I'm 63yo and more liberated than your friends are which is odd. Peoples sexuality is a private decision and when made public should be accepted 100% just like someones right to religion or skin colour.
So obviously it would not serve any positive purpose to expose your sexual preferences at this time, to anyone until certain.
I know a girl now 22yo that broke news to her parents at 16yo that she was lesbian. She had a really bad time for 2 years (with her parents ) then fled the country with her girlfriend at 18. Finally at 22 after living together for 4 years her parents relented and accepted her for who she was. But some parents never do. That is life, we cant make people accept us but....we should not keep trying to live up to their expectations.
As for you figuring out where you stand with your confusing desires, sex can be a fluid thing if you let it. You dont need to have urgency in working it all out....let it flow and it will all fall into place eventually.
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I hope that helps.
Think about this- if you were the only person in the world you would accept yourself because there wouldnt be other people to contend with. So it is other peoples judgements that effect us, hurt us and throw standards upon us.
Fighting these people isnt a good idea, forgive them as they dont realise the pressure they cause and find new friends that love you for who you are.
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