Hi there LAH
Your first couple of sentences had chills running through me - I'm SOOOOO pleased that you are now safe. Please don't go there again. But I suspect that you won't because of your last paragraph.
LAH, that is a massive positive. Only you can know the absolute right thing to do - but can I ask: Where you currently are, do you feel you have prospects? Are there things there that are tying you to stay there? Is there anyone there who you'd feel like you're going to leave behind if you move? I'd say that if all those answers are "no" then I think your decision will be so much easier to make.
Um, BIG silly question from me now - and if you haven't read too many of my posts, you'll know that I divert to silliness every now and then. LAH, you have a cat. LAH, your best friend has dogs. Um, my silly question is probably not needed now, but um, how will the four legged variety of animals get along on the farm?? :) :)
The option that you've listed sounds absolutely brilliant and wow, what a fantastic relationship you and your friend must have for each other. You see, I told you that you were a brilliantly strong lady - that's because when your friend was in a low place, you reached out to her and helped her - and I don't know what your situation was at the time, but I suspect that even if you were doing it tough, you'd still have done that. BUT this time is for you. It sounds like a wonderful opportunity. To take your cat and move away from all the hell that you experienced and start afresh - áfter' you've experienced some much needed pampering, care and support.
And yes it is a big move and that's why you'd be feeling nervous, but hey, that's emotions - and we can't control them - but to be feeling nervous is ok; and at the moment, you're alone (physically); but you've got your mum, you've got us here AND you've got your best friend and wow, when you were told that by her, that must have been so emotional for you to hear that. I can't tell you how pleased I am to hear that news.
But for now, just do things at your pace - your friend will understand - in that, don't go bang bang bang and rush out of the place do get there. Take your time so that you're not feeling flustered or anything. Perhaps write down a check list of things to do before you go. Take your time over that so you know all the things that you need to take care of - oh oh, here's me jumping ahead of things here.
I think I'll shut up for now. :) I do hope you can get back to us again.