hey there CookieFrog,
i know how you feel, as i’ve been in pretty much the exact same situation, only you’ve figured it out a couple years earlier than i did, and good for you !!
believe me, the whole Christian family really throws a spanner in the works of things, as well as the homophobic mothers side (scary similar situations bro)
im really proud of you coming out to your friend, and knowing someone’s got your back, even if it’s one person for now, can make a world of difference.
i hope things went well with your councillor, as i know a big step for me was coming out to my own councillor. it felt as if i’d just popped the cork off a champagne bottle, and all the self-doubt and negativity came flowing up and out. it really helps being able to speak to a 3rd party about things who’s not in the day-to-day life.
as for coming out to your parents, this is a difficult one. i know a few months back all i wanted was for someone to tell me to just do it and assure me everything would turn out okay, but unfortunately due to the world we live in atm us lgbtq+ people can’t really afford to think too naively about things like this, especially if you feel you may be at risk of harm and/or homelessness. the only person who knows when it’s the right time to come out is you, and don’t feel like you need to rush it. that being said, i know how it feels to have the weight of it shadowing over your everyday life. i felt like since i hadn’t told anyone, it was this little dirty secret.
but it’s not. being a lesbian is a beautiful thing, and doesn’t have to be a source of shame.
i would advise that you take some time to get comfortable in your identity before coming out, as in my experience i wasn’t as affected by my family’s not-so-favourable reaction, because i’d had time to grow into myself (and grow a thicker skin) and i’m now am confident in myself and proud of who i am, and you should be too !! you don’t need other people’s approval for your existence to be valid <3
whatever has been going on in your life since you’ve made this post, i wish you the best