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Topic: This bipolar life

  1. velvetfaerie
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    26 January 2022 in reply to quirkywords

    It's regurgitated stomach contents. Well, they have a 3 chambered stomach, as opposed to 4 which sheep, goats, cattle, etc have. So they launch ingesta from their mouths. Spit? Spittle? Saliva? Technically no.

    Almost human again. You name the side effect I had it. I still have my pet mandarin sized enlarged lymph node. Axillary - armpit. It's gone down a but thank goodness.

    Quiet day here on my own. Been too unwell all day.

    Mixed feelings about the break up. Sad. Angry. Free. Sad. I probably just need a good sleep not interrupted by fevers.

    V.

  2. Lisa611
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    27 January 2022 in reply to velvetfaerie
    V having mixed emotions after a break up is completely normal. Be patient with yourself as you grieve the end of your relationship. You are going through an upheaval. Be kind to yourself as you make the transition. Surround yourself with supportive people. Vent on here as much as you like : )
  3. velvetfaerie
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    27 January 2022 in reply to Lisa611

    We are being civil. He starts seeing a clinical psych in a few days. Oh to be a fly on the wall.

    I have the dog. I have a job. Although work sometimes hasn't been fun, it's definitely supportive at the moment. I have a home. I have a handful of cool friends. I generally have my health lol. I have many things to be thankful for.

    V

  4. quirkywords
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    27 January 2022 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet

    That is good is seeing a psych . My ex partners and present partner would never ever agree to seeing a counsellor etc because it is all my problem not theirs.!

    Hope you are improving soon.

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    29 January 2022 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Hello everyone

    I am watching a replay of the seekers 50th reunion back in 2014. I was never cool because I preferred eskers and Simon and Garfunkel to heavy rock.

    I also watched a program a few nights ago called Dementia choir, so sad and inspiring. I want to sing more but I have to sing all e or people complain.

    How is everyone.?

  6. Leisa68
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    29 January 2022 in reply to quirkywords

    Hi Quirky

    I don't know much about the Seekers (except for a couple of songs), apparently, they are very popular overseas as well as here in Australia so the documentary should be interesting! I have seen the dementia choir as well, a very poignant show. I think you should sing as much as you like Quirky!

    I had a friend give me a facial today, it was a lovely treat being treated with products that I could not afford. But lovely nonetheless. Maybe we could all do with one. Tonight will be a quiet one, with everyone milling about doing bits and pieces, but tommorow I am heading back to the pool for a swim, it's pretty humid up here, but not as hot as some people are experiencing. Food shopping surprised me yesterday with how slowly and sneakily the prices are going up in food. At least the shelves are looking fuller (except for the toilet paper).

    Leisa

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  7. asdff
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    29 January 2022 in reply to Leisa68

    Leisa I noticed how the food prices went up. Especially meat. I think but I’m not sure it’s because some of the workers are out with Covid or perhaps the prices will stay up. Milk, tissues went up here. I’m sure I noticed other items I just can’t think of them off hand. We took our kids to the pool in the late afternoon the other day. I didn’t swim I was just spectating. It was peaceful watching people doing laps. I like swimming. I just didn’t feel like going in. Maybe when my kids are back at school?

    Lisa, happy to hear the wedding went well. I always cry at weddings. Including my own:)

    Velvet, good to hear things are going okay and it’s civil between you and the man thing.

    Quirky, I like the Seekers but they are more my parents generation. A friend took her Mum to a concert. Maybe it was in 2014.

    I can’t wait Till Monday, school is back. Hallelujah. School Holidays take it out of me. It’s straight back into Mum’s Taxi duties though. At least I don’t have to spread 24/7 with them though!

  8. Dani70
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    29 January 2022 in reply to Leisa68

    Hi Leisa,

    I overshare all the time and then I feel stupid and embarrassed! I have tried to not do it but have failed. I went for my usual blood tests last week and the poor woman knew my life story before I left. I'm sure I must come across crazy at times!! I don't leave the house very often Soi think that's partly why I talk so much.....it is encouraging to know others experience this too as awful as it is....

  9. quirkywords
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    29 January 2022 in reply to Dani70

    Dani welcome to this thread.
    My dad overshared and I do too but much more when high

    I used to get on a bus and before the journey ended I had either shared my life story or listen to a passengers life story. Something about me en our angers strangers to pour out their heart to me.

    Asdff

    I am possible as old as your parents or in that age range.

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  10. Lisa611
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    30 January 2022 in reply to quirkywords
    Hi All...I'm the opposite of an over sharer. I keep alot bottled up which isn't good. I'm not an overly talkative person. I sort of say what I have to and that's it. I can make idle chit chat but not for too long. I think it takes a while to get to know me. I haven't smoked for a month! One day at a time.
  11. asdff
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    30 January 2022 in reply to Lisa611

    Lisa that is a huge achievement. Well done.

    I am an oversharer. Especially when talking ten to the dozen. Otherwise known as hypermanic.

  12. Airies
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    30 January 2022 in reply to Lisa611

    Leisa, well done. You should be proud . Dani welcome to the thread. I tend to overshare as I really don’t socialise much at all and I could at the hairdressers and before you know blurt my story out. Often it’s met by awkward silence.
    The seekers Quirky, I do remember them. Remember when we had songbooks at primary school and had to sing. I do remember . We all live in a yellow submarine which is a Beatles song.

    Great to see Ash Barty win at the AO, a great ambassador for our country, womens tennis and sports in general

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  13. asdff
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    30 January 2022 in reply to Airies
    Airies the books that my generation had were called Sing. We also sang Yellow Submarine. I know lots of older songs due to those books.
  14. Leisa68
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    30 January 2022

    Hi all,

    I definitely overshare, I can see others' eyes glaze over, try to mop up my overshare a bit, but it is usually too late. The person scurries on. It's usually when I am high as well.

    It was a great moment to see Ash Barty win, she is quite an amazing person isn't she? Between the Ashes win and Ash Barty winning the AO, we should as a country be on a high if it wasn't for this crazy COVID. I'm getting low on toilet paper (for me that is eight rolls, it's higher for some of my female friends) so am a bit nervy about that. There you go oversharing again.

    Congratulations Lisa on your continuing abstinence from smoking, well done! A quiet week for me this week, just getting my booster shot and meeting my son's new teacher. Hail the end of the school holidays!

    Leisa

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    30 January 2022 in reply to Leisa68

    Hello all

    Today marks a year since my last drink. I was not drinking much just decided to.

    Not sure I feel any better but at this moment I really don’t feel like I want to.

    Leisa I just watched the womens ashes far more exciting than the mend. Mind you I watched the last 20 mins of a 4 day test!!!

  16. velvetfaerie
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    30 January 2022 in reply to quirkywords

    Oversharing. I won't do it much anymore after being told off for it.

    A month no cigarettes is something to be proud of Lisa.

    A year no alcohol is also a massive achievement Quirky.

    I'm struggling. Hot weekend. Minim rest and sleep. Ex thing has been here half the weekend moving his things.

    He has continued to manipulate me and the narrative. He truly believes he is the victim.

    I'm broken. None of my friends actually know how bad this got. They are more concerned with telling me what to do and not listening. If anyone has a friend or family member experiencing this please don't do this. This hurts even more. The abuse prevalence in society is disgusting. So much for progression as a society.

    I did go to a party sat night that was delightful. I felt a bit privileged to be invited. It was a gym staff members party. I was the only participant invited. She said we all there affected her life in such positive ways and she was thrilled to have us there to celebrate her 50th. To say I was blown away is an understatement.

    V

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  17. quirkywords
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    30 January 2022 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet,

    That's good advice to listen and avoid telling someone want to do. I find that if a person presents their good side to everyone else but their partner .
    It is isolating .

    I am glad you were invited to the party.

  18. velvetfaerie
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    30 January 2022 in reply to quirkywords

    He also used physical intimidation today to.

    Spoke to a specialist counsellor tonight. She was very knowledgeable. He's not cool. Obsessive. Controlling. Manipulative. Jealous. Etc.

    I was dumb for too long.

    I'm off to sleep. I hope everyone has a good sleep.

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    31 January 2022 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet

    is it easy to find a specialist counsellor.?
    I hope you slept well.

  20. velvetfaerie
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    31 January 2022 in reply to quirkywords

    Only on phone lines.

    I've been denied access to 4 DVcounselling services in my city.

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    31 January 2022 in reply to velvetfaerie
    I am sorry that happened to you about the services, velvet.
  22. Leisa68
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    31 January 2022 in reply to quirkywords

    Congratulations quirkywords on the annual anniversary of no drinking. There are some real achievers here on this thread!

    Velvet, it is an absolute mystery to me why you cannot get the help you need. Thank you for the heads up on how to talk to a friend who is going through what you are, I will absolutely keep that in mind. There is red tape everywhere on abuse, it astounds me.

    Today watched an old Christopher Lee movie called "Rasputin the Mad Monk" which was interesting. Found some toilet paper for sale at the local chemist, so I relaxed on that part. Have to get my son's hair cut tomorrow...always an argument, he wants a mullet but the school doesn't like it, so a heated discussion ahead tomorrow at the hairdressers.

    I hope you all have a good night.

  23. quirkywords
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    31 January 2022 in reply to Leisa68

    Lejsa

    i dont worry about toilet paper but if the shops ran out of tim tams I would not be happy person.

  24. velvetfaerie
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    31 January 2022 in reply to Leisa68

    I guess not everyone understands every life experience and in negative cases that's a good thing. Like, I have no idea about being a mother. I guess asking questions and stuff is a good start.

    I went to the gym. Absolutely needed it. Did wonders for my mind. One workout a week simply doesn't cut it in that regard. I feel so much better.

    He's been playing the victim again all day and blaming me for us breaking up. Well yes, I dumped you. It's called having self respect, boundaries, and no longer putting up with your abuse. He used to triangulate me and his ex too. Sick ego serving games.

    We need to exchange some last belongings. He left some here and took some of mine. No doubt a ploy. I said it's not happening until next month because it's too raw and upsetting for me still. They're not urgent items. No further conversations. I've popped his texts in the banished file on my phone ahhaha.

    This weekend I'm planning on moving furniture for a new feel. Then going and checking out some paint colours.

    I agree Quirky, toilet paper - meh. Chocolate biccies - I would sob.

  25. quirkywords
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    1 February 2022 in reply to velvetfaerie

    I like the idea of moving furniture and paint colours for a new feel. I will be interested in what you choose.

    One thing about the forum is many more people read posts than reply so with your honesty and insights you have written about your relationship it will help so many people not feel so alone and give them insights and a different perspective. You also have given many people hope that things can change.
    For people with out that lived experience you have given ways of how they can help and understand.

    How is everyone going.?

  26. Airies
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    1 February 2022 in reply to quirkywords

    Hi folks, Quirky I just had another flashback to those songbooks at primary school,I remember puff the magic dragon and being a bit confused with The answer is blowing in the wind by Bob Dylan. For others to young to remember we would sing to these songbooks and pretty sure the musical notes were included.

    Quirky , well done with a year without a drink. V glad you’re back at the gym.I’m lucky to ride once a week, yet I used to ride most days, going to see the podiatrist and see whether she can weave her magic. I’m getting pretty desperate but increasingly tired and frustrated by my lack of mobility and being able to exercise pain free.

    Chocolate as you know I can’t do without especially chocolate bullets . Toilet paper we tend to buy in bulk from a cleaning place so rarely run out.

    First day in a while without humidity yay , so over the heat. Hope everyone is ok.

  27. Airies
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    1 February 2022 in reply to Airies

    V, a change of furniture, new paint, a fresh start. You’ve got a lot on your plate with work, your ex , counseling. Look after number 1 through it all you. You know re parenthood we just made it up as we went along. Luckily my wife has the patience of a saint. Me not so.
    Just back from the drs, one of the nurses was in tears a lot on her plate. I couldn’t help but overhear and when she had finished with me I said I hope your day improves. I’ve had injections , bits of skin scraped off. A sign of my advancing years.

    Looking forward to my son and his wife flying back from overseas. He had Covid and is now free of it. RATS are supplied free of charge and in bulk where he is so we will be well stocked

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    1 February 2022 in reply to Airies

    Aries

    not only do I remember the songbooks, I was in one dressed up in my red cross uniform with 3 other girls in late 1960s.

    I know with first child I was just worrying a bit but after 3rd child I was more relaxed.

    Is your son returning to Australia for good or for a break?

  29. asdff
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    1 February 2022 in reply to Airies
    I am so proud of you Quirky. One year of no booze. Airies, how exciting to be able to see your son and daughter in law. I’ve heard Singapore supplies RATs free of charge. I witnessed some people older than me buying RATs in the line ahead of me at the chemist. They didn’t have a healthcare car so they had to pay for them. I wanted to say I’m sure we will will all get it soon enough. If I feel any slight change I will be staying indoors, away from people. I could asymptomatic . I feel it’s only a matter of time before WA becomes like everywhere else.
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    1 February 2022 in reply to asdff
    Asdff
    Talking as a person from the eastern states , it is amazing how quick one adapts to different circumstances.
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