I think I have the answer for you. I'm 65yo and with bipolar, depression etc etc I also have social issues that seem to cause conflict. So about 14 years ago I went off Facebook altogether. After 5 months I realised my friends did not take up the invitation to email/ring me and /or send my pictures that way that they placed on FB. Also family disappeared also. I needed a better strategy.
So, on the basic of two things-
- Make Facebook or social media work for you, dont allow it to control you. Use the settings to make that work
- Set boundaries.
So, I'd had around 200 Facebook friends when I placed my membership into hibernation. I decided to limit my friends to 80. I trimmed them down- 120 less and only one sent me a message asking why!! That says a lot. Even now 14 years later if I add a friend I look for one that I should defriend.
I changed my settings to friends only with adding stories to my profile. Who wants strangers in our lives? Not me. I use the block feature immediately someone tries to upset me. That is a Godsend. Dont hesitate. If I get upset with a dear friend I ring them immediately and most times its a misunderstanding- nip it in the bud.
Set your boundaries. If a friend is annoying you change their status to - have a break. As an example.
Social media is great if you regulate it. But cutting it out is too radical, the world runs on it.
Like anything in life moderation is the key. Limit your time on social media and take up some practical hobbies.
I hope I've helped.