamwork, accountability and stuff.

    *rolls eyes*

    I'm going to the gym to be accountable for my lack of exercise this week ahhaha.

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  4. asdff
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    4 December 2021

    Velvet I’m the opposite of you today. No exercise for me. I find it very hard to not go out and exercise. That is okay I can do rest. I am so proud that you got your point across at work. Hats off to you and be proud that you got a write up on your condition.

    Quirky, my Mother thinks I would be good in an Op Shop because unlike her. I wouldn’t take thousands of things home. Ha ha.

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    4 December 2021 in reply to asdff

    asdff

    I do buy things and collecting but it is my therapy and by buying secondhand things I am stopping items going to land fill. I buy things then when i dont need then I donate them back.

    Velvet there interesting customers and volunteers and going there has been good social outlet plus I get to work with books. I hope the exercise went well.

  6. velvetfaerie
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    5 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Exercise is awesome.

    More today.

    It's been a very insane week. One more thing is a friend I've had for 20 years or more has turned out to not be who he claimed. He's a bad person.

    He's done bad things. Not allegedly. He has. A credible source has come forward. I know her very well.

    Turns out some things he did to me have come back to my memory and indeed are very much predator behaviours which were also done to the credible person.

    Myself and this man's ex are just brain mush at the moment. Guilt. Anger. Sadness.

    I am ok I'm just mush. He's going to be in jail again before the end of today.

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    5 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet

    Thst would be so horrible on so many levels.

    I don’t know what to say except I hope you have support.

    A very insane week and so much for you to process and cope with.
    Thinking of you.

  8. velvetfaerie
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    5 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    I'm used to no support but my friend, his ex, and I are chatting. We both feel the same way.

    I have a coffee date today with a old work colleague which is cool!!!!

    I might read a book too. After. It's been a year since I've read a book. You've inspired me to try again Quirky.

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    5 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet

    I am glad you have people to chat with, and a coffee date, was there cake?

    I need to inspire myself to read more as I read lots of children books and a very esoteric and quirky mixture of books.

    Lisa how is school going and wedding preparations.

    Asdff how are you feeling?

    Aries are you having a family Christmas get together at your place. ?

  10. asdff
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    5 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    I hope you and friend can process your feelings together. Reading, I love it. That and exercise are my favourite things. I can escape with both. I can quiet my VERY loud brain and thought patterns.

    At this moment I am sitting and waiting for teen child in a busy shopping centre. I’ve done the chores I needed to do, now want to go home. Usually teen child would catch the bus to and from this shopping centre. I have had enough of loud and super bright lights. I also saw two rather entitled primary school aged girl with their Mum and Dad in the toy section of a shop. They were exclaiming what they had and what they wanted for Christmas. Sorry parents the whole shop doesn’t need to hear it. Who else gets peeved at entitles people?

  11. velvetfaerie
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    5 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    We had huge iced coffees with all the trimmings. No cake. I can't believe I forgot cake!!! Was 4hrs catching up. Very good stuff. The workplace she left and I'm still in needs to change. The resignation of one of the high up toxic people is a start. My foray challenging attitudes and belief systems with support may help. It may not. Gotta try.

    Ah yeh didn't tell you avid readers. My uncle wrote and released a book about his time undercover in the police force in the 70s and 80s.

    Shops do my head in. Too much overload. Entitled annoys me too. Big time. Too much of it in society.

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  12. quirkywords
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    5 December 2021 in reply to asdff

    Asdff

    me, I heard one woman complain how she was so stressed as she could get the nail polish colour she wanted.

    I also get annoyed people in shops start harassing assistants who are only doing their job.
    I hope you weren’t waiting too long.

    It has been raining here all day. My biggest walk was from house to garage.

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  13. Airies
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    6 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    It’s sunny here today. A bit of gardening and hoping to part up some plants to sell. Injections in my ankle have worked and back on the bike. I always walk but with a ride I find I’m not reaching for extra med.

    id love to control my eating but I’m constantly changing.
    V you will have to get an autographed copy. Sounds like it will be a fascinating read. I will be dropping off some books to the Salvos. No cds, albums, dvds , books in this house . Minimalist.Grab a few books for holidays and once read gone.Love it.

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    6 December 2021 in reply to Airies

    Aries

    What is opposite of minimalist a maximumist, a clutterer??

    I was a minimalist for maybe a few weeks after the fires. I now have maybe 500 books or more but I had thousands.

    I see my books and soft toys as my therapy.

    Last few days I have been so tired.

    How is everyone?

  15. velvetfaerie
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    6 December 2021 in reply to Airies

    I have an autographed copy at my parents place. I'm yet to collect it.

    I'm exhausted. Minimal sleep. 14hrs non stop day with 1hr rest.

    Meeting went very well.

    I have learnt that when you start asking people to respect your boundaries and they continually ignore, argue, fight, justify, they benefit too much from taking advantage.

    Lots of people aren't liking it. Well lots of people will no longer be in my life. 3 have been cut out. I'll keep going.

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    7 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    velvet

    glad meeting went well.

    That is true what you say about people ignoring your boundaries , I never saw it like that but they do benefit from taking advantage. I used to make excuses for people but no more.

  17. asdff
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    7 December 2021

    Who feels managing their illness is a full time job? I sure do. Appointments, picking up medications, getting scripts from the doctor, blood tests etc etc. I don't usually feel atacked about not going to "Paid" work but I Do today. That is okay. It's nearly school holidays and I have to run the ratbags around.

    As for boundaries. I have learned to say no as otherwise I would turn into my Mother. Who can only say no, now her body can't keep up with her demands. She still is not very good at it.

  18. quirkywords
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    7 December 2021 in reply to asdff

    Asdff handling my emotions is a full time job for me.

    Handling comments people close to me makes full time work.

    I talk about myself I am seen as being self centred. I make a comment I am grumpy and negative .

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  19. asdff
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    7 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    Quirky I laughed out loud about handling your emotions. Same here Quirky. It’s hot here today and affects my mood. What time of day it is affects my mood.
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    7 December 2021 in reply to asdff

    asdff

    I remember wondering when I was younger what would happen when i was way past menopause and no longer had hormones and mood swings to explain my grumpineaa!!

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  21. asdff
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    8 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    Quirky, my husband and I used to wonder if my moods were PMS. Obviously, then I had my big depression crashes. It sucks being us. People think we should be working etc.
  22. velvetfaerie
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    8 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    The drop of oestrogen causes pms....

    Imagine what menopause is like when oestrogen drops off never to return?

    Eeek!!!.

    Going through the process at work regarding my grievance and complaint.

    This place went into damage control. No one is speaking to me. Meeting and closed doors discussions are happening too.

    If they're going against privacy with the bits that weren't to be discussed I'll see them in court.

  23. quirkywords
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    8 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    velvet yes eek, I have been living with eek for nearly ten years!!

    Sorry no one is talking to you. I hoped there would be one person on your side.

    asdff I think we all work just being. I wondered what it would be like to wake up in the morning in a happy mood and full of energy and not worrying what mood you would be in and being overwhelmed by all the plans one made the night before.

  24. velvetfaerie
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    8 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Epiphany night. I'm too much for most people and this is why I've never had a circle or clique. From school to work to gym. I'm just the person who is occasionally thrown a token invite or conversation.

    I'm also very much not what society expected from a female.

    And I actually don't care.

    I have a few individual people I know who are my tribe. Beats the large groups of fake any day.

    Different scares most people. One day society might evolve and stop being so bigoted.

    I need sleep. Eeek. Haha. I laughed at that Quirky.

  25. Lisa611
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    9 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Hi All...have been catching up on the latest posts. There's nothing wrong with being different V. My youngest daughter is alternative and bi. I accept her for who she is. She was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder in her teens. She has come a long way since then. When you genuinely care and love someone differences don't matter. I don't agree with some of her life choices but I accept her unconditionally.

    Quirky I'm counting down the work days!!! We finish up next week. I'm really looking forward to the break. I have to give a presentation on the first day back so I have to work on that. The wedding is full steam ahead! Let's just get through December first and then I'll get excited!! Hope everyone is chugging along ok x

  26. quirkywords
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    9 December 2021 in reply to Lisa611

    Lisa

    good to hear your update. Your December and January sounds hectic.
    I like people who are different. I think accepting someone unconditionally is the best thing you can offer another h7man.

    velvet , like you I don’t have a large group of friends,

    I agree many people want to be the same as others and even change themselves .

  27. velvetfaerie
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    9 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    Perth is in menopause.
  28. Airies
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    9 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Hi folks, it would be so boring if we were the same, so so boring and then there are us. My wife finds it so hard keeping up with me as I’m in constantly changing from one thing to another.

    V I don’t miss the workplace at all.It’s taken me years to accept being on a pension much earlier than anticipated.

    Lisa, wow what a January for you. Xmas is not at our house this year not that I do all that much .I just hope we have some decent weather.

    Chugging along here ok. Too windy to ride but need to get a few things organised for xmas

  29. velvetfaerie
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    9 December 2021 in reply to Lisa611

    Hey Lisa!!! Whoops. Missed your post. People differ everywhere. To judge them harshly when you don't understand them is harsh. I admire your outlook on these things it's super refreshing.

    Sadly I won't get a pension. To be fair I don't want or need one. People need to learn & realise society isn't represented by a few very narrow and bigoted demographics.

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    9 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    I am still contemplating Perth is in menopause.

    Airies I like the fact your wife tries to keep up with you, my partners past and present have tended to want me to change and be like them as they always felt right.

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