I have a 54 yo brother who is suffering terrible physical, verbal, financial and emotional abuse at the moment and has done so for over 8 years.
He is the most placid non-violent man you could ever meet.
I have witnessed his wife spit in his face a dozen times, destroy his career by sleeping with his boss, daily barrages of extreme verbal
abuse with swearing in front of their 8 yo son (the boy's recently been diagnosed with a chronic anxiety problem - no wonder!), and physical abuse, death threats, constant abusive text messages and more recently has taken to smashing his belongings with a hammer. She has also physically and verbally abused his son on many occasions. She has two daughters from two previous marriages, one of whom is addicted to Ice and is living in a spare bedroom at the mother's insistence on " suicide watch". This daughter regularly brings her drug dealer boyfriend into his home for "payment".
This is all a part of her plan to succeed in obtaining his property by deception through marriage.
He seriously fears for his life and that of his son and they both sleep in locked adjacent bedrooms.
He has documented, recorded and reported it all to his local Police. They more or less laugh at him and advise HIM to leave HIS home.
NOTE: He owned the house BEFORE he met her and is the full-time caregiver for his son since losing his job 3 years ago.
My brother is applying for an Intervention Order this week on advice from the Police, but they say it will be HIM moving out - "It's the easiest way to defuse the situation and besides, traditionally, women don't get removed when children are involved". The Police implied in as much "Come back when you're dead and we might take some action against her". My brother asked the Police if he could see the documented history of his reports. Surprise surprise - there wasn't any!
So much for "gender equality" in 2014...
Domestic violence against Men is rampant yet remains hidden, largely unreported and if reported is often denied by authorities because of the FACT that a man isn't taken seriously when it occurs. There are very few tangible resources or support services available to male victims - we've tried DIDDS etc. but to no avail.
He has nowhere else to go - Men's Refuges simply don't exist.
What can he do to get this abusive woman out of both their lives and live in peace in his own home?