A safe distance is what we use to avoid cars hitting us pedestrians. No different for keeping people at arms length. My sister and I both have bipolar2 and depression. We have almost mastered the distance thing. She 6 years younger has the older brother domination thing going on and I have the supervisory older brother attitude. Both are in ground but we tolerate through distance, which has made us very close. Only now and then do our bipolars lock together to cause a "Korean event", a standoff.
Distance is your friend.
But if that doesn't work then more distance say xmas time only and mental health is a no go zone. As you say they mean well but don't know how to approach. If they don't try to help they are uncaring, if they do they are smothering. This is the sufferers dilemma.
Conclusions on psychiatric matter amuse me. I often state "so a psych takes 15 years to become qualified to treat me and you have zero education...yet you advise treatment, how does that work? Also- "I'll rely on the psych for that bit of advice thanks" and so on.
As sufferers we cannot monitor our relationships well and take the best course of action. Our words and behavior is often extreme so the fallout with others is also extreme. We need to implement barriers like a funnel or a fortress to install an area like a customs dept.
google Topic: fortress of survival- beyondblue
We can hone our skills. We need to alter how we've replied to siblings and parents so they take notice. This isn't easy going against our nature but because we do we hit home strongly.
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That has suggestions on replies, to make a difference.
But Donte, we really need to accept we are not perfect, we have high expectations of ourselves. Other "normal" people allow 'water off a ducks back' but I find that impossible. This causes massive guilt.
Topic: your own worse enemy- beyondblue
Some time ago I had a nagging cousin. Everytime we met he mentioned I need to "have some patience" to the point of him and I being terminal. So I asked him where I can buy patience because I have a few spare dollars on me. ( I was using wit) then wrote
Topic: supermarket shelves- beyondblue
At the end of the day it comes down to seeking a direction in life. Until I had direction spiritually (not religion) and sought out myself as a person I had no defence.
Topic: inner peace, the glory of being YOU- beyondblue
Then I've been happier