dear Paperbark, hi and great to be able to join us.
Your story reflects on exactly the same situation as what happened with me, other members wouldknow what I'm going to say, but as your new I will repeat it again.
Drinking alcohol was my catalyst to try and numb my depression, and at this stage I had thrown in my own self employment business, and was at home, so my drinking started from when I got up until I went to bed, eventually my wife left me a few times, but when I was at home she again left me and then finally divorced me, because of my drinking as well as she couldn't help me any more with my depression, and wanted to get away from the whole situation, however we still talk and see each other.
There is medication which will help you not to drink, it takes away the desire or want, but there is a catch, it will only work if you really want to stop drinking, otherwise it's a waste of time and money,but you can google what type of medications these are.
I don't really blame my wife (ex) for doing this, but we had been married for 25 years and she was my first love, so it was a shock to me.
When you don't drink is this because you want to please your wife or you just don't feel like drinking, because the difference between these two is quite different, so I would be interested to know, because it seems as though the former carries more weight.
Can I ask you and you don't have to answer if you don't want to, but is there any chance the two of you could becoming back together, because again this would carry an enormous issue here.
Hope to hear back from you, because it's the same as I was. Geoff.