Thank you for reading.
hopefully I can get some clarity snd third party advice before choosing an Avenue to take.
my partner and I have been together 10 years have an 8 year old son. We broke up for 2-3 years when my son was about 18 months as he found messages from me to another work male friend on my Facebook (telling each other we thought each other were good looking). He locked me amd my son out of the house. He lost his job then things just spiraled out of control from there.
we got beck together 3 years ago and since have had a daughter who is now 6 months.
Tonight we had a verbal disagreement- I’ve have never been so disgusted in all my life - and he hence what has prompted me to reach out.
he accuses me of not listening to him, disrespecting him not doing what he says and basicallly if he feels I am out of line yells at me, calls me a grub and useless. I suffer with anxiety and this is heightened when we argue. He wanted me to go on tablets which I have done for him.
we have had a stressful few months with him working away a lot, but to be honest things are easier when he is away. He smokes like a chimney, drinks to extreme where he ends up abusive which o do get quite scared, he is extremely volatile and at times I don’t know when his outbursts are getting out of control.
in saying that when we aren’t like that he is caring, thoughtful and generous. We are barely affectionate to one another even though I have raised this he comes beck with how could he get close to someone who disrespects him so much?
I am so worried that my 8 year old is exposed to this aggression and now our daughter will also be raised in this environment. I have tried to ask him to speak to me in a different way but to be answered with how do you expect me to do anything for you when you do nothing for me.
im at a complete loss of what to do, where to go as obviously I’d be very embarrassed telling things to my friends snd family about what goes on.
it’s like we argue snd things get some what bad with his outbursts then a few hours later he is speaking to me normally again and being nice. I’m so confused.