My first post on this - or any - forum.
My ex and father of our child is blaming our son’s behaviour on my mental illness.
small amount of context - last year circumstances led me to become unwell. I was isolated, more than just the lockdown, there were other factors too identifying to include. His reaction was to threaten me with lawyers and courts, I felt powerless and let him take majority care of our child. It made me fall even further apart initially.
We attended mediation and he made clear several things he expected of me. All of which I have done. He on the other hand had one task which he couldn’t complete.
I want care to return to normal but he is resistant
I had a small bout of low mood recently, I kept him informed, I adhere to treatment, I do not experience psychosis or hallucinations. I care for my son - he is fed, he is clean, taken to school, I don’t emotionally or physically abuse him. I love and nurture him.
but he’s going through some behavioural issues. He’s struggling with some school stuff. He is unsettled from transitions between houses. The unsettled thing I know is common. The tantrums I don’t know what their about but I’ve been through tantrum phases before
His father believes my mental illness is causing all these problems and has pulled out his threats again. I’m in a much better state of mind than I was last year and am not willing to be pushed around
I feel as though he’s never done the hard yards of parenting, has never learned or bothered to learn about children or child development and is scapegoating me to try and edge me further out of his life because it’s an easy solution
I feel so alone
I feel so scared of my ex and the way he twists things and the way people often look down on women in my position
can anyone please tell me - what have they done in similar situations?
I do get help
I am in therapy
I get support around my parenting
but talking to him is like talking to a brick wal
you would think I was an evil witch
if I stand up for myself he says the most awful things to me but puts on a public image of a martyr and has even started withholding information from the school from me