that’s a vv fun username
feel like i’ve seen the same story of im a girl and i dont know if i like boys because i don’t like them in the same way i think of girls. i know when i was closeted i’d say i’d have all these expectations and if a dude happened to meet them i’d tack more on (totally not a lezzo tho) i sorta believe theres a difference between like, thinking someone is attractive and being attracted if that matters? thinking this actors hot vs having a pattern of wanting to be with this gender if thats an example that makes sense
but keeping it in perspective this can be a gray area for some girls. there’s some bi women who are picky and not that much attracted to men who still id as bi and lesbians who feel similarly and are happier as gay. if youre not as attracted to guys as you are girls its still bisexual you dont need to be 50/50 despite how people say it as. you dont need to be dating both guys and girls to prove you’re bi some bi people have only dated one gender and it doesn’t make them lesser
but among all these disclaimers thats how i’m reading what you say as; i know you see a lot of people splitting it into romantic and sexual and aesthetic and chemical and i never really got the point of it because feelings are hard? i suck at reading feelings even if they’re my own and sometimes you can’t divide them neatly. we’re all animals at the end of it
esp if youre young. you can experiment with labels and it doesn’t make you a faker if it doesnt work out. if you want to be x label you can be one there’s no contract you need to sign like a long term investment if you dont like them ditch em altogether. only you can determine what you want to be and not strangers on the internet
you say your parents would accept you but “that is where they draw the line”. what does that mean? we won’t kick you out but we dont want to hear about it? reminds me of the riddle homophobia scale n how it sorts tolerance as still being low.
if its personal to you you dont need to owe that to your parents esp when predicting a bad reaction which goes from valid to sensible. and their attitudes can’t be compared to “i never told mine i’m straight” s2g you can say on these boards “my parents said they would put me in the meat grinder if was gay” and you’d still get ten straight people swarming on here to say “live your truth! i would accept you! do it” but thats not something to take out on an anon isnt it
i hope any of this is good. im tryin to stay under limit