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Forums / PTSD & Trauma / PTSD &ADDICTION

Topic: PTSD &ADDICTION

4 posts, 0 answered
  1. Bear1922
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    23 posts
    26 March 2020

    Any advice about how to rid myself of an addictive behaviour I was taught as an infant?

    The behaviour is benign but represents the last tentacles of my abuse.

    It would be good to rid myself of this behaviour, but perhaps I'm just too feeble to win this battle.

  2. Croix
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    27 March 2020 in reply to Bear1922

    Dear Bear1922~

    I've had a chance to read your posts, so have a fair idea of your circumstances -and the practical help you have offered here to others. Life has been truly horrible for you in your younger years and I personally think you have done a marvelous job. You may consider yourself 'psychologically fragile' however I'd disagree.

    Anyone who has battled all the symptoms as you have, has forgiven your abuser and contacted him - frankly I would have been surprised if that did work out as he most probably would not have changed. I also would have been very worried you might have 'slipped back' to some extent if it had the association kept going.

    Your ambition to have a career in the Trauma area may be good or bad for you, I've no idea. I suspect the former, my experiences have helped me help others, and that has in turn strengthened me. I do know your experiences will give you exactly the insight your potential clients might need.

    Now I'm unsure what to say about overcoming an addictive behavior becuse I do not know the particular problem you are talking about. You have mentioned everything from OCD to night terrors , so really it could be anything from self harm to seeking enclosed spaces to temper. All I know is as children when threatened long term we adopt habits that may seem (often quite wrongly) to offer a modicum of protection or at least stability.

    Unlinking that association may not be that easy, but I'm sure with your determination and perspective it is doable.

    It may be difficult for you, and I'd not encourage you to talk more than you are comfortable with, however if you felt like saying more perhaps others many have the same, you never know.

    My problems started in adulthood and I'd suspect my issues may be different.

    If you would like to come back and say more you can be sure of understanding and care.

    Croix

  3. Bear1922
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    23 posts
    3 April 2020 in reply to Croix

    Dear Croix,

    Thank you for your very kind words.

    In terms of my “addiction”. To be frank the term addiction may be a misnomer. It will probably take years to rid myself of. It’s a benign behaviour that is irrespective strongly emblematic of my abuse. And that is why I want to rid myself of it. A lofty goal that I may or may not achieve.

    Apologies for being so circumspect but it’s a deeply personal issue.

    I don’t think I would do justice to a career focusing on Childhood Sexual Abuse. I’m far too emotional and can not maintain perspective. Plus my current Psychologist: whom has A focus on Sexual Abuse has waved me off. Sharing our stories takes its toll on those who we share with. Additionally, my now deceased Psychiatrist was dead against me focusing on Sexual Abuse as a Psychologist. Anyway, The area Of trauma Is enormous, So I Can still Satiate my Desire to Focus on it.

    Croix, you are a very kind soul whom unfailingly answers posts from souls in need of solace. Thank you on behalf of myself & all those you help.

    Warm Regards,

    Bear

  4. Croix
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    4 April 2020 in reply to Bear1922

    Dear Bear

    Ta for the kind words, though I have to point out it is a two way street, I've gained a lot and improved enormously since coming here and talking. People such as yourself help many, plus myself.

    No, I'd not think any career too close to home would be that good, though after a very long time I'm now able to deal with police related matters, and talk wiht ex-members and understand their troubles. But it was a long time and it is still an accommodation, not a fix. My life steers around as many triggers as possible, but I'm good nevertheless.

    I can understand you do not wish to talk further - that's more than fine, that's sensible.

    Getting rid of any habit or addiction is often one that requires the encouragement of others or in this case at least an understanding of the techniques involved. A study of 'Quit' campaigns and the philosophy of victories rather than failures could well be helpful.

    I wish you well with it

    Croix

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