Hi. I am currently feeling highly confused and overwhelmed.
My partner (m26) and I (m32) have been together for a little over 18 months. He experiences untreated Bipolar Disorder and Gender Dysphoria, which causes him a lot difficulties managing his emotions and heavily splicing (daily/ weekly), which has impacted our relationship quite dramatically. His main concerns are insecurities, low self-esteem, moodiness, irritable behavior and lack of trust.
He did tell me just after we met, that he decided not to transition and now has brought it up saying that he wants to do it again, however, has decided to force it on me rather than sitting down and having an open and honest discussion. Because of the spicing (splitting) he is not happy with who he is and he will not accept responsibility for his abusive behavior. I have had to ask for time away from him due to the constant cheating accusations and push/pull cycle. I has literally exhausted me mentally and physically so I am now focusing on my health.
I started doing some research to gain a prospective on how others have dealt with similar situations and seems that for me to do this, I will need to go through the journey with him and see a psychologist. I do love him and I'd like to see what I can do, however, I am finding it very difficult for him to understand that I cannot just flick a switch and do what he wants me to do. I too need to be involved but I just cannot get him to understand that this is not just about him transitioning to make him feel better but for me too.
Has anyone experienced a partner transition, what did you do to support yourself and what were your own stories. Cheers.