Hi Dools and Hayfa,
It is so interesting to hear how we are blending so many factors into our "heritage" now. It is insufficient to say, "I am of Chinese heritage" or Lebanese, or Italian or whatever. It's also where you were born? What dialect did you speak? Was it your first language? Who are your parents? Where do you stand on the social ladder? Where did you grow up?
So, yeah I guess it could be true that Mum was not ashamed of our Chinese ancestry, but perhaps of our place on the social ladder, or perhaps more interestingly, ashamed that we moved away from home, and away from family.
After all, we're always being asked why we would want to live in Australia away from family, and I'm always asked why I would want to be with a non-Chinese partner. They even ask if I'm ashamed of being Chinese.
I love penguins! (sorry, had to say that)
Ha. That is so funny. My granddad changed his last name from Li to Lee for that very same reason - Lee is rich HK, Li is poor Mainland.
I totally agree with you on some of our, er, habits and customs. There's some things that, as a person from there but living in Aus, is quite hard to accept. The way my aunts and uncles tease my cousins about being fat and never going to get a partner is just sad.
And thank you for sharing your own more Mediterranean cuisines with us :)
Ah yes, it's always so fascinating to see how people's habits or views can seem out of place when moving countries. It must feel so weird and isolating to come to Australia as a Chinese born person and see all these people trying to be dark.
I find it perpetually funny how, often, Chinese people are trying to be more 'Western' (eyes, nose, skin) and in Western countries the opposite is often true (petite, slim, high pitched voice).
It is interesting to hear about your own perspective. It sounds like you have quite a blend of different cultural opinions, and I am glad to hear you feel comfortable in your own unique experience. That's wonderful.
Thanks for posting :)