TL;DR. Where are straight-acting gay guys 18-29 in Melbourne?
I am 22, gay and from Melbourne. I went to a moderately-conservative all boys school and I don’t know any gay people. I also don’t have any good friends anymore, just acquaintances. I mean, there’s people who like me and ask me to hang out, but I don’t feel like I belong. I’m trying to find new friends but that’s besides the point.
The main point is: I want to meet some gay people my age to be mates and maybe more.
Tinder = failed. Honestly, I don’t find most guys attractive because I have a pretty defined type. And on top of that, I’m pretty masculine and looking for the same. I could be friends with fem guys, but unlikely for a relationship. And the very rare time I match with a guy who is my type, the conversation fizzles out because I suck at small talk.
Grindr = oh my. I got hundreds of messages but half were creepy 50/60 year olds. The other half just wanted to have casual sex with anything right that second.
I went to a gay bar a few times with some girls friends, but it was just lots of old ugly men who wanted me as a sex toy.
I have no friends, no romantic prospects and I feel kind of lonely. Im not one to dwell or resign to a situation. I am determined to do something about it. This isn’t working, and something I’m doing is the reason it’s not working. But I don’t know where to start or to look next...
Where do you meet young, straight-acting gay guys around my age? Do they even exist?
Thanks. I know everyone’s dealing with their own stuff so cheers for taking the time to help me.