I know her lol she won't do any type of communication whatsoever like this, not even text.
We've been friends for over 50y, her situation and mindset is complicated.
Basically she feels that unless someone shows their face to her door, then they really don't care about her.
I know that's not true ofcourse.
She's doing a Science degree at Uni so she can email etc, she won't do it with anyone outside of this.
Thanks for the tip though. L who lives near son is more inclined to keep in touch via text and call which is lovely.
I just went to the shops to get more bread and milk lol... 15L of milk WAS the norm... still not sure how much we need with 2 down...
I ran into a girl I knew... like a GIRL doing her HSC and our convo spurred a train of thought.
I just really need to "get out there" if I really DO want to make more friends / connections.
I know I'll meet some ppl I wish I hadn't lol! It's a % game really.
But I decided to do what I started about 6 months ago and REACH out to ppl I already know.
I could get involved with my Church's activities, to some degree, again if they're up and running.
They run free Courses on Healthy Cooking, Organic Gardening etc.
There's also the Permaculture Group about 40 mins away - bit difficult. Not impossible.
Also the Community Trading group which is more complicated and takes alot of time, energy and contact... not sure if I've got that much time or motivation for this yet tbh.
I've also denied myself getting close to colleagues. This is a point of offer to take up if opportunity arises. Or I create it lol.
The horrid marriage shut out all my friends (that was shut down for me by DV).
I was never allowed the time to be with friends and most definitely NOT the money. Even the in-laws came down on me like a ton of bricks when I spent $10 on a lunch with colleagues! I was the only money earner of around $100k and I couldn't spend $10.
Then ensuing Court cases... I didn't have the time or focus to do "friend" things, let alone the money or food to spare with having anyone over.
There ARE opportunities now. I need to be open to SEEING what these are.
I'll just bite the bullet and visit T this week. The laundry and all else can wait lol.
I'll go Thursday morning before my Counselling appt in the afternoon.