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Topic: A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members

  1. Starwolf
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    Kudos to James 1 for his brilliant (and so relevant) sea-urchin-spines- in-the foot analogy in the Not coping after disclosure thread.

    Sending a bucketful of exotic sea-shells your way...

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  2. james1
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    23 March 2017 in reply to Starwolf
    Thank you for the sea shells :) They are much nicer than sea urchins I've found. My foot is very grateful.
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  3. blondguy
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    23 March 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    A Classic Post from JessF today on another thread

    JessF Said: "No, I don't think it's a good idea to be positive all the time,sometimes
    there are good reasons to be negative. If you're facing a decision
    that affects your life and health, finances, career... big decisions,
    then a conservative outlook can be prudent. But if you're being held
    back in life, or prone to think in terms of "always" and "never" then
    it's time to start pulling those bricks out of the wall"

    Thats one hell of a intellectual & wise post.

    Spot on JessF

    Paul

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  4. white knight
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    23 March 2017 in reply to blondguy

    Yes Paul, I loved that too.

    It hit home.

    Tony WK

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  5. blondguy
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    23 March 2017 in reply to white knight

    Thanks TonyWK

    It knocked my socks off.

    I wish I had JessF's wisdom

    Her post is now in my 'Coping' folder on my desktop with quite a few of yours too

    Paul

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    24 March 2017 in reply to blondguy

    I would just like to encourage all of the new people joining this forum.

    Some of you may feel you have little to offer anyone. We never know the impact of the words and sentiments we share on the forum.

    There are too many people to mention individually. I want to encourage you all to make the most of the community here.

    To all the "Newbies" I give you all a long stemmed red rose and offer you encouragement to continue on your journey of healing.

    To those who have been here for a while I offer you a white rose, filled with scents of peace and comfort.

    Cheers all from Mrs. Dools

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  7. kanga_brumby
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    24 March 2017
    I would like to give a virtual slab to Blondguy for bring a great support.
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  8. Just Sara
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    24 March 2017 in reply to kanga_brumby

    Isn't it wonderful when people give without wanting anything in return?

    The other aspect of this thread, is gratitude. For some, receiving complements can be difficult due to low self worth, so saying 'thankyou' without question may challenge some.

    However, there's no time like the present to learn, and accept selfless giving from another as an earned and worthy gift.

    I'm sending each person who's posted on here; the giver's and the receiver's, the smell of Summer rain approaching after a period of drought.

    Blessings to all...

    Sara

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  9. Just Sara
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    Dear Kanga;

    I'd be honoured to spend time with you at a retreat to give you the company of a friend and peace you've wished for and deserve. No man is an island...

    It's also something I deserve too. There's nothing wrong with giving gifts to ourselves either.

    Sara

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  10. Wilma1
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    24 March 2017 in reply to Just Sara
    Sara, a huge bunch of daphnie for you for your fragrance all over the forums. Thankyou. Wishful
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  11. Just Sara
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    24 March 2017 in reply to Wilma1

    Thankyou so much Wishful;

    I've said it before; your wisdom and grace in so few words, is your gift of giving.

    Sara x

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  12. Jugglin Strugglin
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    24 March 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    How lucky are our young people!!! What a wonderful haven this forum is, overflowing with "hearts of gold". I’m sure we have all wondered if our lives would have been different if it had existed when we were young.

    I am absolutely full of gratitude! I have just had the pleasure of reading a thread started by a 15yo boy. Four of our BB heroes have responded relating their own life experiences and providing wise advice that has been learnt the hard way. What a precious gift these men & BB give to this boy and the thousands of others like him. How lucky they are to be able to reach out and then receive such Pearls of wisdom! I hope these blokes, and the many others like them here, are still around if my son needs some encouragement.

    I have taken a few words from each post but all the posts in their entirety are worthy of bouquets. For all of you, a bunch of golden wattle to accompany the Gold medals you all deserve.

    Blondguy Paul
    When I was 15 I remember being very self conscious too. Self doubt, low esteem too.
    Im sorry that you feel this low right now but it is temporary and will pass........especially seeing someone to help you through these times

    MarkJT
    I understand when you say that you have held back on telling the true story but a piece of advice that i can give is that at some stage, you need to take a deep breath and just let the real story rip to the GP or psych. The only way that you can be effectively treated is if they have all the information in front of them.

    BballJ Jay
    I understand you do not want to reveal how you really feel to people face to face so I suggest writing everything down, just like you did when you started this post and give it to them. That way the daunting task of saying it out loud isn't there but they still get the message. Perhaps even showing them this post of yours may help too.

    Geoff
    When you meet a partner you will fall head over heals with them, and I know that you might say this won't happen, but life works in mysterious ways.
    You know John when you can't talk to anybody it will make your life so much harder for you, it's not that you have to say everything, it's just that we want you to feel better

    WOW. My heart is bursting with pride and happiness. Good onya BB.

    Sincere Thanks, Lee!


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  13. Just Sara
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    24 March 2017 in reply to Jugglin Strugglin

    Lee...there's not much to add. Your sentiments come across loud and clear. I'm proud too...

    The gift of gratitude and acknowledgement continues...pearls indeed.

    Sara

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  14. Just Sara
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    25 March 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Just a suggestion peep's...please keep hitting those 'helpful buttons'. We can encourage, support and show our gratitude in this way too. Let people know they're heard.

    Sara x

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  15. kanga_brumby
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    A truck load of roses and two months ski trip to anywhere they wont to go full expensives. To who ever came up with BB. Because it gives so much support to all of us who so desperately need a peer group for support. Even when we go a little nuts sometimes. ( In my case a lot nuts). Oh and Sara Tack yourself in that group for being just who you are.

    Kanga

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  16. CMF
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    25 March 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Sara,

    That 'summer rain' arrived this afternoon. It was beautiful, thank you.

    cmf

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  17. Guest_322
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    26 March 2017 in reply to CMF

    A cascade of musical notes for Corny (Cornstarch)

    Everyone's stress response is very unique hence why it is so difficult to prescribe a one size fits all treatment plan. We shove patients down a hole and hope they fit into mental health systems, we do not design mental health systems for patients.

    Thank you, thank you, thank you.

    Dottie xxx

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  18. Guest_322
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    26 March 2017 in reply to CMF

    A second cascade of musical notes for Corny...

    Personally, if you've been traumatised I wouldn't rely on language alone to communicate your symptoms and experiences to doctors.

    This resonated deeply with me. Music and drawing was a huge part of my therapy.

    I think the best shrink that I've ever seen quickly recognised that some of the more traditional therapy methods weren't necessarily a good fit for me so incorporated other methods.

    I guess my point is we are all different and the hallmark of a good shrink is adaptability, and recognising the need to not treat us all as a single monolithic entity.

    Speaking of which, I was rather stingy with my single musical note to Automaton.

    Here's a cascade of musical notes for you too, Automaton. For earlier...

    Dottie x

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  19. Just Sara
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    Hi Kanga!

    Again, thankyou dear man. I feel privileged to read such wonderful comments about me; although still a little 'thingy' if you know what I mean. We're spreadin' the love...

    Dear CMF;

    I'm so glad the rain's came! Hope they stayed to drench the ground...

    Dear Dottie;

    Yes, Corny does have a way with words. The above phrases are indicative of her skill and knowledge.

    I'm loving all this...a Bouquetorama!!

    Sara x

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  20. kanga_brumby
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    27 March 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Sara if I have said something wrong I am sorry. I see you just as a friend nothing more. The type of person I am is flirtatious. I will flirt with any woman, if we had ever met you'd know. I don't mess about unless it's consensual. Again If I have upset you I'm sorry.

    Kanga

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  21. white knight
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    27 March 2017 in reply to kanga_brumby

    Hi Kanga

    I can be the same. My wife laughs at my jokes with women as she knows I mean nothing untoward about it.

    The good thing is that you explain it. That allows others to get to know you.

    It isnt always the case. Bipolar for example tends to make people steer clear instead of trying to understand us with the disorder. The former is easier. The lattet cause feelings of isolation.

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  22. Guest_322
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    27 March 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Hi Sara,

    Yes, I agree that Corny does have a way with words. Straddles what Croix calls "blunt insight" with wit and humour haha.

    And Sara?

    Here's a bouquet of musical flowers just for being you.

    💐🎵🌻🎶🌺🎵🌹🎶🌸🎵🌼🎶🌷🎵🌺🎶🌸💐🌹🎶🌼🎵🌻🎶💐🎵

    Dottie xxx

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  23. Guest_322
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    28 March 2017 in reply to white knight

    For james1 (James), a theatre of musical notes.

    So for those times when you're not posting, and feeling isolated or lonely or like no one's listening...we're listening to your absence and we know you're struggling.

    Thanks for reaching out and basically saying that you care and that you hear me.

    Dottie xxx

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  24. Just Sara
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    29 March 2017 in reply to Guest_322

    Dear Dottie;

    Thankyou for the musical bouquet...I treasure such gifts...

    James' quote is absolutely perfeck! It opitomises BB's caring community and even sounds poetic; very worthy of recognition.

    Dear Kanga;

    I'm not sure what you mean. The only word that strikes a cord is 'thingy'? I used it to express my current feelings around accepting praise. It wasn't about anything you'd written. Hope this clears things up. Btw, I'm grateful for the extra nice words you added. (Not feeling thingy either)

    Sara

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    29 March 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Excellent quote from Star76. Good on you Star for helping others with your experience!

    "I chose to stay with my psychiatrist for 12 years turning up twice a week for years. That and medication changed my life too"

    Great stuff!

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  26. Guest_322
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    30 March 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Hi Sara,

    You're most welcome and deserving of the musical bouquet.

    Dottie xxx

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  27. Jugglin Strugglin
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    30 March 2017 in reply to Guest_322

    To DearMary, White Rose,

    An never-ending bunch of beautifully fragrant, old-fashioned White Roses for our own beautiful White Rose.

    Mary, You just gave the most loving, comforting words to two of the most difficult posts I have read here. Thankyou for sharing your compassion and hard learnt knowledge and for the strength to be able to find just the right words to say. You are so selfless. Please try to be a bit selfish and look after yourself now. Lee xo

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  28. blondguy
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    31 March 2017 in reply to Jugglin Strugglin

    Kudos to Kanga for having management address his issues at his nursing home.

    You've addressed the problem and the outcome is excellent. Excellent work Kanga :-)

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  29. kanga_brumby
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    31 March 2017 in reply to blondguy
    Another slab for Paul for his support
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    31 March 2017 in reply to kanga_brumby

    StarWolf has amazing wisdom and experience, the quote below

    Both modes can't communicate, they "speak" a different language.

    is part of a much longer post that hits the nail squarely on the head.

    I guess it will have to be a bouquet of Rosa canina Star:)

    Croix

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