This is my first post and I just want to thank you all in advance for being so understanding to one another here.
I am a Catholic and I have fallen in love with the most beautiful, caring wonderful lady who happens to be a JW.
After a few years of dating, I asked her to marry me and she said YES. We were deeply in love and had so much in common that it was like we were meant to be together. Even our sex life could only be described as the most incredibly out of this world in terms of compatibility and satisfaction fir us both.
She told me after a while she had been disfellowshipped and also reproved several times in the 10 years before we met. Every time she was disciplined it was for sex related indiscretions. Because of her history, she had become an expert in deception, secrets, lying and living a secret double life.
She was in her 30’s and had over 50 sexual partners before I met her. She maintained contact with many guys she had slept with, including a few married, engaged and attached men. They were simply no strings sex adventures for her. Her past didn’t bother me because I loved her very much and she loved me
She kept me secret from all her JW family and friends for almost 3 years before she decided to tell the Elders about me. Again she was disfellowshipped.
After a period of 2 years she applied to become reinstated. At this same time she told me (without any consultation) she needed to stop having all sexual activity so her conscience would be clear for Re-admission.
After a few months of supporting her in her quest to be reinstated so she may again have contact with her family, friends, congregation, etc she has now completely ended our engagement/relationship (again without discussion with me)
Needless to say I’m heartbroken and feel used, betrayed, and extremely embarrassed.
Does anyone have any advice how I might approach this unpleasant situation and win her heart again over her desire to become a devoted JW again
Thank you kindly