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Topic: This bipolar life

  1. velvetfaerie
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    16 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Absolutely Quirky. You get it! People need to stop being dismissive all the time. Especially those who run to you for help yet dismiss you're own struggles.

    My aim is to start to just walk away from those types and I have started. It's all a double standard. They can have bad days as can their kids. My bad days at inconvenient and foo foo.

    ***eye roll***

    The dogs being a pain today too.

  2. velvetfaerie
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    16 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Because i am stupid I didn't understand things with work.

    I get it now. It makes sense. I just need to be brave.

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    16 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet you are definitely not stupid .
    You may be have been trusting .
    You are very astute and have insight into your behaviour and others.

    I think your work is complex and many will not understand how it works.

    I feel you are brave already.

  4. Airies
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    16 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Velvet, you are far from stupid. You come across as an intelligent, witty person and and Quirky captures it all so well. Just an off day at work for a mob that don’t seem to appreciate you.

    You are brave, just by being here.I wish I could articulate it like Quirky. Be kind to yourself.

  5. velvetfaerie
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    16 December 2021 in reply to Airies

    The mob don't appreciate any staff at all. This is probably why we are all ratty, burnt out, and over it.

    I didn't realise but I need to have conversations myself and HR will facilitate it. They won't speak for me. I absolutely did not understand that. He also didn't mention reasonable accommodations and why. This would be because it needs to come from me and I can therefore explain first hand.

    It all makes perfect sense. He just didn't explain it that way. I had to figure it out.

    I read policies and yeh I go higher if things aren't reasonable. It shouldn't get to that.

    I don't speak riddles at all. Lol.

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    16 December 2021 in reply to Airies

    Airies thanks for your kindness but many days I can not find an easy word and my words make no sense.

    velvet do you think HR makes it hard for people so many will be discouraged.

  7. velvetfaerie
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    16 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Bravery abounds in this thread.

    I think HR are to protect the business, not the individual.

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    16 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet

    I agree lots of bravery on this thread that we may see in others but may not ourselves.

    HR needs to be there for the individual doesn’t it?

  9. velvetfaerie
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    16 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Tough bunch here.

    You'd think re HR. But we see. At the moment it's in my court to decide who I talk to and about what. They'll facilitate this but I need to speak for myself. That's a good thing.

    The girl who pushed my buttons might not be as open to my words as she should be though. It's she's right everyone else is wrong.

    It's something to ponder. I won't bother if that's the attitude going in. It needs to be 2 people hearing and trying to understand.

    Yay Friday. 3 more work days left this year. So happy.

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    17 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet I hope you get to rest when away from work.

    Does anyone get affected by sad event in the news.? I find I have turn off the news.

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    18 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    I am w9nder8 g is the person I. Your life that inspired or helped you when you were struggling with the idea of having mental health issues.
  12. velvetfaerie
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    18 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Good question Quirky. There are 2 friends. One from highschool, we've grown apart now but not due to anything bad, just life, and one friend I have had for just over a decade. Man thing has also been pretty good I have to admit.

    There is a small handful of good gym people too.

    These people have both helped and inspired.

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    18 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Thanks Velvet

    I am glad you have these people.

    I have one friend I knew at school but only reconnected after the fires when she has kept in touch and been supportive. She is a doctor who has experience with mental health but mostly she just was there .

    Most people I know in offline life are well meaning but don’t really understand. I don’t know anyone with bipolar offline.

  14. velvetfaerie
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    18 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Sounds like a decent friend with an ability to empathise Quriky.

    I find many people hear bipolar, anxiety, adhd, autism, schizophrenia etc... and make a huge judgement without listening or researching things themselves from reputable sources.

    If anyone I know actually listens and chats and indeed does their own reading, they're top of the charts. It means they want to try and understand.

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    18 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet
    I think I have mentioned before that people feel they are an expert as they read one article on face book or watched a movie or tv show.

    I agree those who really listen and chat and get to know you are real gems.

  16. velvetfaerie
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    19 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    True. You have definitely said that. Most people don't have any real initiative though unless it directly affects them. Said that to a manager on Friday. It illustrates the insular nature of 99% of people.

    Is anyone here a hoarder? Sincere question and I'm wondering as I'm seeking to educate myself. I hope my question doesn't offended anyone.

    V.

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    19 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    My children told me once I was a couple of boxes away from them sending in an audition video to the Hoarders program.
    I admit that when I had the shop it gave me permission to buy stock and I think I over did this so much I had boxes over flowing. For years no one was allowed upstairs, the shop was downstairs I lived upstairs. When my partner moved in , he rearranged and tidied so I could have people upstairs. The trouble was I could not find anything.

    i know I have hoarding tendencies but since the fires I think they are under control.

    For me I am. Very disorganised and maybe bought things from op shops because I felt I needed them as always had plans. Also I felt op shops were cheap and recycling.
    i feel I wasn’t as bad S people on hoarders program but lots worse than anyone I knew.

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  18. asdff
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    19 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    Hello all, Dropping like I do. Quirky the news upsets me. I do like a good news story and I find them on Instagram. Even in real life, things greatly upset me. So I avoid them.It’s not the best strategy but at times I avoid upsetting situations as a self preservation method. As for hoarding; I am the opposite. Due to seeing my grandmother and mother with hoarding tendencies. My little family have said ask before you give that away to charity? okay. For me it’s a sign of control. I give things away when I feel my life is out of control.
  19. velvetfaerie
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    19 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Thanks for your input guys.

    I ask because my house and huge shed is still choc full of man things stuff. He hoards. He won't reduce. He keeps buying things and things and things. Rarely anything useful.

    Meanwhile I can't utilise or paint or fix the flooring due to lack of shuffle space. I also don't have time to be fair because or everything else.

    I'm sick and tired of accommodating others when no one gives back. I've addressed and started to address things with me that are just not working. It's hard to know when i have got there. I'm learning not to break myself. That's hard. Others haven't done anything at all.

    It's always up to me. Well no. Not anymore. Even the lost of requirements for Christmas won't be met because I fail to see why I need to break myself when others refuse to plan ahead.

    One more week. Oh the weather is going to be hot hot hot over here! GAh!!

    Thinking of all the parents with the school holidays going on.

    Lisa- thinking of you and the pending family wedding!!!!

    The world's gone topsy turvy Again!!!

  20. Airies
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    20 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    I’m not a hoarder but if I’m into something I’m looking online, buying things and totally over the top with it then eventually moving onto something else shortly or after a number of years.

    Overnight I’ve listed my spin bike, and a few other bits and pieces , placed a gym bench on the nature strip as they are hardly used, I’m bored with the indoor stuff. My wife pulls her hair out at times with my moments haha. Still adjusting to her returning to work and sons off to the big city in the New Year.

    It will be me and my dog.Thankgod for pets.I’m bored, a bit manic come to think of it been like it for ages and gritting from one thing to another and I forgot to mention eating. I m neither full or happy hungry

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  21. asdff
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    20 December 2021 in reply to Airies

    Airies we are similar. Do you buy out of comfort range? I.e. overspend or get into money troubles. I do not but I do buy lots of little things that I wonder why did I buy that? Lucky it’s nearly Christmas and A few of those unused items have come in handy. Teachers gifts, extended family member gifts.

    Velvet you are so self aware. I like that you are setting boundaries. They are healthy.

  22. quirkywords
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    20 December 2021 in reply to asdff

    Hello velvet, Asdff and Aries,

    Velvet since it is your place can’t you get to move say one box a week.
    Asdff glad you can use purchases for gifts.

    Aries I hope your items sell quickly.

  23. velvetfaerie
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    20 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    People don't like boundaries.

    I wish it was just me and the mutt this Christmas too. Sadly I'll be driving in 40+ degree heat.... with a catastrophic health thing due as well. :/

    I have been considering recycling gifts etc but I never buy anything for myself.

  24. Airies
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    21 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Asdff, as we speak I’ve a number of people about to pounce on an item I’ve listed. Will you the cash to spend on my latest hobby.

    My wife keeps me in check as I’m always after something. I do regret selling some expensive gear when I was really unwell but that’s just the way it is.

    im forever trolling on Ebay looking at stuff,reviews .

    V, don’t envy you driving in that heat. Stay hydrated , along with the pooch. It’s going to be 21 degrees here.A smallish Xmas function to attend which is more then enough. We are having a small family function in a few days at short notice. We were supposed to go elsewhere but due to vaccination concerns it isn’t happening. I do get thrown out and stressed by things like that.

  25. quirkywords
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    21 December 2021 in reply to Airies

    Airies

    I don’t like waking up to find that something I planned to do has been changed.
    There has been so much change in last few years that it is hard to embrace more.

    Velvet is it humid heat or dry heat?

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  26. velvetfaerie
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    21 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Small functions are usually the best. Doing what's best for you is also best.

    Today it's humid. 30 ish degrees and humid. The forecast in my suburb area from Friday is over 40 degrees until at least Monday. Dry heat. There will be rolling blackouts for sure. The generator is being prepared Friday while its only 38 degrees.

    I'm hoping that they're overstretched the temperatures and its going to be under 40!!!!

    Last official work day of the year today. I got and gave no gifts hahaha. However, the big boss handed me a huge box addressed to me. I'm like eh? Yeh a lab I collaborate with in another state sent me a giant hamper. Would've cost a fair bit.

    So I shared it with relevant colleagues. It isn't just me that got things happening. Teamwork. Have to lead by example right???

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  27. Airies
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    21 December 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    V, how nice to be appreciated by others. If only your peers could take a leaf out of lab you collaborate withs book and appreciate you on so many levels.You’re worthy of a giant hamper and then some.

    it’s indicative of you as a person that you shared it with relevant colleagues. I hope you survive the heat and find the time to have a rare spoil and buy something for yourself

  28. quirkywords
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    21 December 2021 in reply to Airies

    Velvet

    I agree with what Aries said. I sm grab people showed you you are appreciated.

    I find it hard not to worry about the highest numbers ever in my state.

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    21 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    I am sacking my proofreader again.

    2nd sentence if my previous post should read.

    I am glad lab people showed you that you are appreciated.

  30. velvetfaerie
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    21 December 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    I didn't want to lower myself to their levels and show them that I'm not like them. It worked.

    Hahahahah proofreader.... we all muck up with the typing at times. I've seen some rippers in work emails lol!!!

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