thank you for the info, unfortunately is has now become more complicated. on friday he came to the house very agressive and demanded the children for the weekend, i became quite scared and asked him to leave. he did some damage to the property also. once he did finally leave he went to my sons school and caused a big commotion there. fast forward to monday, and my son was admitted to the childrens with a badly infected tooth, turns out it was quite serious, i thought i would do the right thing and message him to let him know the situation. its a hour drive for him, it took him 2 hours to get there and he brought his mother too. he seemed very concerned talking to our son, then accused me of having done harm to our son and causing him to be hospitalised, i asked him not to speak to me that way and his mother tried to put her two cents in, i asked her to remove herself, which she did, he became even more aggressive to me in front of both our boys, i walked out and asked for security to be called. his mother was sitting there and i was annoyed she didnt bother to respond to my message or calls about the situation of the friday, she got angry and told me i need help, i became quite verbal and he physically attacked me in front of 20 doctors and nurses and our youngest. they were removed by security and police called. he has now been charged with assult. it get worse, while my son was in surgery, his mother, brother, sister and himself broke into my house and ransacked it. they went through all MY personal belongings. i contacted 000 and he was arrested and charged for property damage. i had asked a friend to check on my dog as the gates were opened and i was concerned she would get out. she was confronted by his mother demanding their friendship was over and to not contact her son again( i find this deeply disturbing). she went home and half hour later his brother showed up at her doorstep accusing her of scoping the house and calling the police. she is pretty upset about the whole thing and it angers me as its none of his damn business. i cant believe they can support him when he is like this. his mother is so meddling. i will be asking for no contact from any of his family in regards to the children. these people are so demented and toxic its not funny. i can gurantee at this very moment they will still not be getting him the help he needs. and unfortunatly i do not feel the children will be in a safe environment with him or his family