I am a relative to a person with anxiety issues. While her issues has being long known, the whole family had been in denial or unable to handle in a way that is helpful. I've had a chat with the beyond blue webchat, and I feel desperate? and looking for advice everywhere.
She is in her early 30s, can't hold a job, can't even properly tend to room keep (e.g. she's decided not to use bedsheets, and keeps used tissues next to her bed?? and has severe hayfever, in her room??), and does not have friends. Had been tested in her childhood to have IQ on the low side, but just able disabled range. (Sources from her immediate family, I took that with a lot of grains of salt).
She is subtly but surely disadvantaged in childhood. In her childhood days, her family had been advised that she may need professional help, but the mum was in denial, went to a couple of sessions and said there is nothing wrong with her. The mum is still in denial. Growing up, all she learnt from her mother was to look elsewhere for any problems, nothing was ever their fault, and her dad is the big bad wolf. Her dad, with the (plausible) excuse of working to support the family, and left the family rearing to who he know is -THE most incapable person ever. She has been to a psychologist before, but has not kept going. I think she didn't want to go and face issues, but nobody really knows what she thinks.
5 months ago, she went on a life finding mission. She went to her home country to try and find a life. She was living with a relative. While she was there, she has had 5 different jobs. She has exposed her REAL character to ALL her relatives, and had been causing (unbeknownst to her) different troubles every month (because of her lack of education on common courtesy).
A couple of days ago, she was admitted to hospital (with her uncle's advice) while she was experiencing stomach pains at work. She was tested, and nothing was found as the cause of her stomach pains. We as family advised the doctors that the pains may have come from a psychological factor. She is still vomiting and has not being able to hold down food (vomiting).
I have tried in the past to talk to her. While I talked to her, she seemed like she was listening, but then what she does complete demolishes that idea.
I feel a need to help, but she does not think she needs any. I sometimes feel I should bother with this person, but I know it cannot end well.