Thank you so much for your openness and strength in sharing this here. It sounds like there is a lot going on, and we’re really glad you could reach out to the forums. We know that it can be really difficult to take that step, but we think it’s so good that you did because you shouldn’t have to deal with so many things on your own.
It sounds like you take responsibility for a lot in this relationship, and this can have a big impact on how you’re feeling. You are deserving of respect, and you should never feel pressured or coerced by your partner, or like you are without a choice. We think it’s really important to reach out to 1800 Respect to discuss how the relationship is affecting you, on 1800 737 732. They’re kind, understanding and non-judgmental, and can talk things through with you at any time.
If you think it would be helpful, you can also suggest that your partner calls Mensline on 1300 78 99 78 to discuss with them their mental health. Your partner is also more than welcome to call us as well. We are here for you both.
If your husband is having thoughts of ending his life, harming himself or others, we urge you to seek professional help by speaking to your doctor or attending the Emergency Department of your local hospital. If you or him feel unsafe, this is an emergency and you need to call 000 (triple zero).
We would also encourage you to call our helpline on 1300 22 4636, this is available to you 24/7, and our friendly and non-judgmental counsellors can help you through difficult moments, and help you to figure out how you can get more help with this.
Thank you again for your courage and strength in sharing your story. Do feel free to share more, whenever you're comfortable, about how you're feeling. Our kind community will be here to offer their support and understanding.