hello CGC, sorry to abbreviate your username, but yes you have to make a decision whether you want to be led on a false charade that he is leading you on, not knowing what he is actually doing or saying but trying and possibly only wanting to keep you as a friend so that he has somewhere to stay when he comes over, if this is so he's not someone you love anymore
There's a quote from Downtown Abbey that I always keep in the back of my mind, and it may seem to be rather harsh but that's not how I see it 'if you are successful you will win false friends but true enemies', so the analogue is if he doesn't really love you then it's time to move on, and good on you for taking up a new hobby.
To loss someone that you had loved is very disappointing, but while you still socialise the chances of meeting someone else is extremely high.
I wish you the very best but I hope that you can get back to us. Geoff. x