Hello Dblk, your comment does raise a few interesting points.
With OCD people can have 'intrusive thoughts' which is something else to type in your research browser, alternatively in the search above at the top of BB, where people may or may not only keep to themselves what keeps reoccurring in their minds, and again I've had them before many times and are quite disstressing for a person suffering from OCD.
The other point I'd like .to make is the psychologist has to be trained in dealing with this illness because as I've experienced my last psychologist did not know how to treat it and I say this because all he said to me was'you don't need to do OCD just forget about it's, that's why I only saw him a couple of times, I couldn't form any trust or relationship with him, simply because he didn't understand.
Some people going to counselling prefer the opposite sex while others prefer the same service, that’s a decision they make and will allow them to feel comfortable in opening up, that's entirely their choice if the situation pertains itself.
If you are beginning to have more feelings for your new friend, that’s understandable, however you still might benefit from talking to a counsellor by yourself to begin with.