thank you for your reply, i understand how you feel about your husband treating you like his personal slave, J does the same to me, he is only home on the weekends. i cook dinner, we eat, he goes and watches tv, i clean up, if he has a can of drink he will leave it on the table when he finishes , if i dont pick it and put it in the bin, he will have something to say, i will just do it to save a fight, when he goes to bed he will leave his clothes on the floor, you get the picture, i went to work once and there was washing on the line i was gone all day when i came home it was still there, i asked him why he didnt bring it in , his reply was i was busy in the shed. so me being me just to save a fight, like a good little girl i brought it in. it seems like im doing things for him that he wouldnt do for me, i know it sounds pitty but when you have done this forever, it gets you thinking, if i try and talk about our problems, like the way he speaks to me, treats me his reply is get over it harden up. he has called me all the names under the sun, i just let it go. i know whats going on and yes im trying to move out but its hard giving the fact that i cant put his name down as my current landlord, yes we live in his house.